I see, I hear, I feel What
a way of knowledge of the world - main for your kid?
Came to take away the little son from a garden. I come into group - towards to me his girlfriend Masha rushes: - Look at
on my new dress! Beautiful? And it is my doll! - I squat, and before me begin to rotate a doll in brightly - a blue dress.
- the Aunt Marina! - I am intercepted by the girl Sasha, our neigbour. - Listen that was today! Doggie... I will tell everything to you now. Really you know nothing yet?!
But Sasha it is necessary to be interrupted and give way to my son. Grisha approaches silently and not just embraces me, and is somehow pressed all over.
- Mother, you love me?
- Very much, very much I love, - I answer.
me in a garden - and all differently. Several years ago I would even not think of this situation. But with the birth of the child it was necessary to learn to understand it: that moves it that he wants why he arrives anyway, to find a common language with the son. Also I was helped with it, strangely enough, by one of the directions of psychotherapy - the neurolinguistic programming allowing to look for and find approaches to very different people.
We perceive world around by means of touch, sight and hearing. However neurophysiologists proved that for each specific person one of these information channels appears the leader usually some, and the others become auxiliary. Also offered classification (of course, very conditional) according to which the person with the dominating visual perception was called the visual learner, the one who better perceives aurally - audialy, and preferring to communicate with the world by means of touch - kinestetiky.That it was more clear than
, I will provide one simple test. “I never was at the sea, - you say to the interlocutor. - Tell what it?“ .
- About! The sea is bf - bf! Huge shaft are rolled and deafly break against the coast. The heavy sound of cotton shivers in air for a long time.
“Aga, - you say to yourself. - The sound - means, audiat“.
- the Sea is a warm water. You enter it, and it shrouds, captures you and slowly - slowly begins to shake on waves. This person told
about feelings - it kinestetik.
- the Sea is a blue water, yellow sand and a fiery sphere over the head.
Yes, is the visual learner because he drew the picture.
Here and the children meeting me in kindergarten, all different: Masha - the visual learner, Sasha - audiat, and my son Grisha - kinestetik. It is clear, that to their development, training and even communication with them should approach differently. How? I will describe in more detail each type - suddenly you recognize in it the child and will be able to pick up to it one more, absolutely new “key“.Kinestetiki`s
are ahead of peers in physical development. They start walking earlier, are very mobile, vigorous. Cannot long concentrate attention on one subject. The world is learned in mainly tactile way. Begin to speak late.
my son till three years managed three words. Instead of the phrase: “Give a cup“ my child put forward from - under a table a stool, dragged it to a case, climbed, opened doors and pointed to a cup. So, through the movement, to it will express it was simpler.without having uttered
a sound, the movement and a mimicry, it could express such, in my opinion, difficult phrase:“ The grandmother, you made incorrectly: to a green cup it is necessary to put a green saucer, but not white. If you do not change, I will not drink some cocoa“.
the Garden helped us to break a silence barrier, and by four years Grisha started talking. Later some time I began to train it in reading and the account. We studied not according to books, and by means of the magnetic alphabet - it was very important to Grisha to touch a letter, to turn it in hands. I sat in one end of the room, called a letter, Grisha ran in an opposite corner and brought it. So, running backwards - forward, it made the first word.Then I began to write
words on cards. Grisha took the floor - a card from the right small group, read and shifted in the left small group - so the son had an opportunity to take the word in hands. After the word of which we made offers to us brought toy engines and machines. Very much books - a coloring helped. Read the word - paint. And the typewriter still remains huge help in the course of training: it is possible not only to touch each letter, but also to press it.
to Children - kinestetika difficult at school where assiduity is required, the attention happens and there are restrictions in the movement and space. Therefore I try not only to consider the main way of knowledge which my son (uses on - scientific it is called “the leading modality“), but also to develop other modalities: hearing and sight. The son has many audio cassettes, he can use the tape recorder, listen that wants and how many wants. And board games with which we regularly supply it help to develop assiduity and skills of visual perception.
I the last about kinestetika: they are very vulnerable, sensitive more than others need corporal contact with parents.
the Girl Sasha - a striking example of the child - an audial. Started talking earlier, than went. In a year already pronounced words and short phrases. We often walk together, and I will not remember that Sasha ran: usually she costs and attentively listens what speak about sitting on a small bench of mother of other children.Sasha very much likes to sing, tell
verses, willingly answers questions of adults. Adores thinking out and organizing games, to cast, but if outdoor games are outlined, quickly to them grows cold.
I Listen to a voice of Sasha who together with other children plays in the yard: “What little girl! No, it is not the girl, this is a doll. A doll, a doll, go to us! Do not approach this heap! There worms live! At what silly, understands nothing! Ha - ha, we will not play with you! Leave. And it that at you in a hand? Show. Go - go to us...“ . In a minute - such change of emotions: admiration, fright, neglect, interest. Sashenka masterly manipulates feelings. She can take offense, shout, have a little cry, threaten, calm down, at the same time easily changes a voice timbre - can speak and as the little girl, and as the adult woman. The speech dilutes with favourite words of mother and grandmother, phrases from advertizing and statements of favourite heroes of fairy tales.Sasha sweet-talks
of Members of household years from five. Instead of satisfying a request, she will long argue as it is better to make it or maybe it is not necessary to do it, and here she heard... Having been tired to wait and listen, the grandmother does everything itself - and the granddaughter only it and it is necessary.
At school Sasha easily perceives requirements of the teacher, acquires new information after the first explanation, aurally. Teachers praise it for the full developed answers, but excessive garrulity often disturbs at lessons. Sashenka the fine relations with peers and got used to be for a long time the focus of attention.
Masha is liked to be held up as an example: “Look how beautifully and Masha is accurately dressed! And you cannot pass by a pool not to be soiled!“ . There is also a back - to the visual learner - Masha very important in what it is dressed. In two years to it it was not indifferent what color on it panty hoses what T-shirt. Morning collecting in a garden dragged on: I will not put on this dress, this short skirt already dirty, and the polo-neck does not approach anything.
Despite cares of appearance, Masha does not like to draw attention to herself. In the yard she prefers to observe as well as what other children play. I will not remember that Masha violently expressed the emotions. If something is not pleasant to it in behavior of people around, it will depart away rather and will find to itself other occupation.
All who know Masha, consider it quiet and silent. And in a garden, and houses she likes to play long one. Favourite toys - dolls to undress, change clothes and put them to bed it can, apparently, infinitely. And toy Cars in special, only by it the conducted order are spread out and placed. Board games are constantly used: cubes with pictures, a mosaic, puzzles, and still Masha likes to draw and mold. It has an excellent visual memory and small motility of hands is perfectly developed. She early began to write with printing letters and already to school was able to read rather fluently.
At school Masha remembers the teacher`s explanations easier if they are duplicated on a blackboard or on posters - schemes: it is simpler to it to see and to visually remember the word, than to understand the rule - why it is necessary to write quite so. In general visual aids, illustrations, use of colored pencils: sketch, reproduce, emphasize, allocate - all this promotes the best digestion of material by the child - the visual learner.Physically Masha is developed by
more weakly than the peers. Sport not its elements, but, perhaps, in the future it will be taken by ballroom dances where beautiful girls and boys in magnificent dresses smoothly move to a music step.
A what language are spoken by you with the kid?