Time, two, three, four, five. To how many you will give birth?
“What it already big at me!“ - with amazement mother looks at the firstborn who is going to school. And before her internal eyes - the first feeding, the first smile, the first short step. There are no words for each of these events - tremendous, unique. And why, however, unique? There is a way to turn back the clock: to give birth to the following child.
According to the researches published in the British medical magazine, an optimum interval between pregnancies - from 18 to 23 months. What does too small and too big interval threaten with?is Less than 2 have some of
For mother: the Main problem that the organism does not manage to be restored after blood loss and hormonal changes which happened during the previous pregnancy; it touches first of all a mucous membrane of a uterus. From here danger of bleedings, flakings of a placenta, bigger risk of penetration of an infection and development of an endometritis. Besides, the second pregnancy can be followed by anemia.
For the child: At small time difference between pregnancies the risk of premature birth and, as a result, the birth of premature children increases.is More than 5 have some of
For mother: by this time the organism manages to forget about childbirth and to lose adaptable mechanisms which facilitate the course of pregnancy. Connect the increased risk of emergence of a gestoz with this circumstance - complications of the second half of pregnancy of which hypostases, increase of arterial pressure, emergence of protein in urine are characteristic. Consequences of a similar state - a preeklampsiya and an eklampsiya - are deadly.
For the child: over time blood supply of a uterus worsens, and it cannot provide to the developing fruit enough nutrients. Therefore children can be born premature and weakened; with a low weight.
One thought of children is better to “otmuchitsya“ at onceby
- stair-steppers horrifies many mothers: “Only got out of wet diapers and the porridge smeared on all apartment, and again?!“ And all - children with a scanty age difference appear. From where? Perhaps, other parents believe that it is better to “otmuchitsya“ at once and then for the rest of the life to sleep tight at night, and to give a carriage with a clear conscience to friends. In other families it occurs incidentally because young mother is sure: while she nurses, it is impossible to become pregnant. Still as it is possible! It will be confirmed by many parents of stair-steppers. It is possible to rely on such way of contraception, only if the interval between feedings does not exceed 3 hours (even at night).Though difficulties with children - stair-steppers literally you will not be gathered by
(how to feed younger and at the same time to calm the senior who filled to himself the cone and breaks into bitter tears? How to come for walk with two children if the senior only started walking? How to sleep if the day regimen at children does not coincide?) their parents look surprisingly happy.
Here that mother by the name of Katya speaks (an age difference between children - year and two months): “First one and a half years the heaviest. When the younger daughter was only born, I carried her in a sling all the time. It gave me the chance to nurse and at the same time to release both hands for another matters. At first on walk the senior liked to roll a carriage, but ceased to please soon, it was far more interesting to run away with a laughter from mother. It was necessary to call to the aid the grandmother. When the younger daughter grew up, we bought a sedentary carriage for twins in which children rode with pleasure. The senior very gently treated the sister:“ read“ to it books in the bird`s language, all the time tried to feed with something tasty, awfully worried when the baby cried. However, there were also unpleasant moments. Looking at the baby, my “adult“ son wanted to suck a breast again and demanded to dress on him pampers. But now my children are the best friends. When they go down the street, having undertaken handles, or protect each other at a playground, I am blissfully happy“.
Psychologists consider that children - stair-steppers have every chance to become friends: they have general friends and common interests. Younger lasts for we frighten, and that, trying to support authority, matures quicker. But, as children - stair-steppers are “in one weight category“, between them there can be a cruel competition, with everything that from here follows, - jealousy and wrestle for life or death for mother`s attention. A task of parents - to make this competition healthy, to direct vigorous (oh, what vigorous!) energy to the necessary course.by
One at a breast, another on the way
When feeding by a breast is developed hormone oxytocin which stimulates reductions of a uterus in the second half of pregnancy and can cause premature birth. After 24 - y weeks the uterus becomes especially sensitive to this hormone therefore it is better to finish feeding with a breast to this term. To the middle of pregnancy of milk becomes less, and it develops a new taste which not really - that is pleasant to small gourmets. The doctor advises to stop feeding earlier if:
- you had abortions
- pregnancy proceeds with complications
- there is a danger of premature birth
- the placenta
Jealousy or condescension is low located?
the Family already has stable prosperity, the child grew up. There is a wish to press to a breast again marvelously helpless being who needs mother, and more anybody on light. But how to prepare for this event of the firstborn who was so many years the only thing and did not get used to share with someone parental love?Even if the child supports by
your aspiration to addition of family, tell it that life after the birth of the kid will strongly change. Begging you to get the brother, the child hopes for appearance of the companion for games but who is not starting up bubbles “slobber who all the time cries!“ If you manage to explain to the firstborn that the tiny being will sometime grow up too and will become him the best companion, - a half of business is made. It is necessary to support in the senior spirit of healthy indulgence and care of mother and small further.
But a thicket to the birth of the second child are accompanied by jealousy which turns often in the real aggression in relation to younger. Whether it is possible as - nibud to bypass this sad situation?
is Told by mother by the name of Sveta (a difference between children of 12 years): “When I was a pregnant woman, told all the time to the oldest daughter that happens to me. On its brilliant eyes saw that all this is awfully interesting to it. After the brother`s birth I did not ask it to help me, but all the time offered: you want to dress pampers? You want to take small? In most cases she readily answered “I Want!“ Daily campaigns on dairy kitchen became its duty, and slowly at it the sense of responsibility began to develop. Of course, I was afraid that after the birth of the kid the daughter will move away from me therefore very much tried to find time for her. In the evenings the father went to bathe the son, and we with it got on a sofa and stirred about the, “about maiden“. Now the daughter potters with youngest as the real little mother. And I look at it and I rejoice. She will not become puzzled when it has children!“
to Children with a big age difference are seldom accompanied by “equality and a brotherhood“. Their relations are under construction on the “teacher-the pupil“ model rather. The senior always treats to younger with a little severe tenderness - as the child who should be sponsored (even if this “child“ himself already nurses grandsons).
the Family - seven “I“
well or badly to the firstborn if it and remained the first and only? According to psychologists, the only children show inclinations of the leader more often, they are ambitious and are able to try to obtain the. In turn children who have brothers or sisters adapt in collective better, are able to get on with people, to find the solution arranging all are easier reconciled with troubles. It and is clear: a family - not one, but seven “I“.