New family member. Love or jealousy?
In your family pleasure. The second child was born. You are happy. And, of course, you consider self-evident that all have to share your happiness. Both husband, and parents, and, certainly, your firstborn. It is so remarkable to have the younger brother or the little sister. The senior child will care for younger, to help it, to play with it. However often the birth of the younger child in a family appears for the senior not pleasure, but very severe stress. And if parents do not manage to understand a condition of the child in time and to help it to cope with a situation, consequences can be not really pleasant.For you it seems to
obvious that the child has to, in - the first, to rejoice to the birth of the kid. In - the second, has to understand that it already big, and is required to the small child more than your care, than to it. But the senior - does not mean the adult. If not to prepare the child for the birth of the brother or sister and to lose with it contact for that time until you are absorbed by the kid demanding your care, for it this situation will look absolutely in a different way. The world which you created around your child failed. Just it was small, only and favourite. And suddenly, suddenly grew, and someone gets all your love to another. He begins to be jealous of younger.to the Child it seems to
that small to be very good, all love it just like that, all admire it, care for it, demand nothing from it. The child can begin to behave as small, showing that he needs your care too, can be capricious or misbehave to draw your attention. Can even try to vent the indignation on the younger child. It is very important to understand feelings of the child and not to punish him for it, not to ignore acts, and to talk. Depends only on you whether appearance of the new child in a family will become the general pleasure.
In - the first, it is necessary to prepare the child for the birth of the kid in advance. It is necessary to explain that family life will change now. Tell it as it is exciting - to have the brother or the sister, together it will be more interesting to it to play. Explain that you hope for its help that without it to you for anything not to cope. Ask opinion of the child as we will call the little sister what we will choose for her a bed. When the kid is born, do not forget that the senior child needs still your attention. Do not demand from it too much, do not ignore it, try to involve the senior child in process of care of younger softly. But do not charge it with too complex challenges. Also do not forget to praise.
to reduce a stress, it is possible to give to the senior child a soft and effective sedative. For example, the “children`s Tenoten“ developed especially for children. The preparation perfectly is suitable for school students - it does not cause block and day drowsiness, stimulates memory and attention. It is noticed that the child, the accepting “children`s Tenoten“, becomes more attentive and assidious.to
Main, do not forget to express as often as possible approval and love that the child did not doubt that you love it still.