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One in one

the Kid was born, and together with congratulations relatives and friends bring down on you a hail of questions: “Boy or girl? How many weighs? How feels?“ And, at last, the most interesting: “To whom it is similar?“

I Look in you as in a mirror

the Psychologist Chantal Rialland claims that aspiration to find family traits in the favourite offspring - an integral part of human nature. Parents begin to draw the imagined portrait of the kid long before his birth. Watching a shot off-screen a videotape with record ultrasonography, they peer into the vague image on the screen. “Look, and it has my profile, the truth?“ - future father exults. However, there are not less disorders and guesses at all arises concerning character of the kid. “If only my daughter had a sense of humour!“ - pensively the laugher Lena sighs (she now on the fifth month of pregnancy).

During the first hours after appearance of the child on light interest in his appearance reaches apogee. The interested look finds dimples on cheeks and the long bent eyelashes (in accuracy, as in mother), “father`s“ eyes and special, “family“, the line of growth of hair. Undoubtedly, this baby - the worthy carrier of parental chromosomes. And it is not so important to whom exactly it is similar.

of Rada both, the lines inherited by the child - one more confirmation that it is a fruit of their love. “Our son - reflection us two, - Svetlana says. - He inherited from me swarty skin and brown eyes, but it is madly pleasant to me when the mother-in-law says that Anton everything is - the poured-out father“.

As for fathers, they, as a rule, take great pleasure from similarity of the child to the beloved. It is some kind of new view regarding adoration!“ Looking at Anyuta, my husband says that he represents me the little girl“, - Katerina laughs.

Neither in mother, nor in the father...

But happens and so that the kid is not similar to parents at all. Of course, at big desire in it it is possible to find which - what familiar lines borrowed mainly from distant relatives. But also they are so mixed that mother with the father are inclined to regard appearance of the child as an annoying freak of nature. The unsatisfied narcissism poisons with it pleasure of communication with the kid and over the years only amplifies, bringing still big pain and offense.

Fuel to the fire is added by relatives, friends and neighbors. “My senior boy is similar to me so a little that the neigbour told once: “If I did not see you the pregnant woman, would never believe that it is your son!“ I could not forgive it this remark for many years“, - Katya tells. “When grandmothers for the first time saw little Ella, they chorus exclaimed:“ Well, this not went to ours - neither fish nor fowl!“ I was ready to vanish into thin air“, - Anna remembers.

the Child can suffer from

for years from offense and awkwardness too for the fact that it appeared not as all. “I had misfortune to be born the smuglokozhy brunette in family of blue-eyed blondes. Relatives and friends of the family considered me as real “black sheep“. Passed through all my childhood a refrain the “encouraging“ phrases: “My God, and it at you who? Foundling?“ I constantly felt the stranger among the... “-Polina admits. However, analyzing backdating the childhood, she does not condemn relatives: eventually I helped it to find a complex of “ugly duckling“ own.“ From year to year I gradually got used to the originality and was already able to use the teenager it enough dexterously. In effect, it also created me as the personality: I understood that my opportunities are not limited to family traditions and a social origin. Today I know well from where I came and where I go, any roads are opened for me“.

the Exemplary child

to Children, doubles of the parents, sometimes is necessary at all not easier, than that who was born “neither in mother, nor in the father“. Obvious similarity flatters vanity of seniors who - it is free or involuntarily - push the kid to becoming the exact copy of “original“.“ The child imitates model to which he is constantly compared, but at all not because it gives it big joy. He wants to deserve love of parents and for the sake of it is ready to adapt to the sample elected by them“, - the psychologist warns.

In other words, it is not necessary to remind the kid of his exclusive similarity to mother or the cousin constantly. However, to ignore this genetic phenomenon also difficult - especially if thanks to common features you feel unusually close connection with the child. “It is much simpler to understand the little fidget if itself was once same bright“, - Svetlana considers. Sounds logically, but take care: from here only one step before full substitution of character and desires of the child own!“ It is equally important to person to resemble others and to feel the identity. These aspirations are inconsistent, but only it is so possible to reach internal balance“, - Chantal Rialland says.

Theatre of a mimicry and gesture


as heredity plays leapfrog with generations, we only make a helpless gesture. On closer examination it turns out that the child, as like as two peas on mother, possesses dozen more of family lines borrowed from great-grandfathers, second cousins, aunts and other distant relatives. Pleasing, concerning, and at times and irritating, they are similar to the sacral language which hardly is giving in to interpretation. “I often notice the grandmother`s mimicry at Yana though the girl never knew it“, - Christina is surprised. “We have with mother an identical timbre of a voice - as well as at little Stanislav though in all the rest it is not similar to us at all“, - Alla tells.“ Alas, together with appearance children inherited dreadful sluggishness of my sisters and the father!“ - assures Alexander.

“The first months Gosha was very similar

to me. Then on the father, then - on the great-grandmother. Once I was shocked with similarity of the son to my second cousin! And recently, sorting old photos, I found out that Gosha - the copy of the uncle at the same age (by the way, the uncle, my brother, claims that his beloved nephew is most of all similar to the grandfather)...“

Unlike appearance, the mimicry, gestures, intonations and a manner to laugh almost do not change. Externally brothers can seem absolutely different, but once he starts talking, and their belonging to family clan becomes obvious even for the casual witness. Over time these characteristic strokes of which there is family “a trade Mark“ appear more and more distinctly. And quite often thanks to them even adopted children seem the exact copy of the senior members of the new family. Anything surprising! If the kid is surrounded by love and care, parents are for him the most desired object for imitation. whether

About advantage of dissimilarity

Can succeed on an opera scene, being Maria Callas`s sister? Hardly. The name of the sister of the great star, too singers, is known to nobody... Usually the child himself imitates the senior brother or the little sister. If children are similar also externally, their belonging to one “clan“ is visible with the naked eye on pleasure to his adult representatives. However the aspiration encouraged by seniors to full similarity prevents identity formation. The girl who at teenage age endlessly was compared to the sister for certain will choose the opposite scenario of behavior - only this way she will be able to find own I.


the Genetic lottery
Scientists claim that a human look - “the car on production of distinctions“. The exception is made only by one-egg twins possessing an identical genotype. All others participate in well organized lottery with unpredictable result. And if some lines pass from father to son according to accurate rules, then the mechanism of inheritance of others remains secret behind seven seals. Doctor Dzheysek Gronvald, the obstetrician - the gynecologist and the researcher - the geneticist comments.
Each ovum and each spermatozoon bear in themselves a unique combination from 23 chromosomes. At the time of conception parental chromosomes in a random way unite in couples, forming a unique genetic code (genotype) of future person. whether
Will be the kid...... blue-eyed blonde, how mother?
Everything depends on father`s chromosomes! The fruit of love of the blonde and brunette has chance to inherit a fair hair and blue eyes only provided that among fatherly ancestors there were blondes too. In other words, the genes which are responsible for this sign have to proceed from both parents at once is an indispensable condition for all recessive signs. But for signs prepotent (brown eyes, dark hair) it is enough that such information only one (not very well, father`s or mother`s) bore a set of chromosomes.
Blue + blue = blue.
Blue + brown = brown.
Brown + brown = brown.
. high, how father?
the Genes which are responsible for color of eyes or a blood type always take strictly certain place therefore these signs can “wander“ from generation to generation in a chromosome. And here growth and weight are signs “polygenetic“ - they depend not on a concrete gene, and on their combination. If at one of parents excess weight, at the child the probability to face a similar problem increases. But only theoretically. A considerable role is played by a way of life so in this case to build forecasts - a thankless job.
... the mathematician, in the grandfather?
Knows that some types of intellectual backwardness and mental diseases (for example, Alzheimer`s disease) have a genetic origin. So why it is impossible to descend outstanding mental abilities? It is possible to assume that at the genetic level really there is a predisposition to so-called mathematical mentality. And still scientific proofs of this hypothesis it is not found yet.
... it is weak health how the sister?
Scientists consider that predisposition to some diseases (allergies, schizophrenia, a depression and tobacco dependence) can be inherited. At brothers and sisters 25 - 75% of genes therefore the probability that the general diseases will be found in them, is rather high coincide.
... cheerful, how mother?
A few years ago scientists found “an aggression gene“ in mice. Opening gave the soil for heated arguments regarding existence of “character genes“. However to allocate the genes which are responsible for concrete lines of behavior, scientists did not manage yet. And it will hardly be possible in the future: supervision over two one-egg twins separated right after the birth showed what, despite an identical genotype, in their characters was very little general. Most likely, in this case the major role is played not by(with) heredity, but an environment and education.


the Worthy example
Still genetic factors influencing mental and creative abilities remain a riddle, scientists try to find others, psychological, the reasons of existence of professional and artistic dynasties. Georges Augustin investigating this problem on the example of families of professional musicians claims that two conditions are necessary for continuity of generations. In - the first, “gift“ is transferred in a type of a prediction - parting words:“ This child has a fine feeling of a rhythm! From it the gifted musician surely will turn out“. In - the second, the child who is already aimed at a career of an actor finds in the environment a role model - the relative endowed in the same place with talent. So remind
to the child more often that it by inheritance from the grandfather got phenomenal ear for music. In this case your chances to grow up the child prodigy who in ten years will masterly play a violin repeatedly increase.