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, your child, fortunately, has neither enuresis, nor stutter, he does not gnaw nails on hands, but for some reason all - communication with it does not give you pleasure, it seems a burden rather. You do not wish to drive it with yourself on a visit and once again are afraid to remove to the yard, and about preschool institution out of the question. It - is uncontrollable and stirred up, and, above all - is unpredictable in anything.

Here it as the whirlwind, rushes on rooms, is enough a thing and throws them. Shouts, orders and demands impracticable. And suddenly calmed down and somewhere hid. But it is unknown what will follow it. Here it climbed under a table, having taken away something. All shivers with horror and fear, and it is unclear to you what the fear is connected with. And here busily all the time raises a hand as though salutes someone. And here he rechecks something and repeats the actions as ritual. Also you do not learn from it why. Try only it ask.

Slightly that not so, it begins to cry at once, falls into rage, without being able to constrain the anger, and can even threaten on you. Then departs, it seems quiet, and you again tensely wait for something, without understanding what happens to it: it is sick or it has a bad temper. And at the same time all consider around that it is nervous. But unless there can be a kid nervous at this age? What cares at it? And what actually means the word “nervous“?

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As a rule, most often under this word covers concept rather household, than medical. In customary sense “nervous“ is almost uncontrollable and irritable child who is not able and does not want to be self-controlled. But the term “nervous“ - inconcrete, collective. Therefore when we speak about the nervous kid, in each case so-called nervousness has the most various basis. We call children “nervous“ when they are pedagogically started when they have a character accentuation, a neuropathy and neurosises when they have organic changes in any of cerebral hemispheres, and we very often do not even guess them.

So, for example, the child with damages of frontal lobes of a brain does not give in to education in any way. You reproach him, reprimand, and he, without noticing it, quietly continues all to shock with the tricks and pugnacity, untidiness and silliness. It cannot practically inspire bashfulness and to explain that sense of proportion means. And all your pedagogical methods - as “voice crying in the wilderness“. Such child just is in a different way not able to behave. Therefore when the kid is uncontrollable, it is necessary to show urgently him to the doctor to specify the reasons of deviations in behavior of the child.

, really, children are Usually nervous to congenital children`s nervousness - a neuropathy. It is much more such children, than we assume though it is already possible to predict the child`s birth with children`s nervousness on a number of the signs which are available for the pregnant woman before childbirth. And after the delivery it is even easier to expose the diagnosis. Check whether your child does not have it.

the Child with children`s nervousness usually much more vozbudimy age-mates. On the first year of life the kid all the time sensitively sleeps and badly transfers noise, does not want to eat and often belches. In process of growth and development of the child of a problem of a dream and appetite accrue. In three years at it not only the night sleep, but also day when he just does not wish to sleep is, as a rule, interrupted. Its feeding - total torment. It very much pereborchiv in food, is also not present practically products which would stimulate his appetite. Such child is often angry and stirred up. Concentrates with great difficulty, but for a while. Any trifle distracts it, and restlessness and fussiness lead to the mass of unnecessary actions. Other extreme when the child with congenital nervousness is closed all the time, accumulating everything in itself. However, on whatever “extreme“ the neuropathy at the child proceeded, you should remember that such kid is usually very emotional, instantly overtires and is inclined to concern. Therefore all your complaints only cause in it offense.

At change of weather, in the stuffy room, during quarrel, at nervousness such kid can usually complain of a headache, of heartaches and belly-ache. And he really feels these pains. In general, the kid with congenital children`s nervousness is ill more often than his age-mates. It is weak, it has a lowered reactivity of an organism and the changed metabolism.

I all - when, bringing up the kid with congenital children`s nervousness, you consider his features and identity, hope for the good end result. Over time all symptoms will disappear. The neuropathy is not an illness but only the soil for a disease. But this soil - the best chernozem for neurotic reactions and neurosises.

Neurosises are those diseases which affect many aspects of the identity of the child. At preschool age the neurasthenia, fear neurosis, hysterical neurosis, neurosis of persuasive states most often meet. Any of the listed neurosises has a number of the features. But the main thing that unites them, - tension of nervous system, excessive on force or duration, against or after a mental shock, against or after sharp and chronic mental injuries and the conflicts. And for the child any situation can be traumatic.

Usually each of neurosises has the central internal conflict interfering to express itself. You will promote development of a neurasthenia in own kid, all the time imposing on it requirements which are not corresponding to opportunities it only the formed mentality. When you very often frighten the child, and he really is afraid you of the given-up threats, considering that it will not be able to protect itself(himself), remember - on this background fear neurosis can develop sooner or later. When the kid dreams to combine incompatible desires and feelings, and you indulge it, you accelerate development of neurosis of persuasive states. When you give attention to the child a little, and he strives for your caress and love, at any cost trying to remind you of himself - you provoke hysterical neurosis. In general, usually in the early childhood it is difficult to delimit neurosises accurately from each other, and we, as a rule, deal with the uniform term “neurosis“.

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all the time, it is hyperactive, angry, angered or, on the contrary, it is constantly sluggish and apathetic, excessively hypochondriac, disturbing and tearful, suppressed, - do not pass at it neurosis and try to consult in due time at the doctor. Perhaps, your education, especially your look on happens the main reason of neurosis it “is possible“ and it “is impossible“.

it is frequent situationally caused nervousness occurs at children. The reasons her most various, but it is not an illness. The kid situationally nervous during crisis of obstinacy, proving to all “I“. The kid situationally nervous when in a family he is only the only child, and the loving mother with the father, and also grandmothers and grandfathers not in forces to divide it, literally “tear to parts“ the Child can become suddenly nervous when in a family suddenly there is a baby to whom your firstborn tests jealousy or when the stepfather with whom the kid “fights“ for mother comes to a family.

Situationally caused nervousness practically occurs at all children in a family in which parents divorced recently or when divorce is about to happen only. Situationally caused nervousness... As many situations provoke it. Practically it is difficult to count them. And all - all these situations in some degree, and sometimes and completely depend or depended on you.

From this nervousness only a step to neurosis which can “cripple“ the kid and to be his fellow traveler all life.

So, you see, there is a lot of forms of children`s nervousness: congenital, acquired. And still, when the speech about nervous children comes, reflect what you are guilty of and why such child appeared not where - nibud, namely at you. Remember, the nervous child has usually nervous parents, and he imitates only style of behavior in a family.

As parents with the “nervous“ child should behave:

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As parents with the “nervous“ child should not behave:

Why children are “nervous“?

As parents that the child was not nervous should behave:

long before the birth to see to it with
  • with strong about its health.
  • to Refuse addictions and to adjust a healthy lifestyle.
  • to be preserved by
  • against infections and to observe all anti-infectious actions.
  • it is constant to li to be under supervision in a maternity welfare unit.
  • to Avoid emotional overloads and psychological injuries.
  • to Discharge a conflict situation in a family.
  • From the first days of pregnancy to think of the child in solar tones, to wait for it as the biggest pleasure in life.
  • to Complete a psychoprevention course before childbirth, to warn a patrimonial stress.
  • From the very first days of life of the child to create to it mental comfort.
  • not to be irritated, stock up with
  • with patience. All the time to remember that you - an example for imitation.
  • to Find all adult uniform educational approach.
  • not to overestimate a possibility of the child and not to inspire in it that it is unique.
  • not to humiliate the dignity of the child with the methods of punishment At all.
  • Always to be with it benevolent and tactful.
  • everything to do
  • At appearance of the newborn in a family so that the kid did not feel unnecessary.
  • to Try to avoid divorce and to keep a family.
  • your Child should not be “tool“ in fight with each other. It - not the judge in the conflicts.
  • Preserve the kid against injuries and against the diseases influencing generally nervous system.
  • Pay an attention maximum to the child who just had something.
  • Temper
  • the kid and train him nervous system.

As parents with the nervous child should not behave:

  • not to care about health of future child.
  • to Take alcoholic drinks and to smoke during pregnancy.
  • not to observe anti-infectious actions.
  • throughout pregnancy to think of not been born child, as of future burden.
  • to Create and be an active participant of conflict situations.
  • not to care for psychoprevention of childbirth.
  • to Bring up the child by the methods leading to mental discomfort. To clash in the presence of the child.
  • to Use it as means of fight between spouses. “To divide“ between the parents wishing to disperse.
  • At appearance of the newborn in a family to deprive of the child of former love and caress.
  • not to pay attention to injuries and diseases of the kid.
  • not to temper and not to train specially him nervous system.