Tranquility! We learn to avoid stresses of
Pregnancy is unforgettable time in the woman`s life. But sometimes it is accompanied by experiences and stresses. And future mother needs to worry as little as possible! Fortunately, many stressful situations can be avoided and if something forced to be disturbed, then it is worth learning to cope with it as soon as possible.
the Stress which it is not necessary to avoid
the Concept “stress“ is introduced by the Canadian physiologist Mr. Selye in 1936 for the first time. A stress - the condition of mental tension arising at the person in the course of activity in the most difficult, difficult conditions both in everyday life, and at special circumstances. These circumstances are not always bad for the person. Receiving the apartment, promotion, a wedding and, of course, pregnancy and the child`s birth also provoke a stress. But there are situations which bear to the woman negative experiences during pregnancy. Such situations are called stressor, they provoke developing of a so-called negative stress. These potentially stressful situations are rather certain. Feature consists that not all situations will manage to be avoided, and for this reason if it was not succeeded to avoid tension, then it is necessary to learn to cope with it as soon as possible.
Communication with the familywith
Each future mother are surrounded by close people: parents and relatives, both own, and husband. Also there can sometimes be misunderstanding situations between “the parties of communication“. Perhaps there is a lot of options, and the conflict situation can be as it is connected with pregnancy (for example whether to buy in advance to the kid a dowry what name to choose whether it is worth doing to future mother something or not), not connected with expectation of the kid. Anyway future mother needs to try to learn as it is possible to react to what occurs as in her direct communication with someone from the family, and on what occurs between them more quietly.
How not to provoke the conflict...Be benevolent
- of . it is possible, the proverb “A lean compromise is better than a fat lawsuit“ is not always right, but for future mother it is quite correct. Even if the relations with someone from the family leave much to be desired, be polite and try to keep a constructive position in communication.
- If to you give too much advice, try to keep calm and do not explode. Remember that you can listen, but arrive as you consider it necessary. If the family is not too ethic
- and inquires pregnancy development details, and you do not want to speak about it, try to answer in monosyllables i.e. so that your answer did not cause desire to ask you the following question. Then the interlocutor quickly will understand that you do not want to discuss similar subjects. Remember that you have the right to keep in personal space that as you consider, it should not be disclosed.
- Avoid unpleasant communication. If you are sure that communication with someone from the family over and over again brings you negative emotions, try to avoid it. Even if you live together, to you quite on forces to minimize communication. For example, when you feel that you “begin to boil“, go to other room, having referred to the fact that you need to have a rest.
If all of you got into a conflict situation, it is necessary to solve it...
- of Talk and agree! Remember that adults did not find a different way the solution of the conflicts how to talk with each other. Concealment of a problem leads only to its strengthening as, however, both scandal with charges and a beating of ware. Therefore apply all the forces to keep a constructive position of communication.
- Avoid a role of the judge. Even if you are directly not involved in the conflict, then the family can test a temptation to make you “judge“ or to win round. One of the most difficult situations - when the conflict happened, for example, between your mother and the husband. And you need to stand neuter in this conflict: to let know that both of them are dear to you and to choose “who you will not be better“. Also do not transfer negative information from one to another. Remember that in this case the negative on both sides streams on you. Grant them the right and an opportunity to talk and agree. you have the right to expect
- that you will be preserved against disorders. If the family forgets that you cannot worry, do not hesitate to remind them of it. But this recommendation only on an “extreme“ case when attempts to reach mutual understanding during discussions were not crowned with success. It is not necessary to use this method too often, otherwise it will look as attempt of a manipulation by the family, using the pregnancy fact.
the Medicine is that sphere which has to help future mother to take out and give birth to the healthy child. But, unfortunately, happens what interaction with doctors not? set tension to the pregnant woman. Frequent the situation when the woman does not receive sufficient explanations to destination of preparations and to results of analyses, and also exhaustive information for health reasons of future kid becomes the reason which can cause a stress. The inattentive relation of the doctor in relation to future mother also can belong to such situations. Of course, you can ask about change of the doctor as a last resort, but it is possible to try to improve the relations. For this purpose...
- of Show interest. ask Sami about the terms mentioned by the doctor and drugs which to you appoint. Do not hesitate to show own initiative, sometimes doctors tell nothing not only from - for a lack of time, but also because they are not sure whether it is interesting to the patient. Be accurate
- , carrying out instructions and appointments of the doctor. If you ignore what is registered by the doctor, or pass obligatory terms of testing and researches, then it not only worsens the relations with the doctor, but also can provoke undesirable consequences for health of the woman.
- Talk to the doctor. If you are dissatisfied inattentive, in your opinion, with the relation of the doctor, it is necessary to express the opinion politely, but directly. If you test only incidentally any negative attitude from the doctor, then you should not worry about it. Each of us can have a bad mood and personal problems. And if in general you are happy with relationship with the doctor, small episodes of a negative it is possible just to forgive, without concentrating on them.
- Let. For personal tranquility to you needs to get acquainted with the expert whom you will be able to address in case the opinion of the doctor conducting pregnancy seems to you disputable. Not mistrust to the doctor is a care of own nerves.
It is remarkable when colleagues and the administration at work are ready to treat with understanding to future mother, without detaining her after work, loyally concerning to sick-lists and if necessary facilitating its loading. In this case the stress does not arise. But, unfortunately, such relation is observed not always. What to do if you assume other development of the situation or already got to it?
- of Keep secret. If you assume spiteful reaction, do not share with anybody the personal pleasure so far. Even if you share with someone one and in strict confidence, most likely publicity will not manage to be avoided. If you are crossed with colleagues at communication on the same websites, try not to give such information and there too. In several months your situation will become obvious, but this time you will quietly work. The exception is possible in case on medical indications you need to change an operating mode or to facilitate it. Then it is necessary to bring the management up to date, they under the law have to create you the recommended conditions. Arm with
- with knowledge. to you will need to be learned about legal side of a question. Look for information on the Internet, and consult at the lawyer better and learn about the rights. To future mother possessing information and ready to work, show more respect, at least formal.
- Try as it is possible to carry out more honestly the duties, do not do yourself “discounts“ in connection with pregnancy and do not wait for it from colleagues and the administration. If former duties of steel for you really heavy, ask the management about transfer to easier work.
you and surrounding
during pregnancy the woman gains new experience of communication with people around: unfamiliar or unfamiliar people in transport, shops, in turns of policlinics and drugstores. Future mothers tell that the part of this experience is positive: they are given way, pass in turns and pay compliments. But there are situations which afflict the woman: frank rudeness of people around during this period is experienced much stronger.
Someone from future mothers listens to such “speeches“ and so is upset that cannot answer immediately, considering then offense long time. Others borrow aggressively - an offensive position, probably using the slogan “Attack Is the Best Protection“. But future mother is quite capable to behave so that to reduce probability of negative attitude from people around or to cope with it if necessary.
- of Try to keep a positive. If from you the good mood and warmth proceeds, then people around respond to this reaction. Benevolent people show more readiness to help and even thorough boors constrain themselves. by
- Choose kindly the adjusted people if you need to ask about something. Not all people are capable to consider your situation, but some are quite capable of it. Such people it is visible, it is worth looking narrowly: they have a quiet and benevolent look.
- Avoid disputes. If people around (for example, in turn) begin to grumble and do not pass you even if you have full authority to it, do not enter with them disputes. Quietly tell them that you are pregnant and you have the right for service without turn. Further you pass in an office and do not stop, leaving it after reception. These people for you foreign, and you can quite not consider their opinion. Be ready
- . If in a situation needs “to answer“, prepare houses several sarcastic statements, be trained to say them with a smile. In a critical situation you will not become puzzled and will feel like the winner.
the Real stressesby
Unfortunately, it happens so that during pregnancy future mother should face events which can cause the real stress. The illness and death of close relatives, the fires, loss of a private property, natural and technogenic disasters can be carried to such events. If such event took place, then to avoid a stress it will not turn out, it is necessary to cope with it so that to reduce possible harm. Well, it is necessary to show firmness.
- of Reaction has the stages. What, it begins with a stage of shock and disbelief, then rough emotional reaction during which the person is almost not capable to think reasonably follows. Then the adaptation stage begins, intensity of emotions decreases, there is a condition of “an emotional prituplennost“ when to the person, apparently, already all the same. Then, if process goes correctly, vital energy gradually increases and the person becomes capable to look for ways out. The main thing - you remember that pain will not always operate you. Surely there will come the stage when you are able to control the perception of the taken place events.
- Accept the help. do not refuse the help if it is necessary to you, you should not show heroism. Then, when the difficult period will end, you will be able to show gratitude.
- Talk about what occurred. Pronunciation helps not to hold a grief in itself, and to leave outside. For this purpose there is a lot of opportunities: relatives, friends, and still the Internet where you are most anonymous, but at the same time you can receive a response of many people.
- Commit everything to paper. Having written about the problem, you also “expel“ her from yourself, and it is especially important during pregnancy. Ask yourself several questions and write on them answers:
- What occurred?
- What most terrible consequences it can bear? At this stage try to present that it already occurred and to reconcile to it. And perhaps it will turn out that the most unpleasant already happened.
- As to you needs to work to avoid the most unpleasant consequences? At this stage you have to take an active position, but not hope only for others. After that start realization of what you thought up.
- do not go into extremes: excessive passivity and excessive activity. Avoid a passive position as it promotes increase of internal experiences, continuous “scrolling“ of an event. It only aggravates a stress. However you should not be excessively active and to undertake everything. Try to remain on “golden mean“: act on a situation, undertaking part of cares and responsibility. So, stresses during pregnancy can be various on “weight“. Some it is quite possible to avoid, and with some it is necessary to cope. But self-confidence and reasonable approach will help you to cope with any trouble!
of the Rule of avoiding of stresses
- of Try to keep self-checking. Of course, future mothers are more emotional and often react much stronger both on good, and to bad. But you remember that nobody cancelled self-checking, and in most cases the pregnant woman is quite capable to cope with emotion which in this situation can prevent it to keep a balanced state.
- Estimate own expectations. the situation when the person expects much more from people around Is frequent, than they can give it, and future mother not an exception. It concerns all spheres: families, works, communication with friends, visit of doctors and public places. If your expectations are overestimated, then you will constantly be on the verge of a conflict situation, so, stresses will be difficult to be avoided.
- Down with aggression! you Remember: if from you the positive proceeds, then it influences on people around in the best way. And on the contrary, yours it is intense - the aggressive position causes a negative of people around, whether it be strangers on streets, your family, fellow workers.
- you Learn to place priorities. If some event caused in you tension, think as far as it is really important as compared you will have a kid. Put these two events on the imagined scales, and you will understand that temporary troubles lost the ponderability. Limit to
- frightening information. the Pregnant woman is very sensitive therefore it needs to avoid a negative. If you do not watch movies with violence scenes, then switch off the programs of news operating subjects accidents. Also do not read frightening stories about childbirth on the Internet and do not hesitate to interrupt the acquaintances wishing to share with you “horrors“ of childbirth and sleepless nights with the child.
- Dream of the future! Dreams of how you will become mother what at you will the beautiful kid are necessary for preservation of composure during pregnancy. Will help to keep a positive spirit a smekhoterapiya. You watch chorusoshy comedies, read cheerful books and communicate with those who maintain in you optimism.