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It is very clever, or you Will live for me, the child?

you love advertizing? I adore it, especially, if there children are involved. I am touched by the pink-checked robust fellows sleeping all night long thanks to healthy tummies and dry buttocks, raised by high-quality dairy mix (almost - almost like mother`s milk) and some green baddy from banks which even production “father“ refuses to eat. But the main thing - quiet. As accept a lung soothing for mind and obedience …

I am amused by advertizing where children in an image of classics of domestic literature promise to glorify in the future a name of the mother, for example, as … Pushkin.

Somebody knows a name of mother of Pushkin? That who not in a subject, I will tell that at Alexander Sergeyevich with mother were enough - the cool relations. What you will not tell about its relations with the nurse world famous of Arina Rodionovna, memories of which hold a specific place in works of the poet.

But to creators of advertizing on a drum such details. It is important to them to give a priming for mothers, to play on a thin string, at heart each young woman is tormented from time to time by doubts whether and good she is a mother, whether it does everything that in her forces to be good mother. And as rigid criteria of “horoshesta“ of mother do not exist, here and prompt to it from the screen: a pier, you will be good if you buy this to bank, these pampers … and further on points. And if you do not make it and you will not buy that, you will be so-so mother, on “troyechka“.

The same occurs in education. Traps “on mother“ are placed on all city in the form of private studios of early development where with 4 - x years will teach English, will help to open the most rare talents and to provide the development which is ahead of peers for fifty years ahead. Sounds invitingly.

Here mothers also try, trying to accelerate development, to bring closer what will come itself a bit later. From here and demonstration of cards with letters - figures - parallelepipeds to the newborn. And appearance of two-year-old kids in theaters at performances of the category “7+“. From here and attempts to push through in 1 - y a class a five-years period. Parents so are afraid not to manage to squeeze this world in the child!

But what motivates parents to give to the child what he did not grow to yet, placing him on Wednesday, not peculiar for it, for which he did not ripen in a number of important parameters, mental and sexual including?

I happened to study together with the sisters Knyazev, juvenile child prodigies who entered to the university. About what you talk to them, their classmates answered my question to me directly: “And what to talk to them? Here all discuss who with whom sleeps, and they do not have monthly yet! “ Can be told

with confidence that these exceptional children caused delight only in the parents and those adults who benefited by their talent, it was advertized at their expense. The senior children ignored them, and age-mates at institute were not. whether

are Wanted by mothers that their children succeeded in life? Certainly. But even more they want that their children managed what did not work well once him. It seems to them that turn back the clock, and they differently would equip the life, would be more successful in it. And they desperately try to make up for lost time at the expense of children, grabbing them as for a saving straw. Can the fact that I could not, live “for that guy“.

And if the child manages though in something to equal hopes of parents, then it is possible to catch a high from understanding of the parental steepness, one of the most pleasant kayf on light. It is to a greater or lesser extent important for all normal parents. It is such way of self-realization through the child. Just someone from adults sits at it on a needle.

And what the child should support the parent`s “drug addiction“, unfortunately, is not taken into consideration. Does not come within miles of a possibility of mother it is proud to exhale: “And mine - the excellent student!“, “Well, we it in three years were able!“ Hardly she will deeply think of the fact that her child is the person who lifted up a level of progress is so high that he should use the incredible efforts to hold it. The person without the right for a mistake.

Only listen to what can be heard at each school, in each class where excellent students are still living. “Why you did not make homework?! You are an honors pupil?!“, “You why rush? Honors pupil and there!“

Ya is convinced that healthy “middling“ has more chances to be realized in life. Not because it is correct but because we, adults, spoil everything - to descent we do not give to those children who show more good results, shows fast learning ability. We get them to work it is unceasing. I happened to see excellent students whom forced to participate in the Olympic Games in all nominations at once...

Therefore excellent students do not like to study too, and the school is for them not a smaller stress, than for other children if not big. They constantly feel on themselves a press of expectation of a good result from their work. Not always it motivates. More strains. to

to me needed a lot of time to disaccustom one girl to trace the schedule of progress in the electronic diary. She carefully watched that the curve of progress was a straight line. Only on “5“ and to a step down. It loaded the schedule of progress, having hardly managed to enter the house, standing on a chair in semi-strapped tights.

Before imprisoning the child in an iron vice of “development“, it is necessary to decide on the choice of what will serve our child as motivation to study. Fear before the falling curve progress? Or the desire to know the world better to float is quiet and confident in this sea of life?

When the child learns to swim, he can hang for hours at mother on a neck, being afraid to lower the person in water. And a year later he will jump from the boat in the sea and not really - that to take a steam bath into that account that under it 30 meters of depth. Training is the way done since that moment as you released a mother`s neck to a jump from the boat. And everyone is fated to overcome it with the speed. And therefore development should not be early at all. It has to be timely.