How to avoid the conflicts of the teenager with teachers?Most important in life of the child who studies are not only relationship with schoolmates, but also with teachers.
How to react to remarks and marks? How to behave with the teacher not only to the child, but also parents? Most often it is necessary to face the conflicts, one party connected with misunderstanding another.
Too rigid or too loyal attitude towards pupils causes reaction of a protest because at teenage age children estimate in the teacher, first of all, human qualities. He has to understand the pupils, lead, be respectful to them etc.
the relation and to study Also changes. Study is perceived as preparation for adulthood and therefore the teacher (the main source of information), according to teenagers, has to clear, well explain material. On this soil there can be contradictions too.
Like parents, the teacher in consciousness of teenagers - possessing the power, disposing of punishments and encouragement, authoritative source of knowledge in a certain area - has to become the companion and the friend. In their opinion, the ideal teacher is a person in whom:
1. There is an ability to understanding, an emotional response; there is a geniality, i.e. in the teacher want to see the senior friend.
2. Professional competence, level of knowledge are combined with quality of teaching.
3. There is an ability to dispose fairly of the power given it.
But, naturally, all qualities are combined in one person not so often. Therefore there are conflicts. Such conflicts as it is established by psychologists, aged from 13 till 18 years are inevitable and normal. Not to do without them. The main thing that they did not outgrow in “ wars “ “ revolutions “ and that were correctly estimated.
the Most widespread conflicts
non-obedience Conflict. The teenager refuses to fulfill these or those requirements. Often such which did not cause such reaction a year ago. Refusal can be stated verbally or actions. It is connected, probably, with desire to defend the opinion - let sometimes in the ridiculous way.
Conflict of unity. The teenager arrives as it is accepted among schoolmates. He so would not behave if not fear to look “ weakling “ “ mother`s darling “ “ rag “.
Leadership conflict. The teenager sees in the competitor`s teacher in a class. He tries not to lose prestige.
Dislike conflict. Occurs when have no respect for the teacher. Know that he can be enraged. Specially arrange such situations that the teacher lost patience.
Teachers, knowing that at the age of 13 - 18 years teenagers can behave in this way, find, most often, the right solution. With it they are helped by the school psychologist and methodical literature.
If you, parents, learned about the conflict with the teacher:
do not abuse the child, learn in what business. Never discuss
with the child of shortcomings of the teacher. Explain better how it is heavy to work to it, having pointed by it that the teacher the same person, as well as all others, and can be tired and be angry.
Talk to the teacher, most likely, together it will be easier for you to find a way out.
do not start a situation. Do not wait when the flame of the conflict touches administration of school. Resolve a situation right at the beginning.
In order to avoid the conflicts and unpleasant situations, it is better to prepare for them in advance. And it is desirable to solve the problems which arose with teachers delicately and without claims.