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Music school. Whether it is necessary to the boy?

“To my son Artem are 6 years. Now it has a special period of a growing. He quickly everything grabs and remembers. The kindergarten paid attention to abilities of the child to music and advised me to address to music school. The son successfully passed listening. I also did not suspect that he so well sings and feels a musical rhythm.

Artem absolutely without excess nervousness came to the middle of the hall of school and having turned at first to the accompanist said: “A birch, a ryabinka“, - and after the lost musical introduction started singing. It had so touching voice and smooth that many parents began to look at the opened door to learn who sings. The teacher of a piano after the first occupations with my son recommended to us to buy the tool for house trainings at once. Artem looks forward when we in the house have a piano. But at the same time me disturbs that this hobby can pass with age - occupations by music are suitable for more than girls“
. (Question to the children`s psychologist.)

What it is possible to advise parents in this situation?

The boy successfully passed listening. It obviously has musical abilities. Occupations by music give him pleasure. Perhaps, it is not simply capable to music, and is talented or gifted. It is what lies on one bowl of scales. On another - doubt that the hobby is chosen for the rest of life.

Initial interest in activity at the child is. Further a task of parents - this interest to develop and support. Each family has the system of values and beliefs. If in it there is a statement that occupations by music - for girls, then the child will acquire also it, will make the, will arrive according to it - will refuse hobby. Especially easily it can occur in case the boy meets any difficulties. However if the child becomes impregnated“ with other beliefs (for example when someone is fond of something, he is supported by all family, is proud of him and divides his interests), then this statement will become part of its own system of values. Especially effectively it can be when the child sees that mother is supported in her interest in embroidery, the father does a framework for its most beautiful works. The father is supported in his interest in tourism - mother goes hiking with it and helps to prepare equipment. And he is supported in his desire to practise music.

Even if the child at some moment will lose interest in occupations by music, unfortunately (or fortunately?) dreams and hobbies change, nothing terrible will occur, opposite, there will be a lot of useful. It will find self-confidence, skills of a public statement, an opportunity to be soul of the company (ability to sing and play a musical instrument is worth a lot), ability to be the focus of attention and many other things.

Fear of mother can have different sources.

Allegedly, the first: occupations by music demand financial investments in a qualitative musical instrument. If the child passes not all seven-year way of music school but only few years or, say, a half, will be annoyingly. So will be if the investments to consider as investment into the tool. The picture globally changes if to consider the investments as investment into the child.

Allegedly, the second: the child, practising music, will waste time which he could enclose, for example, in sport, to what as it will become clear in a couple of years, it has a true calling. Even if music is not calling of your son, occupations by it will promote its harmonious development.

Allegedly, the third: having plunged into music, the child can not find forces and time to find the true calling. And to find the calling - great happiness for the person, unfortunately, available not to much. At the same time to have a distinct idea of what is definitely not calling - too important.

Therefore if several years later Artem will decide that music - not it, it too the big benefit for it. Support hobby of the child. It anyway, at any succession of events will be useful for him and a family in general.