15 ways to calm the child of
Before telling about how to fight against whims and hysterics, I want to remind the main thing: the child has the right to cry when to it it is sad when he is tired, offended or just like that. These tears are important and necessary therefore in most cases it is worth allowing to the kid to cry.
I all - sometimes the adult is important that the child did not cry. Though the hysterics cannot almost be stopped, it is possible not to allow to it to begin. As to make it:Remind
- of an important issue for which it is necessary to postpone crying. (“Give you later you will cry, and that the sun will sit down soon and if you long cry, we will not manage to take a walk“.) It is important that you do not take away the right of the kid for tears, just you ask to wait a little. And many children agree to such concession.
- Conscious crying. Ask the child to cry a low voice (for example that not to awake the father) or to cry a deep voice (that at mother the head did not ache). If he obeys, the real crying will not turn out any more. Rather it will be vocal exercises which will quickly stop.
- the Passed whim. The unnoticed, not fed with foreign attention bad mood can also by itself pass. But you remember that it is easy to be mistaken and show indifference where the care and participation is necessary. Help the child “to jump“ through a whim. For example, the kid protests against clothing, and you ask it:“ And how you think, leaflets on our birch appeared already? Let`s go, we will look“
- Try to hasten the child fervent “quickly - quickly“ that he did not manage to think up objection. Though it works only with kids. Children are more senior will manage to think that to what.
- 3agovorki. Works generally with kids, but irrespective of a condition of the child. Demands big energy. A method essence - to tell, tell, say. And then going to begin to cry the baby will listen and will forget about crying, and stirring legs and not person interested to put on the peanut will stand for several seconds. Well and porridge it is so possible to feed and in general to achieve necessary passive (not demanding from the child of own actions) behavior. Here only long such colloquial loading cannot almost be sustained (and it is desirable to talk not nonsense, and to report something clever, useful, developing). Quieting of the whimsical child can be transferred to
- to a shchekotaniye or something ridiculous. Does not approach at the begun hysterics.
- Try to distract the kid. About “Look, the birdie departed“ all mothers and, especially, grandmothers know. It is possible still in a different way: “Oh that it at you, an eyelash on an eye, wait now I will pull out, and that it prevents to cry“.
- of the Matured and grown wiser child can be distracted not the mythical flown by birdie, but quite material surprise. So, tell the child crying, being on the verge of a hysterics: “And who there in kitchen sheburshit, it seems to me it is a mouse or a hedgehog, I will go I will look...“ It is important to come to kitchen of the first and to leave a cardboard mouse or a pith hedgehog on a table. Sometimes the child has enough to sound
- that he feels that the reason for crying disappeared. For example, tell:“ You were upset from - for the fact that we could not go for a walk“, and the kid will understand that you are not indifferent to his misfortune.
- Offer the child object for emission of emotions. It can be a cushion, the hammer and a plate or a ball which will help to find a way out of negative energy.
- Think up ridiculous ritual. For example, as soon as the kid will be going to begin to cry - turn on the hair dryer to dry his tears. Or the vacuum cleaner to clean the child from whims. Do not use the proposed solutions if the child is afraid of sounds of household appliances.
- Can react to a whimsical and dissatisfied mug here so: “Oh, some monster came terrible. The monster, leave! Where my nice kid when he returns?“ But it is worth remembering that always when you count on sense of humour, it is necessary to be very sensitive to a state and mood of the child. This uteshalochka I recommend to use
- for children 3 - 4 years are more senior. Begin to echo the unfortunate, complaining of life child: “Poor you, unfortunate, are not present at you any toy, sweet to you nobody gives and in general you are not fed. You do not walk, all the time stay at home...“ (or laughter vitamins if the word “tablets“ is not pleasant to you) teach
- of the Tablet from bad mood the child is more senior to control the emotions. As such tablets use something tasty, inaccessible loved by the child, but differently - fruit-paste sweets, a dragee, raisin in chocolate. The child is capricious - offer him such medicine. It is important that the kid knew - if medicine does not work, more it will not be offered.
- sometimes rather strong to embrace the child, to kiss, tell how you love it. You love even it is with a tear-stained attractive face, sniffing, rowing and aching. Nothing so quickly and reliably dries up children`s tears as warmth of a look and kindness of heart.
I - sometime and you can cry. So as you arrive today, depends, will wave away, there will pass by your grown-up child or will show participation, will help, will regret.