Why? Thoughts of the psychologist of a teenage drug addiction. Part 1
Teenage drug addiction and alcoholism - these phenomena became us almost habitual. Many people are not surprised any more, just slide an indifferent look on senseless persons, dirty clothes, dirty dim hair of boys and girls in the subway and on streets.
In schoolyards if you not the employee of school and not the parent, you do not come at all. I do not work at school. And I for the present have no children of teenage age. I am a psychologist. And my profession not just pitted me against the teenagers who became dependent on alcohol and drugs but also demanded to find and analyse the reasons of this trouble. Because to prevent, it is easier, than to treat.
Now a case from practice. One of those which helped me to find the answer to a question of the reasons.“Force my child to stop drinking
!“ With these words the large lady for whom the prominent guy of years of eighteen - twenty obediently trudged entered my office. From it densely bore the reek of alcohol. I suggested to tell in what business. The guy did not begin to altercate with imperious mummy, quietly explained that he really zapoyno drinks bitter, was repeatedly coded in different clinics, even went to Feodosiya to Dovzhenko. Once after the next coding wrote a subscription - a pier, knows that, having drunk at least a vodka drop, it will at once die.
- In one and a half weeks after a subscription bought a vodka bottle, - he told, - came into a resuscitation reception of “Sklif“ where “ambulances“ approach. Opened a bottle, poured a glass, put a hand on a call about a door and drank.
- And why the finger on a call held?
- If really began to die, would call what would be pumped out, - quietly explained 19 - the summer alcoholic.
Apparently, it was a little touched that the sitting next mother hardly constrained sobbings. It turned out that it already went with it and to the psychic who long drove on the alcoholic`s back some piece of iron, then gave an injection and told: “You will drink - you will die“. The guy at once after “session“ waddlingly approached a stall, took a bottle of beer and slowly “drank up“ it. He in detail told all this to the psychologist in the presence of mother who had one purpose in life - to cure the son.began to work as
Ya with them. Soon it became clear that at teenage age the boy fell in love with the girl who reciprocated to it. However imperious mother decided that that little girl - not couple to her synula - the excellent student to which still early to think “of it“.“ For the best“ - and what mother acts “from the worst“? - it separated young people, having made so that they left.
- It pushed me in army, - the guy remembered, - though I quite could come to “Baumanka“, but then we would appear with Svetka on one course. My mother so took a dislike to her that she convinced me: only the army will make “real man“ of me, and such as Svetka, at me still will be much.this History ended with
as mother wanted: her son left that little girl. And now, without realizing that... revenges mother - drinks bitter. And from what more mother suffers and worries, the more sobs, the with great pleasure he goes to the next hard drinking. And about that history with the little girl they, apparently, forgot long ago.As I already told
, it was one of those cases which helped me to approach understanding of the reasons of drug addiction and alcoholism among young people.
the Destiny of the person fantastically depends on the fact that he thought, felt, did at the advanced teenage age. Transition from school to adulthood - one of the key moments of destiny and to this period parents and teachers have to pay especially close attention. Seniors are how ready to the “socialization“ expecting them, to entry into the world of adults? Whether teenagers are ready to make independently decisions whether it is enough at them skills, knowledge and desire to become owners of own life, to build the destiny? Or they are inclined to avoid “maturity“ by means of alcohol, for example, or to look for the help at drug?we with my colleagues carried out by
For the further analysis of this problem anonymous questioning of school students in Moscow and the Moscow region. Pupils of graduation and senior classes participated in poll. At first I will just provide to you some answers given by teenagers on questionnaire questions, this in itself is very indicative, and then I will tell about our conclusions.
So, here part of answers of teenagers to the question “What Do You Know about Life?“ :
- I do not know about life practically anything.
- I know that life very short and difficult, and unclear, but fine.
- the Difficult piece but interesting. It is pleasant to me (so far).
- I know that life is very difficult, difficult, it is necessary to adapt to it to survive, it is necessary to turn in it.
- Life very difficult thing. Enters the real life of people after school. The person has always only one life.
- Konechna. It is periodical. Existence of proteinaceous ph.
- Life piece difficult. Real life jams. Life is the analysis mind of environment.
- Unpredictable. Difficult or easy - to whom as will carry. Life - love (this most important).
- Life is a test of the person on a survival. Life is a science which we study before getting to the world other, more difficult. Life is a payment for something.
- Hatred, deception, revenge.
- Life very heavy. Sometimes there is no wish to live. In life good - only love true.
is a difficult thing, but it is gift from above.
- I Know that in life friends who can trust are necessary.
- I know about life that life has no borders that people in this life of a being temporary and unclear.
- I know that the person - is more, than something organic that the person has to strive for perfection, has to seek to learn the world.
- Difficult, with large turns and surprises.
- I know a little about life: ahead uncertainty, it is necessary to live for today.
- Life - fine piece. It is sometimes difficult, is sometimes interesting and mysterious.
- Life - a delay from a next world.
- I know about life not really - that and much: difficult, unclear.
- I know that it is heavy to live. It is necessary to live, time it is given you. I have no confidence, I do not know how it is good to put the destiny.
- Life offends quite often. Life is a relationship between people.
- I know about life: the world after school differs from present. Everything is relative.
Sets thinking, whether a lie? By means of this question we found out the relation of teenagers to real life: whether they are afraid of it or want to step safely to the adult world? And, the main thing whether they are ready to such step? I entitled one group of answers the word “Interest“. By our calculations 23 percent of pupils showed the interest in the adulthood which is coming them, they prepare and aspire to it, it does not frighten them. Other answers - their 8 percent - I united the concept “Ratsio“. These teenagers estimate life very soberly and rationally, without excess emotions. And here I conditionally carried other school students participating in questioning in risk group on a drug addiction. However, you judge.
of 26 percent of the teenagers answering questions do not want to think of the future. I called their answers the word “Leaving“. Another 20 percent are “Alerted“ - those who look afar with some share of uneasiness, cautiously. And, at last, fatalists, I entitled their answers the word “Badly“. They are in advance ready for adverse effects of further life. Such - 23 percent. Undoubtedly, these 69 percent of teenagers (“Leaving“, “Alerted“ and it is “bad“) are potential addicts and alcoholics. It does not mean that all of them by all means will begin to drink and be pricked, but such children are predisposed to alcoholism.by
At these 69 percent of teenagers did not create distinct ideas of real life and the more so - ways of behavior in it. In other words, they do not know how to realize themselves in this world. For them the step to adulthood can be a step to a chasm - in embraces of drug addiction, for example. Anything to, “group“ of risk - nearly two thirds of seniors...- “That you do not know
by means of other question about life?“ - we found out the direction of the next cognitive interests of school students. There are some of their answers:
- I do not know much. It is not enough experience.
- I do not know about life: as it began as it will end. And in general I know about it very little.
- I do not know a lot of things and I do not know yet how many in life is difficulties and as long they will meet.
- Why it exists.
- I do not know why it is given me. What is it? What for?
- I know nothing about life, but life will be given us until we do not learn truth.
- Freedom - what is it?
- A lot of things. For example, loneliness.
- I do not know about relationship in life between people.
- As the world is created? How the world is arranged? What occurs after death?
- Separation from mother (long). Change of darling. As all - there was life on the earth.
- People do not know anything about anything, they think only that they know, but actually - no.
- I do not know how to achieve what you want, and I do not know yet what polar lights.
- I know nothing about process of a survival in economic life.
- Many feelings, psychology of people.
- I do not know about life in all Universe.
- I do not know much about people, and it would be desirable to understand people, their psychology. Sometimes I cannot understand their behavior.
with psychology, relationship of people, philosophy, religion. These are those teenagers who write that they do not know “as the world is arranged that occurs after death“, do not know “about people, and it would be desirable to understand them“ whom concerns, “what is freedom“. Two percent of respondents are anxious with “socialization“, entry into adulthood - they speak about shortage of a knowledge of life, skills of a survival. 7 percent of children are interested in economy. These are those who “know nothing about life“ about earnings, prestigious work, benefit...
Answers of school students give a general idea about their vital orientation. It is followed by complaints “difficult“, “hard“, “unclear“ more often, than it is “interesting“, “curious“, “attractive“ by statements. Such relation to life is natural does not bring interest in it. School students are not eager to learn life, to understand and work in it as absolute masters of destiny. From their answers it is possible to draw absolutely certain conclusion: most of teenagers guards the introduction in adulthood. Usually what the person does not know frightens, and seniors do not know what they want, do not know themselves. Therefore at children the need for knowledge of psychology of the person, about the relations between the man and the woman, about the universe is so brightly expressed. Teenagers very much like to play the psychologist and the client as such is the dominating mental function of this age.
Work with teenagers as the suffering drug addiction and alcoholism and answers of school students to questions of our questionnaire were given me practical material. It is necessary for the further analysis of the reasons and ways of prevention of teenage drug addictions will address that the psychology knows about development of the personality and features of the teenage period.we Will begin
with the fact that our brain develops unevenly. Simply speaking, there are crisis moments when formation of one departments of a brain comes to an end and more rapid development of others begins. It occurs approximately in year, three, seven, fourteen years... And during every period between crises (of a year to three, from three to seven...) at the person character and a way of perception of reality - depending on development of these or those departments of a brain changes. For example, from a year to three years it is the most interesting to child to watch how communicate mother with the father. In other words, the leading “mental function“ of this age - role interaction. If the child to force to learn English at this time, then he in English, of course, will start talking, but subsequently it will have very big problems at communication with people of an opposite sex. Life you will not deceive.
A from three approximately to seven - eight years the child learns to interact with the world of objects: investigates plants, butterflies, toys that is connected with development of the relevant departments of a brain. It is age of why-askers. The child should play at this age, but not to teach the mathematician. The person has to pass all natural stages of mental development - to play enough thoroughly, to fight with peers at teenage age... When speak about schools of early personal development where kids learn integrals nearly from the cradle, just throws me into a shiver. The personality can be formed only after the brain is created. And its development comes to the end by 15 - 16 years with maturing of frontal lobes. Only at the end of construction of the house the throne on which the owner sits is created to operate this house. Here purpose of frontal lobes. Their function - control. The child becomes the Personality when he learns to control himself - that is to be responsible for himself. The teenage period of development of the child - the last opportunity to influence formation of his personality, character. So interest at this age in psychology, philosophy, religion is not casual - it is connected with formation of frontal lobes of a brain, with the arisen need of the teenager to control itself(himself).