New life since Monday or How to change a habit?become frequent important to change in itself some habit or to bring up new. Change of a habit - one of the most difficult tasks which the person can put before himself. This procedure demands quite high level of sensibleness and assumes existence of strong motivation.
Attention! If you are going to refuse any habit, first of all you need to decide what you will change it for. The nature does not suffer emptiness. Refusal of a habit, in effect, is an acquisition new. For example, leaving off smoking, it is possible to get a habit to derive pleasure and all other effects of inhalation of clean air. So, we start studying of strategy of change of a habit.
1 step. What?
For a start accurately formulate for yourself a task and write down it. This, apparently, simple action in actual fact can be decisive for result. For example, formulation “ I want to learn English “ and “ I will study English in group 2 times a week within 2 years “ qualitatively differ from each other. Because if you will write the first formulation - and will continue “ to want “ and not the fact that from this volition there will be an action, besides - it is unclear what. The second formulation favourably differs from the first in the fact that comprises a concrete message to action. Quite so it is also necessary to formulate the intentions.
2nd step. What for?
is important to be explained accurately and extremely specifically to itself why to you to make some efforts. Let`s call this step creation of motivation . In that why to you in life to change something, important to convince not only your mind, but also your subconsciousness.
for this purpose should spend the intellectual resource here thus:
1. You will write out as much as possible motives on a sheet of paper.
2. To each point ask the question “ Why it? “ also write down the new answer.
3. Repeat procedure until there is a feeling of impossibility of obtaining the new answer. For example, you formulated the intention so: “ I Am going to control the food on such - that to system. Motives:
- to grow thin; “ Why it? “ - to be beautiful; “ Why it? “ - that men paid attention to me and little girls from work admired; “ Why it? “ - that I was respected more.
- to be healthy; “ Why it? “ - it is better to feel; “ Why it? “ - to be young longer; “ Why it? “ - I do not want to be old and helpless.
4. Concretize the last points, asking the question “ And what? “ For example: “ that I was respected more “. “ And what? “
- to me will begin to listen;
- at last the husband will cease to say to me scurrilous things and. other
5. You will write out the most important for you points from all big list of answers which at you turned out.
As a rule, the last points will be really effective. These last points are effective because our subconsciousness has logic, comparable with logic of the five-year-old child. It not in forces to understand abstract things, but perfectly understands ideas which cause strong feelings in you. Remember the child if mother speaks: “ Do not shout so loudly “ - and itself smiles, the child shouts even more loudly! Strong feelings cause supervalues in the person, and these are those points on which logical chains come to an end.
3rd step. And what I as a result will receive? Define
for yourself, how exactly you will understand that the result of your efforts is achieved. For example, the foreign language can be learned indefinitely. However you hardly need to read Shakespeare in the original. Most likely, the formulation " will be suitable for you; I will be able to talk “ for life “ with Americans “ or “ I will be able to conduct business correspondence “. Plans “ on for the rest of the life “ are good only in cases of disposal of an addiction (for example, from smoking). In all other cases put concrete terms. For example: “ I Am going to control the food on such - that to system and in 1 year I will be able to estimate results and to solve for myself whether it is necessary for me or it is worth trying something new “.
4th step. And me it will be good? (Or optimization of the decision.)
Sometimes efficiency of performance of all task substantially depends on this step. For example, you decided 2 times to study in a week English and to study it independently, at home, on Thursdays and Saturdays. Perhaps, having thought properly, you will come to a conclusion that everything to itself is better - to find the inexpensive teacher - the student from the English faculty, then it will be not so boring for you, and efficiency is higher. Do not regret on it time. Find for yourself the most comfortable way.
5th step. How exactly I will do it? Solve
for yourself where how and when you will change the habit. That is, concretize for yourself a task even more. If you, for example, are going to go in for physical culture in the mornings, imagine to yourself the usual morning. Lose in the head then you will be engaged in your exercises that you will put on what exercises you will carry out and what after physical culture you will be engaged in. You are surprised, but after such representation in advance, it will be really simpler than itself “ to force “.
6th step. And gingerbreads will be?
Encouragement - it is serious. It is necessary to award and encourage itself for efforts. For example, present how it will be good and pleasant to you after each task. Or as you will feel like the good fellow, feel deep satisfaction with. And still it is possible to eat something tasty (if, of course, you do not think to go on a diet) …
7 a step. And suddenly I once will pass?
Think over for yourself conditions of performance or non-performance of a task. Try to estimate soberly what conditions can prevent you. For example, to do physical culture the feeling sick, a sleep debt, haste, guests in the house, a hangover can prevent in the mornings. Having written such list in advance, you, thus, get rid of possible sense of guilt and discontent with. Also you will have no feeling that you are beaten out from the schedule, so, it will be easier for you to collect the strength next day.
8th step. And if appear “ excuses “? (Or work with internal objections.)
It is one of the most frequent reasons why the habit cannot be changed. As a rule, on the course of change of a habit the internal voice suddenly begins to be capricious and can even openly begin to object. For someone it will be a laziness voice, for someone - not expressed requirement, various desires. It is the best of all to prepare answers on “ excuses “ before they arise, so far the head clear and intention is fresher.
It is desirable to begin something to do in the next 24 hours after the decision made by you. If you postpone actions indefinitely, you thereby show yourself not importance of a task, and your decision can and remain at an idea stage.
Think over all steps, and you are convinced that it will be much easier to change a habit.]