How to calm the small child, playing?In article are considered two more situations, difficult to parents, - how to motivate the child to speak quietly, not to shout, “to lower loudness“ and what to do that he ceased to cry.
Situation 8. You are in the public place where to shout and loudly it is forbidden to talk, but your child of it does not understand.
Why such situations when the child exceeds a sound arise? Most likely, it is connected with the fact that children do not understand force of the voice yet. At first stay on the earth they communicated with the world only by means of shout and crying, and you should not blame the child for “gromkogovoreniye“. Also children can not understand differences between tones. How to find the way allowing to force the child to lower loudness?
Psychologists offer the following receptions:
1. Play with the child game: “It is silent, normal, loud“.
Tell in a whisper: “It is a low voice“. Let will repeat the same whisper. Then tell by a usual voice: “It is a normal voice“. Let will repeat. Then tell: “And it is loud!“ Also let will repeat. Make it several times until the child understands a difference.
Other option of game: sing with the child his favourite song by a low, normal and loud voice. Perhaps, this option for the child will be more fascinating and brighter for perception.
2. Children often shout if they require attention only to own person, for example, when you speak by phone or with other interlocutor. In such a way they seek to return your attention to themselves. Never follow the tastes of the whimsical child. Explain to him with a normal voice that it has to wait or ask a little the question by a normal voice too.
3. If the child shouts, do not speak to him “Stop to shout“, but tell: “You do not need to shout, I hear you when you speak the usual tone“. Explain to the child in what situations he needs to speak quietly (for example when his brother, the sister, the grandmother etc. sleep) when - a usual voice (for example, in cafe) and when loud (for example when it needs the help).
4. If you with the child are in the public place, and he shouts and cannot calm down, play with it the game “The Best Sheptun“.
Offer it (in a whisper!) to whisper what he intends to cry out. Whose whisper will be more silent (its or your?) - that will also become a winner. Also here the request can help to draw what the child wants to tell loudly (but for this purpose you with yourself have to have felt-tip pens and an album or the handle and paper). If near at hand there are no writing means, play the game “Without Words“: the child has to ask questions, using gestures, but not words. For each dumb message he will receive 1 point, and for 10 points, for example, a sticker or some other prize.
Situation 9. Your child loudly cries and you do not know how to calm him. It is even more difficult than
, than to transfer the child from loud shout on the usual speech, there are situations when he begins to cry loudly in the middle of the street. Parents have to assess correctly a situation and take measures. The main thing here - to understand why the child suddenly began to cry? If he fell and hurt - it is one if he seeks to manipulate crying by parents is another.
Psychologists advise to attend parents to crying of the child, since 6 months. They suggest to train it in several clefs which it will be able to show, explaining that it is necessary for it. Several simple gestures not only will help the kid to tell about the needs, but also will explain to him that distinct communication will help more, than crying and whims.
Signs which need to be acquired:
It is more.
Think up the gesture to each of these words and you enter these gestures gradually at communication with the child, over time he will remember them and you will begin to take of each other the hint.
Never order to the child to cease to cry. Ask it to tell better that it is necessary for it or what he is upset with. The phrase “Tell words“ always to you will serve kind service. Explain to the child that you understand why he is upset, adduce the arguments why now you should not do that he wants. For example, he wants to walk, but you against because on the street a rain.
Remember about art of the redirection, try to switch attention of the child to other subject. For example, “Look at your cheer what doggie!“ can stop a flood of tears. If the child cries because someone took away from him a toy or cake, redirect its attention to something else.
If he cries from - for small a bruise, play the game “Punishment of Guilty“. For example, the little table is guilty of a bruise, pretend that you punish the guilty person: “Little table! As you dared to hurt my girl (boy)! You have to apologize now“. Other option of game at a bruise (falling): “You want, I will go and I will talk to the sidewalk from which you fell? “
Also psychologists are sure of efficiency of one more way of calm of the child if “to represent this accident ridiculously“: pretend what you do not see the falling reason how it happened? BOOM! Oh, and so as you fell (fell)!“ For the child there is nothing more ridiculously than the falling parent!