Education of the will as aspiration to overcome
How to cultivate will in the child? How not to mix it with willfulness? What difficulties parents need to overcome to grow up from the kid the person capable independently to overcome already the difficulties? whether
It is possible to cultivate, for example, at the small child will? It appears, perhaps and it is necessary because if since the earliest childhood not to accustom the kid to performance of any simple tasks, not to accustom him to constrain some unreasonable rushes, then further it will be more difficult to accustom such child to systematic work and the doctrine.the First strong-willed act in life can consider by
effort which the kid should apply to get out to this world. It still instinctive action “includes“ field behavior of the child.Strong-willed qualities are not given by
to us from the birth, they are formed as a result of life experience under the influence of education.
the Main factor in education of the will - the mode, a certain order of life of the child. Exact performance of the mode accustoms the kid to an order, organization, discipline.
With babies should not undertake something special. Just you remember some features of development of children, the desire is the cornerstone of any strong-willed effort. Without it the person is not capable to overcome himself, and we mean ability to make something contrary to own laziness, fear when we speak about will. That the child had desires, impressions are necessary for him. Agree, it is difficult to want something when the world surrounding you is monotonous and sad. Music, objects and toys various to the touch, warmly parental hands - all this promotes awakening of desires of the kid. Especially children with the lowered tone, too quiet need it, those which usually do not disturb parents, sleep much and do not require special attention.
As soon as the child will begin to move independently, there will be a problem of a ban and control of actions of the baby. Be not overzealous, forbidding, let to the child know power of own desires.
At two-year-old Ira the addiction remained - to suck a thumb during a dream. Mother, before putting the girl to bed, began to tie her this finger. Every time the baby complained: “Do not tie, I will not be!“ Once mother agreed, did not begin to tie, but warned:“ Well, I will not tie, but if you all - take a finger in a mouth, it is necessary to tie it next time“. At night the girl woke mother:
- That now was, - she told mysteriously, - the finger itself got into a mouth, and I it spat!to the Girl the strong-willed effort was necessary to make
to resist temptation. She passed test and deserved a praise.to children sometimes should create to
in the course of education such conditions that they could strain the will because strong-willed qualities are cultivated only by continuous training.
- Some! - with insult Tanya shouts and angrily destroys a simple construction from cubes. To what disobedient these cubes: do not want to obey in any way, fall also all. Mother slowly watches her.
- And you construct one more tower. Only system accurately. Here so, exactly put cubes... Correctly. And still straighten this...
- Turned out! - the girl rejoices.
Quite often should observe such phenomenon. The kid tries to put on. Here it, groaning, pulls a stocking. Nothing is impossible. Mother interferes.
- I am! - the child protests.
- Sit quietly, and that I will not take to walk.
- I want.
Why some parents so are afraid that to the kid it will be a little bit heavy? Let pokryakhtit, will tinker. Let for ten minutes later will put on. But ““. The strong-willed effort develops not only in overcoming of physical difficulties, but also by fight against difficulties internal, psychological.
do not pass At all the moment when the child told “I“. It is very important point. Help the kid, prompt as it is better and easier to make something. Do not suppress an initiative, praise it. It will give the child big joy.“I“ begin
C independence. Quality is very important, closely connected with persistence, persistence and diligence. > to the One-and-a-half-year-old kid it is not so difficult for p to put
in a toy box. Suggest it to make it, help. It is easy to put on a chair clothes before going to bed too. The child with pleasure will make it. Let at first it is bad, ineptly. Nothing terrible, will gradually learn and will get used. The habit is of very great importance in independence education. Having got used to clean every time the toys, to put clothes before going to bed etc., the child ceases to need a reminder on need to execute these simple duties. It will carry out them and without coercion.
can Accustom the child to independence very much early. I know one family where the one-and-a-half-year-old boy independently eats, neither mother, nor the grandmother interfere with this procedure at all. They only substitute and clean plates. Little Sasha strong holds in hand a spoon, the movements its sure and exact.
- All! - he declares after a lunch and adds “SI“ that in its language means “thanks!“ demands that it was removed from the high chair which closely is moved up to a table. He is very independent person, this Sasha. If, happens, having played, he will sometimes be embarrassed and will fill with a pool, then with a business look runs on kitchen behind a rag.
Often parents complain of lack of appetite at children.
- you Sit with it, you persuade. Until has dinner - you will tell all fairy tales on two times.
- And provide it independence, let itself eats.
- Really! - indignantly mother waves away. - All truths - not truths which - that all - you will force to eat, and it also will not touch food.it looks
A approximately so. The tortured mother by a tired voice pulls:
-... They had a chicken - a ryaba... and sit you quietly! Do not touch a spoon! Leave a plate alone! The chicken demolished a small egg.... To whom I speak, take away hands!.... Not a simple small egg, but gold... Do not touch a spoon!
A the kid does not listen to the fairy tale. He is not concerned at all by destiny of a chicken - a ryaba. It reaches for a spoon. He wants most to try to eat. And not the food interests him - process of food. And mother also does not know that if to give small a spoon and to provide a freedom of action, sense will be more. Even if at the beginning not all calories intended for today get to destination (not all at once). But gradually, over and over again, he will learn to be active independently a spoon and, I assure you, will eat much better.
my acquaintance Sasha is put on a high stool for a table d`hote together with all family. All eat, and Sasha tries.
- it is tasty, Sashenka?
- Yes! - the boy nods.who it thought up
I that children need to be fed by all means separately and alternately with fairy tales and songs, and to do some sacred ritual of food! It also is boring and harmful. Kids will eat with pleasure behind a table d`hote. They love and are able to imitate, are very observant, try to repeat actions, receptions of people around. There is nothing surprising in what in a day nursery, so to speak, in the company, children eat better, than at home.
Physical dexterity for the preschool child - an important step in education of strong-willed qualities. The child able to operate the body will easier learn to operate emotions and desires. Give the chance to the child to become dexterous, define him in sports section.
Yes, the will of the child
Instead of determination of the adult at the child impulsiveness of behavior. Most often feelings, but not reflections are incentive of acts of the child. Owing to weakness of will it is usually difficult for kid to resist various temptations: not to eat the candy lying on a look not to take others attractive toy. Many actions of the child have imitative character - it is connected with weakness of will too. In a day nursery crying of one child causes often crying of all other children. Later children begin to copy gestures of adults, their intonations, a manner to speak. The preschool child imitates the adult`s acts, his behavior. Even more inspiring impact is exerted on it by surrounding children. Therefore not without reason speak about a crucial role of an example of behavior of adults, and also other children in education of the kid very much.
the Will of the child develops not in itself, and in connection with the general development of the personality. Whims, the general negativism which is shown in obstinacy, jealousy, egoism result from shortcomings of strong-willed education. As a rule, the obstinacy has selective character - it is directed mainly to parents. In relation to other children the obstinacy is shown seldom. Early forms of children`s negativism arise when adults too sponsor the child when children are not accustomed to constrain themselves, to submit to certain requirements and rules of conduct. Unconditional implementation of requirements of adults, strict performance of the regime moments - a good educational tool of will.
the Will of the child develops in different types of his activity when he draws, molds, designs and, especially, when carries out labor orders of adults. The collective role-playing game and game with rules is the real school of education of the will of the preschool child.
Development of will at preschool age is an important condition of further training of the child at school. Successfully to study, the child has to submit to certain requirements, conform the actions with the task given him. Any systematic training is impossible if the child is not self-controlled if he acts only under the influence of direct motives, without being able to subordinate the actions to instructions of the teacher, requirements of the school program. On development of will decisive impact is exerted by education. Before the child himself begins to set to himself the conscious purposes, to him their adult has to specify. Instructing the child, it is necessary to explain to him in what direction and as it is necessary to work in these or those cases. Organizing collective games, studies, labor actions, we gradually accustom the child to realize the purposes of the acts according to requirements of adults and children`s collective and to carry out them in the daily activity.
I of course, you want to grow up the strong-willed and purposeful child, forget phrases of type:“ At Dasha it turns out better “, “ you will not be able to make it as Petya “, “ you never finish anything“. Each of these phrases - the negative program which you offer the child. And small children so believe the parents that they do not call in question told by them even then when it is unfair.