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, your child, fortunately, has neither enuresis, nor stutter, he does not gnaw nails on hands, but for some reason all - communication with it does not give you pleasure, it seems a burden rather. You do not wish to drive it with yourself on a visit and once again are afraid to remove to the yard, and about preschool institution out of the question. It - is uncontrollable and stirred up, and, above all - is unpredictable in anything.
Here it as the whirlwind, rushes on rooms, is enough a thing and throws them. Shouts, orders and demands impracticable. And suddenly calmed down and somewhere hid. But it is unknown what will follow it. Here it climbed under a table, having taken away something. All shivers with horror and fear, and it is unclear to you what the fear is connected with. And here busily all the time raises a hand as though salutes someone. And here he rechecks something and repeats the actions as ritual. Also you do not learn from it why. Try only it ask.
Slightly that not so, it begins to cry at once, falls into rage, without being able to constrain the anger, and can even threaten on you. Then departs, it seems quiet, and you again tensely wait for something, without understanding what happens to it: it is sick or it has a bad temper. And at the same time all consider around that it is nervous. But unless there can be a kid nervous at this age? What cares at it? And what actually means the word “nervous“?with
As a rule, most often under this word covers concept rather household, than medical. In customary sense “nervous“ is almost uncontrollable and irritable child who is not able and does not want to be self-controlled. But the term “nervous“ - inconcrete, collective. Therefore when we speak about the nervous kid, in each case so-called nervousness has the most various basis. We call children “nervous“ when they are pedagogically started when they have a character accentuation, a neuropathy and neurosises when they have organic changes in any of cerebral hemispheres, and we very often do not even guess them.
So, for example, the child with damages of frontal lobes of a brain does not give in to education in any way. You reproach him, reprimand, and he, without noticing it, quietly continues all to shock with the tricks and pugnacity, untidiness and silliness. It cannot practically inspire bashfulness and to explain that sense of proportion means. And all your pedagogical methods - as “voice crying in the wilderness“. Such child just is in a different way not able to behave. Therefore when the kid is uncontrollable, it is necessary to show urgently him to the doctor to specify the reasons of deviations in behavior of the child.
, really, children are Usually nervous to congenital children`s nervousness - a neuropathy. It is much more such children, than we assume though it is already possible to predict the child`s birth with children`s nervousness on a number of the signs which are available for the pregnant woman before childbirth. And after the delivery it is even easier to expose the diagnosis. Check whether your child does not have it.
the Child with children`s nervousness usually much more vozbudimy age-mates. On the first year of life the kid all the time sensitively sleeps and badly transfers noise, does not want to eat and often belches. In process of growth and development of the child of a problem of a dream and appetite accrue. In three years at it not only the night sleep, but also day when he just does not wish to sleep is, as a rule, interrupted. Its feeding - total torment. It very much pereborchiv in food, is also not present practically products which would stimulate his appetite. Such child is often angry and stirred up. Concentrates with great difficulty, but for a while. Any trifle distracts it, and restlessness and fussiness lead to the mass of unnecessary actions. Other extreme when the child with congenital nervousness is closed all the time, accumulating everything in itself. However, on whatever “extreme“ the neuropathy at the child proceeded, you should remember that such kid is usually very emotional, instantly overtires and is inclined to concern. Therefore all your complaints only cause in it offense.
At change of weather, in the stuffy room, during quarrel, at nervousness such kid can usually complain of a headache, of heartaches and belly-ache. And he really feels these pains. In general, the kid with congenital children`s nervousness is ill more often than his age-mates. It is weak, it has a lowered reactivity of an organism and the changed metabolism.
I all - when, bringing up the kid with congenital children`s nervousness, you consider his features and identity, hope for the good end result. Over time all symptoms will disappear. The neuropathy is not an illness but only the soil for a disease. But this soil - the best chernozem for neurotic reactions and neurosises.
Neurosises are those diseases which affect many aspects of the identity of the child. At preschool age the neurasthenia, fear neurosis, hysterical neurosis, neurosis of persuasive states most often meet. Any of the listed neurosises has a number of the features. But the main thing that unites them, - tension of nervous system, excessive on force or duration, against or after a mental shock, against or after sharp and chronic mental injuries and the conflicts. And for the child any situation can be traumatic.
Usually each of neurosises has the central internal conflict interfering to express itself. You will promote development of a neurasthenia in own kid, all the time imposing on it requirements which are not corresponding to opportunities it only the formed mentality. When you very often frighten the child, and he really is afraid you of the given-up threats, considering that it will not be able to protect itself(himself), remember - on this background fear neurosis can develop sooner or later. When the kid dreams to combine incompatible desires and feelings, and you indulge it, you accelerate development of neurosis of persuasive states. When you give attention to the child a little, and he strives for your caress and love, at any cost trying to remind you of himself - you provoke hysterical neurosis. In general, usually in the early childhood it is difficult to delimit neurosises accurately from each other, and we, as a rule, deal with the uniform term “neurosis“.When your child we will excite
all the time, it is hyperactive, angry, angered or, on the contrary, it is constantly sluggish and apathetic, excessively hypochondriac, disturbing and tearful, suppressed, - do not pass at it neurosis and try to consult in due time at the doctor. Perhaps, your education, especially your look on happens the main reason of neurosis it “is possible“ and it “is impossible“.
it is frequent situationally caused nervousness occurs at children. The reasons her most various, but it is not an illness. The kid situationally nervous during crisis of obstinacy, proving to all “I“. The kid situationally nervous when in a family he is only the only child, and the loving mother with the father, and also grandmothers and grandfathers not in forces to divide it, literally “tear to parts“ the Child can become suddenly nervous when in a family suddenly there is a baby to whom your firstborn tests jealousy or when the stepfather with whom the kid “fights“ for mother comes to a family.
Situationally caused nervousness practically occurs at all children in a family in which parents divorced recently or when divorce is about to happen only. Situationally caused nervousness... As many situations provoke it. Practically it is difficult to count them. And all - all these situations in some degree, and sometimes and completely depend or depended on you.
From this nervousness only a step to neurosis which can “cripple“ the kid and to be his fellow traveler all life.
So, you see, there is a lot of forms of children`s nervousness: congenital, acquired. And still, when the speech about nervous children comes, reflect what you are guilty of and why such child appeared not where - nibud, namely at you. Remember, the nervous child has usually nervous parents, and he imitates only style of behavior in a family.
As parents with the “nervous“ child should behave:to Find
- the reasons of nervousness and to try to smooth them.
- to Reconsider style of the relations in a family and not to divide love of the child between relatives. Not to force it to love all equally.
- to Think whether there is a good reason for divorce and whether so divorce is necessary for you. How to make that the kid was not the victim. to Find
- all cracks in the relationship with the child.
- not to wound its dignity and vanity. Not to operate the child as if the robot. not to demand
- from the kid impracticable. Beforehand to train for
- him for emergence in the newborn`s family. Not to kindle in it jealousy of other children.
- to Understand the child and to try to estimate a bad act from his position.
- to Help it during crisis of three years.
- “to Bring up“ it alone, not to abuse infinite it “is impossible“ and it “is possible“.
- to Hide the nervousness in depth and not to roll up to it or at it a hysterics.
- to Try not to show the fear. to Temper
- . All the time to implement recommendations of the doctor.
As parents with the “nervous“ child should not behave:
- Specially to cultivate the reasons of “nervousness“.
- to Try to irritate and “load“ the child with the methods of education, the it “is possible“ and it “is impossible“.
- to wound its dignity All the time, to operate the child as if the robot.
- to Try to kindle the conflict in a family, to seek for causeless divorce and to draw the child as a rope, - from mother to the father and vice versa.
- to Try to divide love of the child into all family equally, jealously observing it. to demand
- from the kid impracticable All the time. to Emphasize with
- the love to the newborn and to cause specially in the child jealousy of other children in a family.
- to Eradicate his obstinacy during crisis of three years.
- to be excited, angry and angry, communicating with the child.
- to Roll up to it hysterics, to be frightened on his eyes.
- to Promote development of neurosis.
- not to observe the recommendation of the doctor.
Why children are “nervous“?
- Accusing the child of excessive nervousness, reflect for a minute: whether there is no your fault in it? And if is, so in what it consists and whether really you are guilty? > It is very difficult for li to answer
- : really or not, in the true sense of the word, but in advance, beforehand till the birth of the kid, you could already expect his future “nervous“ character and try any opportunities to prevent this “nervousness“. So very heavy responsibility is conferred on the pregnant woman.
- of Any future mother the fruit needs to create special “comfort“, to ensure its safety, to protect the kid who let was not born yet, but seeking to live. And for this purpose it is necessary to offer much, to renounce the desires, to refuse old habits and views, to change a way of life. Any future mother should make everything - all depending on her that various harm did not influence nervous system of a fruit vnutriutrobno. Well, and harm is a smoking, alcoholism, even a small draft of champagne - poison. All infections transferred to pregnancy time, beginning from a SARS and to the most dangerous, is threat and risk of damage of nervous system of a fruit too. The stopped abortion, a Rhesus factor - incompatibility, reception of different medicines...
- In a word, future child is trapped continually by dangers. Is such which can be prevented because they operated. Among them the conflicts in a family most injure the woman. All conflicts - as mines of the slowed-down action for the pregnant woman! They - the main source of its mental discomfort. And the mental discomfort is reflected even in blood indicators, and not only the pregnant woman, but also a fruit that will respond further when the fruit already becomes the child. to
- When future mother does not need the kid when he who was not born, already unwanted and all thoughts of the pregnant woman of the kid as about a terrible burden in its private life, the child, having been born, the wild temper as if revenges all for it and will - bondage forces that you gave it even if there is no wish, it is a lot of attention.
- also the emotional stress which had by the pregnant woman during examination, offsets and the conflicts at work, life costs can be the Cause of “nervousness“ of the child... To put it briefly, any situation which is followed by nervousness.
- the Stress can be not only at the pregnant woman, but also at the woman in labor. It weakens patrimonial activity, tightens childbirth and causes oxygen starvation of a fruit. Therefore any patrimonial trauma, prompt childbirth, symptoms of prematurity and a perenoshennost can be reflected further in behavior of the child. When pregnancy and childbirth took place
- safely, all inflammatory and mechanical injuries of a brain can “nevrotizirovat“ the child. Any acute disease is capable of some term to leave a mark on mentality of the child, especially chronic. When the kid as though without the reason is whimsical, examine him. The reasons can be various: from adenoides and to worms.
- However will most of all wound mentality of children of a condition of their life, that microclimate that you create. It is difficult for child to take out when he “tropical“, “sharply continental“, and you, as if a magic wand, juggle with education, and your end result quite often gets “bad shot“. not to count
- of All educational mistakes. Also mother is most often guilty. The kid all the time imitates it, trying to resemble it. Therefore when it is whimsical - it is whimsical, it is angry - it is angry, it is selfish - it is selfish. Well, in the house her double, the copy from the original - the kid with the same temper and character appears. Not without reason speak:“ Nervous mother has a nervous child“. Nevrotiziruyet`s
- of the child variety of reasons: it is very often uneasy when it does not fill up when the whole day passes it in watching television when he listens to gruesome stories and fairy tales when he visits where it is very noisy or is populous. The uncontrollable child often is also in such family where “cross swords“ two generations: fathers and children, his parents and their parents. Usually in these families all “is broken a spear“ to prove how it is correct to bring up the child. And if mother claims it “is possible“, then the grandmother goes on in reply it “is impossible“. The kid in confusion to whom to trust, preferring those who speak it “is possible“. And you, indulging desires of the child, hardly you know that it strongly weakens processes of his braking, being followed by a number of neurotic reactions. to
- to Such reactions it is subject as well the child whom you “tame“ a belt. Any “physical“ kind of punishment is followed by reaction of a protest. All spoiled children are whimsical
- too, especially when they are praised without limit, inspiring that they - are unique. The high self-assessment leads them often to conflict situations. Such kid cannot adapt to a garden. In a circle of the age-mates its originality is not visible. But it often lags behind them in many skills of development: cannot put on, make a bed, does not know how to lace up boots. All this causes complaints, sneers. In children`s collective tough laws. The kid does not want to reconcile with it and... protests.
- its reaction of a protest reaches apogee when in a family the newborn suddenly appears, and mother with the father give all preferences to it. Unexpected, unforeseen stroke of bad luck. It was betrayed... Betrayed for the sake of a neumeyka - the silly little chap who understands nothing but only he day and night shouts and cries. And to remind of itself, being jealous, your child makes rows, and such to which it is necessary to pay attention. And you now involuntarily should remember that in the house there is one more kid, quite clever, the kid - the assistant on whom it is possible to rely. So, perhaps, there is nothing and to think which of two is worthy preferences.
- of a SI Morelny, than the birth of the baby, injures the child, doing uncontrollable, disintegration of a family. Are necessary for it as well as mother, and the father. He loves both of them at once. Leaving someone from them from the house - the intolerable tragedy. A little earlier he involuntarily witnessed the conflicts, their participant and the judge. All this deeply sank down in soul. It became as if electrified and on the slightest trifles is capable to be discharged. Nevrotiziruyet`s
- of the child it is frequent also the birth fact in a family where there is no father, especially when he grows up and begins to understand it. Grant
- as the sunflower tries to keep step with the sun, so your child - behind love to you. And suddenly once it involuntarily opens that mother with the father give it attention more when he makes something not as it is accepted around. When he behaves “as it is necessary“, all of them time are busy by themselves, the urgent matters, and he, likely, then is not necessary to them. But with it he does not want to reconcile. Also works... at any cost defending the “I“. And we guess why the child nervous.
As parents that the child was not nervous should behave: >long before the birth to see to it with
- with strong about its health.
- to Refuse addictions and to adjust a healthy lifestyle. to be preserved by
- against infections and to observe all anti-infectious actions. >
- it is constant to li to be under supervision in a maternity welfare unit.
- to Avoid emotional overloads and psychological injuries.
- to Discharge a conflict situation in a family.
- From the first days of pregnancy to think of the child in solar tones, to wait for it as the biggest pleasure in life.
- to Complete a psychoprevention course before childbirth, to warn a patrimonial stress.
- From the very first days of life of the child to create to it mental comfort. not to be irritated, stock up with
- with patience. All the time to remember that you - an example for imitation.
- to Find all adult uniform educational approach.
- not to overestimate a possibility of the child and not to inspire in it that it is unique.
- not to humiliate the dignity of the child with the methods of punishment At all.
- Always to be with it benevolent and tactful. everything to do
- At appearance of the newborn in a family so that the kid did not feel unnecessary.
- to Try to avoid divorce and to keep a family.
- your Child should not be “tool“ in fight with each other. It - not the judge in the conflicts.
- Preserve the kid against injuries and against the diseases influencing generally nervous system.
- Pay an attention maximum to the child who just had something. Temper
- the kid and train him nervous system.
As parents with the nervous child should not behave:
- not to care about health of future child.
- to Take alcoholic drinks and to smoke during pregnancy.
- not to observe anti-infectious actions.
- throughout pregnancy to think of not been born child, as of future burden.
- to Create and be an active participant of conflict situations.
- not to care for psychoprevention of childbirth.
- to Bring up the child by the methods leading to mental discomfort. To clash in the presence of the child.
- to Use it as means of fight between spouses. “To divide“ between the parents wishing to disperse.
- At appearance of the newborn in a family to deprive of the child of former love and caress.
- not to pay attention to injuries and diseases of the kid.
- not to temper and not to train specially him nervous system.