How to learn to give and accept love? Part 2.In the first part of article we began conversation on that, prime needs of the man and woman for the relations are how various!
When as a result of efforts of the man to the woman it is good, she is grateful to him for it. Appreciation - natural response to feeling of support. Feeling appreciation of the woman, the man knows that his efforts did not go to waste, and will double them with new forces. And the respect for the partner will increase.
In the same way as the woman needs devotion of the man, he needs its admiration. To admire the man - means to look at him with delight, joyful surprise, approval and pleasure. He feels admiration of the partner when that is happily struck, having found in it some special quality or talent. It can be sense of humour, force, commitment, integrity of nature, honesty, romanticism, kindness, love, understanding and other, so-called old-fashioned virtues. Feeling admiration of the girlfriend, the man gets enough confidence faithfully to devote himself to the woman and to adore her.
At heart each man wants to be for well-loved by the hero, the knight in the sparkling armor. He is familiar the fact that it passed tests on the knight`s rank, the approval of the girlfriend demonstrating that the partner is good for it serves and it is quite satisfied with it. (You remember: to express to the man the approval not always means to agree with it.) Approval is a recognition of its acts or hope that good intentions move the partner. Getting so necessary support, it is easier for man to recognize validity of feelings of the partner.
The man usually makes a mistake, believing that so far as he satisfied all prime needs of the partner for the sphere of love once, and that feels happy and sure, now she once and for all will believe that it is loved. However it not so. To the man it is necessary to support confidence of the woman again and again.
One of prime needs of the man - encouragement from the woman. The approving behavior of the girlfriend gives it hope and incentive as expresses belief in its abilities and a strength of mind. When the partner shows to the man trust, appreciation, admiration and approval, accepts it it what it is, it inspires him on becoming whenever possible even better what, in turn, moves the partner again and again to support confidence of the woman in the love - and it is that to it just and it is necessary.]