How to regulate behavior of the small child by means of game situations? Small children like to nonplusthe adult parents in the most, apparently, ordinary and simple situations. And sometimes we should sweat fairly over the solution of children`s problems in the sphere of behavior of the child which in reality are not such and simple. Perhaps, the councils of psychologists given in this article will help you with a game form (without nerves and tears) to softly motivate the child on right behavior.
Situation 1. You need to accustom the disobedient child to wash hands before food.
Here your main task is to make washing of hands a habit, without excess reminders of you. How to make it? You will be helped by toys of the kid. Play together with them. Tell the child “terrifying story“ about his favourite toy which did not like to wash pads before food and from - for it at it the tummy ached.
Second option of game: draw with the washed-away pencil or a marker on palms of the kid two mugs and play the game “Wash Away the Monster“. The microbe can be meant by the monster, for example. The kid will visually see that his hands before washing were dirty (on them there were microbes - mugs), and after washing - they were exempted from bad little men.
Third option of game: it is possible to include the favourite song of the kid and to argue with him whether he will manage to wash up quickly hands before its termination. Process of washing of hands will become live and cheerful and your kid quickly will join in competition (it is possible to arrange competition on the speed of washing of hands with each other if you have still children, or to compete with the kid, with the grandmother and the grandfather, etc.) . Options can be much here. You can think out game conditions.
Fourth option: buy a soft children`s towel with the image of the hero of the animated film on it or just a small animal, a birdie, for example a duck, and turn washing of hands into doll show: “Who wants to be washed up by means of Kr`s duck - Kr“?
Also you can make process of washing of hands of the child more pleasant if you grant to it an option, for example, soaps which are pleasant to it more (firm or liquid, monophonic or multi-colored etc.) water temperatures (cold or warm). Also do not forget about value of own example. If you do not wash a hand before food, your kid will never believe you that not to wash - it is boring, harmful and dangerous.
Situation 2. You need to give to the child medicine.
Children often refuse to take medicine from - for the fact that it can be bitter, the child just is afraid to accept it. Help it. Let the child himself will allow to drink the first spoon of medicine to you, show that it not so bitter and not terrible.
Provide to the child a freedom of choice - let he will solve who will give him medicine (the kind grandmother or careful mother) and than he wants to wash down medicine. Here it is possible to think up remuneration for the child: for example, if he drinks medicine, then will be able to eat something tasty (at its choice).
It is possible to play with the child the game “Superhero`s Juice“. Call medicine some attractive name, think up signs of force which will be given to the child by each medicine spoon drunk by it. The quicker and more willingly he will drink a spoon of this “juice“, the quicker will become “superhero“.
In order that medicine did not seem to the child too bitter, store it in the refrigerator. Low temperature, on supervision, “freezes“ bitter taste. It is possible to allow to wash down medicine with chocolate syrup, it also kills bitterness.
Situation 3. You need to take away the child to the children`s stomatologist.
Children often begin to cry when they understand that mother conducts them to the doctor. Especially nervous the situation becomes, so far as concerns the children`s stomatologist. Your task - in advance to prepare the child for such “unpleasant“ event in his life. If you are not able to cope with his fears the day before, then before a threshold in an office of the doctor you will be overtaken by a hysterics.
To cope with this situation, psychologists suggest to apply the following receptions:
1. Try to address that expert who is patient and tender with children, is able to distract their attention from the process of survey and treatment.
2. Do not call in the presence of the child of the doctor only “doctor“ or only “doctor“. Try to inspire in the kid that you go to the good friend, kind doctor Pyotr Petrovich who treats teeth of kids absolutely not painfully.
3. Play on the eve of a campaign to the doctor “Stomatologist“ together with toys (dolls and bears). You treat together with the child teeth of dolls and animals.
4. Explain to the child that if he is not afraid of the doctor and will allow to examine the mouth without tears, then after a meeting with the doctor you descend together with it to some interesting place (for example, in park to drive on a roundabout or in a zoo, depending on addictions of the child). Then unpleasant memoirs will be forced out from consciousness of the child by pleasant.
To remove a nervous tension at the kid while you expect an appointment, play with it game “I came to the doctor and saw...“. Game helps to switch attention of the child from internal experiences to attentive studying of the new place. Begin the phrase with words: “I came to the doctor and saw...“ - let the kid will continue your statement, calling the objects surrounding it or people. For example: “I came to the doctor and saw a cat on the picture on a wall“. You continue: “We came to the doctor and saw a cat on the picture on a wall...“ Also you add the subject: “... and a beautiful flower in a tub on a window sill“, etc. From similar game the waiting time will pass imperceptibly, and to the alarmed child game will help to calm down.
Throughout a subject we will talk about how game situations help parents with many other cases.