At the choice of toys the main thing - to learn to resist to a seductive store variety and not to make chaotic purchases. In order that the nursery did not turn into a warehouse of unnecessary things, it is worth belonging to acquisition of “children`s pleasures“ with all possible gravity.
So, you came for a gift in children`s shop: eyes run up, hands involuntarily reach for a purse, and already the fancy speaking sphere with legs moves from the shelf to your bag. All morning the gifted offspring embraces this freak and drags it for itself on the apartment. By the evening, however, the delight passes, and the sphere goes to become dusty to a far corner of the nursery. Familiar history? Are sure that the kid quickly loses interest in new things because it is incredibly spoiled by toys? If you are also right, then only partly. The main reason is that parents regularly make a system mistake, buying by kids new “razvlekalka“ under the influence of this or that impulse: “Cool“, “Very much it is pleasant to me“ and so on. Actually it is necessary to choose a toy in the same way as, say, boots or a jacket. In what weather you will carry them? With what? Where? Try to ask yourself similar questions, facing the counter filled with bears - machines - dolls.
Developing, and so, and the user effect of a toy is directly connected with its game and training opportunities. “How the child will play with this truck? whether“ and “It is possible to make so that its interest lasted for a long time?“ - answers to these simple questions will allow you to avoid not only excess expenditure, but also blockages of unnecessary toys in a nursery.Observance of balance
Children`s vigorous activity psychologists very conditionally divide
into two parts - “development of meanings and laws of the human relations“ and “interaction with objects“. In the same way - toys also are divided into two groups-. Bears, dolls, thematic sets, carnival costumes and various large-size cars by which it is possible to transport cubes from point A in point B treat the first group. That is to this “a game zone“ objects which anyway can promote personal and emotional development of the kid get. The second group includes the toys which are responsible for realization of mental abilities of the child: designers, pyramids, cubes, a lotto, children`s dominoes and various puzzles with mosaics.
also the third group which is responsible for physical development of the child, but a prygalka, an abuse Is - the hupa and balls entering it in language of psychologists are called “exercise machines“ therefore have the mediated relation to the real toys.Should know
the Most serious complaint experts from “Society on consumer protection“ make to the Chinese production. Toxic dyes, the uneven, scratching edges, an asymmetrical arrangement of details and low wear resistance - here not the full list of the shortcomings found in production with marking of “Made in China“. The low-quality toy threatens the child with poisonings and injuries. Objects with the increased content of formaldehyde - substance which can cause a terrible allergic attack in the child are especially dangerous. Before purchase of electric toys surely check whether the rules of voltage are respected - the Chinese goods quite often sin with their violation.
a nursery, try to make so that in it in equal shares representatives of each group were located. That is, if your child above all loves machines, do not follow blindly his tastes. Instead of the next collection masterpiece on wheels buy it a car better - the designer: at first it will assemble the tractor, and will roll then it in the pleasure.
It is unconditional, the main condition of successful and long communication of the kid with a toy is its convenience. If screws twist hardly, the car does not go forward, and the hairpin does not keep on doll hair, then the child cannot just perform the operations demanded by this concrete subject.By the way
Huge teddy bears, dogs and hares whom grandmothers so like to give to our children do not bring any benefit to
Surely listen to children`s requests: not always they - a whim. Our kids have thought over, and sometimes also gained decisions. Let it seems that the toy chosen by the child - foolish, but you not for yourself buy it and not to you then to play it. Besides, children have not only parental, but also own priorities:“ I want the soldier as at Petya “or“ oh, I so love the Cinderella, mother, buy me this carriage“ - quite telling argument in favor of purchase.
adults, of course, can Trace and understand all motivations of the young successors not always. Actually, therefore sometimes the desire of the child just should be taken on trust: let he will receive that gift which wants. The main thing, do not reproach it then with the cost of a toy and you do not watch its safety: the owner has full authority to do with her everything that wants - to draw other eyes and eyebrows, to cut tails and manes and to change wheels. It is worth interfering in case game passes ethical standards, - cruelty and mutilation need to be stopped immediately.
On a label of a toy which you get have to be without fail specified the following normy:vozrastny restrictions (for example - from 3 to 5 years) by
the country - producer
firm - the manufacturer
the precautionary inscriptions
the instruction for care of a toy
Gosstandart badge, and under it two figures and two letters - demonstrating that the goods were tested in special laboratories.
Parents and other relatives usually buy by
toys, being guided by age marking, but sometimes this index should be ignored. The set of cubes on which it is written “for children of 3 years“ sometimes can cause interest only in the one-year-old kid. So, buying by the child “pleasure“, think of whether it will satisfy the intellectual needs of your child growing every day? At the same time absolutely you should not ignore marking, certainly.
Small objects, of course, should not be given in hands to kids till 3 years: they can swallow, jostle them in a nose or in an ear, in other words - to use strictly not for designated purpose. By the way, from the point of view of safety it is necessary to pay attention not only to age indicators, but also without fail to technical characteristics: toys can frighten the kid of sharp sounds (sound range should not exceed 65 decibels) or to injure excessively strong vibration.
Primitive puzzles - “thrust a round subject into a round opening“, - who, actually, and are required for children for gradual knowledge of the subject world, for some reason do not arrange producers of toys. They persistently try to create a certain universal model in which there is a set of useful, in their opinion, options. The child, naturally, wants to use them all and at once, and as a result cannot concentrate on one concrete task. Simplicity and monofunctionality - the main requirement to toys for any age. When once again you are interested in the ball able to turn into a doll, remember that the camera which is built in the mobile phone will never replace the real camera. Here the simple rule works: better to dig in a sandbox a usual shovel, but not the unit which can turn into the gun which is starting up soap bubbles if necessary.
Simple toys are several times more variable than fancy electronic units. Cubes and dolls thanks to the primitiveness allow the child to place them in different conditions and situations - they are open for the most improbable actions and therefore perfectly carry out the developing function. And what, tell on favor, new it is possible to think up with the speaking robot? To the right - on the left to sit down - to rise - here and all range of actions. Neither to change, nor it is impossible to complicate algorithm of game in this case, so, soon it with guarantee will bore the child.
As to yourself
All childhood you dreamed of a porcelain doll (the big railroad with a heap of gadgets). Here now you buy it to the angel, and his life will become immediately brighter and finer. Idea, of course, excellent, but at what here our children? Bought? Bought? Well also play. And that the child can break, not estimate “dream of the childhood“, or - that is absolutely awful - to drag off in kindergarten and to exchange with Mischa on some machine. If you presented to the kid that you passionately wished in the childhood, have courage to step aside and to watch quietly how ruthlessly he with this “happiness“ finishes. Or act honestly and artlessly: buy a thing to yourself and play it together with the child, will not bother yet. But the kid has to know that this toy mother`s or father`s, and not to be indignant when parents clean it highly - highly on a case.
The is become more senior by the child, the we spend less time for joint games with it. Therefore when you with surprise and horror find out that nothing, except infinite shooter games and browsers, carries away your successor any more, it is a high time to reconsider the point of view on children`s entertainments. You remember - we buy toys to develop independence in beloved children and to help them to master different social roles, and at all not to replace plyushevo - the buzzing variety a lack of communication with parents. Play together, it will be pleasant to you.
not only badly made toy but also which is incorrectly picked up can do Harm to the child. Whenever possible do not buy to the children brightly - red or black “gadgets“ - such colors extremely negatively influence mentality of preschool children. Somewhere till 5 years kids should not give various mutants - pink elephants or not spotty giraffes: at this age at children the impression about world around is not created yet and similar toys will prevent to develop them the correct stereotype. Most of parents seek to prevent in every way emergence of the house of children`s musical instruments. It is possible to understand them, of course, but thus they deprive of the child of an opportunity to loudly express the emotional state which is so necessary for it. As a result the upset kid very much bangs cams on a table, and it, believe, irritates many times more, than ringing drum knock or a monotonous dudenye in a pipe. By the way, the toy guns causing fears in some mothers too an excellent way to remove stress. And at the child also the ordinary teddy bear who minutes of irritation will replace to the kid a punching bag can develop aggression.
Natalya Vorontsova, children`s psychologist