That it is more preferable to the child to school: kindergarten or “house“ education?
When to the child are two years (and sometimes and much earlier), parents begin to think of whether to leave the kid at home or to arrange it in kindergarten. Discussing with surrounding the second option, they face squall of frightening stories about frequent diseases of the kids visiting a garden about nonprofessional behavior of teachers, about “remarkable“ words which deck the dictionary of the kid... Sometimes in addition not the lightest own memories of the preschool childhood emerge. And here the decision to leave the child at home is made: the nurse is employed, someone from relatives agrees to help with education of the son or daughter, teachers are invited - and mothers with fathers begin to worry whether everything is “correctly“ done by them and their assistants...Each concrete family in general and the child are rather unique
therefore also the choice in each case needs to be made taking into account opportunities and features of life of a family and the child concerning these two forms of the organization of educational process.the opinion that the kindergarten is necessary for the general development of each child is Quite popular
. What can really give a garden? The main thing is conditions for social development (a possibility of communication with peers, an inclusiveness in group, ability to cooperate, ability to submit to certain rules, to respect the rules of interaction and so forth) . Of course, and the “house“ child can quite be same developed, independent, initiative and sociable, as well as the pupil of kindergarten. But only in case you are really ready to very serious work. The most difficult in house education is not intellectual or physical development of the child. Moreover, in these directions the clever family can give to the child much more, than occupations in kindergarten. It is much more difficult to create to the kid all necessary conditions for social development - to provide sufficient and various communication with peers, children is more senior also other adults, than the child`s life in kindergarten is rather saturated.
Communication of children at this age is based, mainly, around game. Game gives an impetus to development of intelligence and imagination. In game the child “tries on“ on himself the most different social roles, learns to act by rules. Game helps to dump the excess tension which collects from - for comprehension of facts of life (there is a wish more, than it is possible). About it, by the way, work can esteem at the outstanding domestic scientist L. S. Vygotskogov “Game and its role in mental development of the child“.
Until recently, experience difficulties in contacts with age-mates. There were a few children raised houses, the vast majority was made by children of a garden. Today situation other. The children never visiting kindergarten stopped being an exception. Besides, and “kindergarten“ any more not that. Now, for example, there are home kindergartens - a certain mix of house and sadovsky education.“ House“ children became others: they can be both sociable, and well-mannered, and with huge baggage of the most different life experience. And the children not ready to school training, with the low level of imagination and unwillingness to study can come from kindergarten. But maybe all on the contrary...
we Will try to allocate in comparison some significant opportunities of “house“ education and education in kindergarten, and to estimate them as positive or negative and to give preference to something is already your decision.
|of the Characteristic||Kindergarten||“House“ education|
|Wednesday||New, adapted for group of children, is the adaptation period||family lives, Habitual, house taking into account features|
|Communication with peers||Five days in a week all day long (through the adult or directly)||the Circle, time and forms of communication are defined by opportunities of a family and are regulated by parents|
|Communication with children of different age||If interage groups, then within actions do not practice in a garden (holidays, morning performances and so forth)||the Circle, time and forms of communication are defined by opportunities of a family and Communication with other adults||Shift tutors, nurses and other personnel of a garden||the Circle are regulated by parents|
|, time and forms of communication are regulated by parents|
|Communication with parents||Morning, evening, days off||is So much how many parents|
|Independence want and can||It is encouraged at least with the fact that the tutor one on 5 - 20 children||Depends on ability of parents (nurse) not to do for the child what it can do itself|
|the Day regimen||the Stable, obligatory quiet time||parents|
|Educational process||“Regulate pass - school“ - the general for all the program, calculated on average age norm and focused on preparation for school, additional educational servicesare possible||parents depending on the opportunities and pedagogical installations Will organize. The choice of teachers and forms of work (individual, in group, at home, on departure). Possibility of the accounting of religious and national peculiarities.|
|Acquaintance to world around||of Class in the World around program, walks, sometimes - excursions||the Most different options|
|Monitoring of development of the child||Is carried out by experts of a garden (the doctor, the psychologist, the logopedist, teachers) in those criteria and with that frequency which are determined by an educational program of establishment. Psikholy - pedagogical monitoring is most often included in the general educational process and is imperceptible for the child.||the Frequency of monitoring and the choice of experts - the decision of parents. For the child, as a rule, this testing - interview, inspection.||the Standard, one tutor on 5 - 20 people (depending on garden type)||Home care|
|on the mode. The general menu for all, in private gardens - sometimes the accounting of some individual wishes of parents. Minimum laying. Time for meal is strictly regulated. Most often the child has no opportunity to replace an unloved dish with something another.House food, house laying, the mild mode and food outdoors is possible||(cafe, restaurants, guests). The child spends so much time how many parents allow at a table. Dishes - usually to taste of the child.|
|of the Illness||Risk of frequent diseases during the adaptation period, and some are ill often throughout the entire period of visit of a garden. It is more risk to catch children`s infections.||Depends on immunity, the practiced system of a hardening and frequency of contacts with other children.|
|the “Special“ child||in the absence of the qualified maintenance by experts is risk of aggravation of a problem and obtaining the diagnosis||Has chance “to leave“ from the diagnosis|
|Cost||From 500 - 700 rub to 30 thousand rubles in a month and above||Depends on a set of occupations,|
From what age it is better for cost of hour of the involved experts to begin to drive the child in kindergarten?
On all questions of this kind when it is about the abstract child and the universal recommendation is expected, of course, it is possible to answer by the principle “most often“. But how to ignore the fact that modern children`s population is characterized by an originality and heterogeneity of development? According to the prof. B. A. Arkhipov, on average about a half of modern children does not answer in a varying degree the norms of age development accepted in domestic medicine, pedagogics, psychology (in something an advancing, in something lag). Along with it it is possible to observe a tendency to deviation from the uniform scenario of creation of life of a family, aspiration to definition of own norms, to the organization of the family space for the rules and with the borders. In this regard each answer about relevance of this or that adult action in relation to each specific child (including his transfer in kindergarten) demands clarification of features of the child, specifics of his life situation.
in the majority of a day nursery is accepted Today kids since one and a half years. In mass media for parents psychologists and teachers go on: “Extremely early!“ Whether so it? Tutors note that the kids visiting a day nursery master household skills quicker, are more adaptive, more independent. But there are also such kids who cannot long cope with the “heavy“ inheritance which remained from visit of a day nursery.to
Nevertheless, it is possible to give the certain generalized “picture“ of regularities of development of the child which can be put in the basis of reflections about your concrete situation.If all in life of the kid and mother in the first months was “correct“
, then approximately in 8 months (and at someone from kids is closer by a year) the aspiration to communication with people of a different floor and different age, and not just with mother appears. The child likes to be with the father, grandmothers, grandfathers, the senior children, nurses more, and he comes crawling to mother only when something is impossible if he hit, upset, it became boring for it. Interestingly, as mother who in the “correct“ case lives in the child`s rhythms also has a requirement again to become socially active personality, and it begins to leave for some time. Coming back, she finds a pleasant surprise: with the kid everything is all right! In this case the little son or the daughter by one and a half years can quite carry out without mother of 6 - 8 hours with the familiar person in the familiar environment. Thus, the question of a campaign in a day nursery in 1,5 years is rather question of how to help the child to adapt in Wednesday, new to it. It is important that a garden (and, first of all, tutors) it were pleasant to the child. You can try to take away the child in a day nursery in 1,5 - 2 if you know that the kid quietly treats your absence within several hours and if you are ready very slowly, at that speed which is comfortable to the son or the daughter, to enter it on new Wednesday. Many day nursery even recommends at first joint stay of mother together with the child in group during two - three hours. Then (and mother has to feel this moment) the child not against will already be left without mother (of course, not for all day). An ideal to which it is necessary to aspire - smooth, soft and slow accustoming to kindergarten. Do not hesitate to be persistent and firm, discussing the program of adaptation of your kid with the tutor. If are not ready to make advances in a day nursery to you, then ask a question and whether such educational institution is necessary for you. And if you are not ready in such long process of “entry“ into a garden, then it is better not to injure then the child and to look for other options. In other words - if there is a desire, it is possible to send the child to a garden and in 1,5 years.
the Standard answer to a question of when it is necessary to send the child to a garden:“ The most optimum age for an exit to the public - four years“. As arguments pro serves that by three years the child begins to be interested in communication with other children. It, of course, so, but you should not forget that age-mates are necessary also till three years. To many parents the fights in a sandbox alternating moaning, crying, unwillingness to share and simultaneous aspiration to select everything pleasant are well-known. The age from 1,5 to 2,5 years is an age of blossoming of proprietary behavior, age of establishment of borders of the “I can“. An invaluable role in this process is played by peers, and not just and even not so much mothers, nurses and grandmothers.
Three years (and sometimes and 2,5 g) - this beginning of games with peers. However today programs of kindergartens are so saturated that often the place and time by the residual principle is allocated to game. If in a garden the child is engaged in all imaginable and inconceivable, but does not play, then it is better to leave the kid at home and to think what it is necessary to make changes to the environment surrounding it taking into account the increased requirements.
Should be remembered also that if in a family the birth of one more child is planned, or still some serious changes, then a campaign in a garden it is better not to force an excommunication from a breast, moving, eviction of the child from a parental bed.
to Make the unambiguous recommendation concerning age when it is time for the child in a garden, very not easy. Each concrete situation requires the solution. It is possible to go to a garden in 1,5 years, in two, in three, in four and in five years, and it is possible and not to go to a garden at all. The “house“ child has less at all chances to come ready to school training, having realized all problems of the preschool childhood.
How to choose suitable kindergarten for the child if there is such opportunity?
That the kindergarten became both the cozy, and useful place of stay of your child, it is necessary to understand at first for what the garden is necessary to you and your kid.
If in any searcher to gather inquiry “How to choose kindergarten?“, you receive the mass of the recommendations containing information on what gardens (municipal, departmental, house, private) and about distinctions between them are (the number of children in group, an operating mode, quality of food and toys, protection, cost and so forth) . On the numerous “parental“ websites ratings of kindergartens are available to you. There you can find reviews of different gardens, groups, the centers of development and to ask some specific questions, to get necessary advice.
Of course, even without someone else`s hints, and just being guided by common sense, you will try to choose a garden closer to the house, accepted at the price. Having come there, you, most likely, estimate the territory, examine internal rooms, ask about programs and techniques by which work in a garden, about a set of additional educational services, you learn an operating mode, features of medical maintenance and all that interests you.
It is possible, will impress you and will please a set of occupations which offers kindergarten (world around, development of the speech, acquaintance to fiction, FROM, initial mathematics, music, physical culture, a foreign language, choreography and so forth) and the list of that knowledge and abilities which will be owned by future first grader (to read, write, consider and so forth), most likely, you do not ask
I about how the space of games will be organized and is what is the time taken away on games, on communication with peers and with more senior children as this communication is based as the conflicts are resolved as learn to cooperate as the children`s initiative is encouraged...at a playground me had to become Recently
the witness here of such dialogue of the boy of four years and his mother:
- we Will go home!
- Well, a little more we will play, and?
- You are the whole day in a garden only and played!- Is not present
, I was engaged the whole day, and did not manage to play at all...
But if in four years there is no time to play, then when?
Get acquainted with personnel, look at a situation in which there will be your child. Whether it is cozy indoors? Whether tutors are pleasant to you? Talk to them that to them it is valuable that it is important in education of the child. Their views are conformable yours? To you it is good near these people? You will entrust them the child? Observe how adults talk among themselves and to kids whether they play with children during walk. Estimate as communicate among themselves children as children react to you. Here will be glad to your child? Whether will be able to make out talents of your kid and to create conditions for their disclosure? To your son or the daughter it will be good here?
If you have a possibility of the choice, consider that the purposesthe directed selection of kindergarten will take away from you a lot of time. The main thing - not to hurry and look for. Then you by all means will manage to find such garden in which development conditions optimum are suitable for your child and correspond to your family values and representations, your opportunities. Good luck to you!