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How to help the grown old parents of

about five years ago 40 - summer Vera was rather afraid of the mother - that always was very strict and sharp on language. However Vera precisely knew that mother can solve any problem, give an assessment to any person and any situation, always keeping calm and a sound judgment. Mother smartly put on, regularly visited the cosmetologist and abused Vera for “laxity and spinelessness“.

Now all differently. The belief is forced to control each mother`s step: whether she ate whether she put on a skirt, whether she switched off gas, whether she took a pill and whether hid in a bedside table a cup with tea. For only several years the imperious and clever woman turned into the awkward and ridiculous old woman who can put on a nightgown, a beads, a hat and in such look to go to the street, and she can wander till midnight there. Eventually after the next complaint of neighbors Vera had to transport mother to herself because she was afraid to leave it at home one.

“The most awful, - Vera admits to

, - was to realize that my mother whom I knew all life gradually disappears. She still remembers that I am her daughter, but is already confused in events of the and my life... And I struggle with irritation and with shame which I often test for it before the acquaintances. Also I feel awfully guilty for these emotions“. Especially hard it was necessary to Vera when she gave birth to the second child. She decided to employ the nurse for mother, however it was excessive for the family budget.

If the elderly person for a long time remains to


  • Hang up on a wall a leaf with necessary phones - relatives, neighbors, registry of policlinic, the local social organization (with names and surnames of social workers if they give help).
  • do not regret time for personally to meet social workers - better to know them by sight.
  • If you know that the elderly person hides important papers and money in “hiding places“, talk to it, ask it to show you these places and explain that in emergency situation every minute spent for searches of documents is expensive.
  • Have at yourself copies of the pension certificate, the passbook, the certificate on property on housing, etc.

not one Vera faces similar problems. The aging parents require more and more attention, and their children who have already families are broken off between requirements old and small. According to sociologists, in Russia now about 30 million elderly, and 4,5% from them are more senior than 75 years. About a third of all elderly admit that to them often can be difficult himself to serve, and 31 - 40% of those to whom passed for 80 have dementia (weak-mindedness).

not all are able to afford

of Service of the constant nurse today. In Moscow, for example, it will cost 1200 - 1500 rub. in days plus expenses on journey. Continuous presence of the nurse (work with accommodation) today - at least 17 thousand rubles a month. Besides this market did not become civilized yet, and there is always a danger of fraud from on what care there is an elderly person.

one more option - well-planned nursing home at which leaving will be provided Is. So far it is not enough of those, however they appear and on the level of comfort approach the western analogs.

One of the most known - the Nikolsky Park boarding house working in Zelenograd situated near Moscow three years. The beautiful building on the bank of the lake, specially equipped numbers, good food and continuous medical supervision - all this will cost at least 1900 rub a day (at accommodation in standard number).

there was information that the Senior Hotel Group company intends to attract investors Recently and to construct about 25 elite nursing homes in Russia counting on the fact that many will agree to pay 150 euros a day. In many countries of Western Europe movement from a home to such board happens quite often. Elderly people, being afraid of loneliness and helplessness, sell the houses and move there where to them it will not be lonely and terrible.

What to esteem about it

  • of “For the aid to the elderly person. A grant for people of advanced age, and also for those who look after them“ K. G. Efremova S. A. Anufriyev, etc.
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  • “Make the house convenient if the age brings“ D. Kasta
  • “If your close has a sincere illness“ River. Vulis
  • “Practical psychology of an old age“ M. Yermolaeva

However even physicians admit safe England where nursing homes are quite comfortable, that about 8% of old men die in the first year of stay in nursing home - of a stress and sharp change of a situation chronic diseases become aggravated.

But you can help the parents to live a happy old age and without serious expenses.

Many problems of elderly come not so much from age, and it misunderstandings by people around of needs of the person, from improper conditions of life, from neglect its opportunities.

Useful things

  • of SPYTEL Security system with several functions:“ The disturbing button“ (a help call), “Bebifon“ (you can hear everything that occurs in the room in real time) and the alarm system which in the absence of owners watches the apartment by means of sensors. The price - from 13000 rub
  • Electronic boxing for the drugs HiTech Medical Box will remind
  • that it is time to take a pill. The necessary tablets are put in each office, and the program of the timer is set. The device will signal that it is time to take medicine. The price - from 300 rub
  • HotStop water temperature Limiter in the mixer of a shower or the crane will not allow to be scalded by
  • incidentally. At most of producers the limiter is ready for the most comfortable temperature +38 ° With, but there are also models to individual control. The price - from 1000 rub
  • SP Cane - 995 besides the main function of support has also several others. The small lamp is built in the handle - it joins pressing the special lever and lights the road ahead. For emergencies the cane is equipped with a siren and pass - flash. There are models in which the siren works when falling a cane on the earth. And, at last, the shock-absorbers facilitating movement on the uneven road are built in a cane. The price - about 2500 rub
  • the Bath mat fastens to a bathtub bottom suckers therefore it does not slide. The set of notches thanks to which the person feels more steadily is applied on his surface. The price - from 200 rub
Health and physical health

Equipping with

life of the elderly person, first of all it must be kept in mind features of an organism.

  • visual acuity, especially peripheral Decreases. Therefore the elderly person badly fixes a look on objects, badly sees what is sideways. Sight can worsen quickly enough therefore it is very important to consult at the oculist of times in half a year. The twilight - the most adverse lighting therefore it is necessary to open curtains at windows in the afternoon, and at approach of twilight at once to turn on lamps. Try not to rearrange and not to shift without excess need objects in the room where there lives an elderly person, otherwise it will be difficult for it to be guided.
  • the hearing Worsens, and it very much influences health in general. The person begins to feel helpless, is easily irritated. If it is necessary, buy the hearing aid and periodically check whether it works. During conversation do not turn away, do not hide the face in hands. People with bad hearing often get used to read lips. It is better to speak short phrases, whenever possible lowering a voice (low tone are perceived easier high) and not to shout and not to hurry at all.
  • That it is necessary to know about privileges, discounts and compensations

    Besides official privileges to pensioners and disabled people (this information can always be learned on Minsotszdravrazvitiya`s website: www. minzdravsoc. ru) many commercial organizations give the chance to elderly people to receive services cheaper.
    • For example, in capital baths one day a week to pensioners allow a discount in 50%.
    • Almost all modern movie theaters entered
    • into the practice to sell tickets for day and morning sessions on weekdays cheap tickets for pensioners (from 50 to 100 rub) .
    • the Few know
    • : since July 1, 2008 to the one who looks after for aged, needing leaving according to the conclusion of the doctor, the disabled person of the I group or reached 80 years, put compensation of 1200 rub
  • Sense of smell becomes dull with age, from - for it the food can seem to the elderly person tasteless and fresh. In order that it was not, it is possible to add to food of spice, tasty smelling herbs. The weakening sense of smell sometimes constitutes also danger: the elderly person can not notice a gas smell, not feel a smoke, eat the spoiled products. Therefore it is necessary to put in the apartment smoke sensors, a plate with blocking system which blocks intake of gas in a ring when fire dies away.
  • Tactile feelings change too, at people ability to the small movements worsens - they awkwardly take objects, can drop them, having wounded at the same time themselves. Try to pick up to the elderly person ware with convenient big handles, a comfortable cane, steady footwear. However elderly people very much need touches - embraces, strokings, handshake. Doctors say that tactile contact maintains self-confidence, gives feeling of necessity and a demand.
  • the Slowed-down reaction to changes of temperature which is characteristic of old people constitutes danger - the person feels a hot frying pan, too hot water in a bathroom not at once, there can be some time barefoot on an ice floor etc. Just think of it in advance, for example, having installed the mixer with restriction on temperature, having put a carpet on a floor, having bought pans with not heating handles etc.
  • It is known that elderly people often freeze - from - for age heat exchange violations therefore they have to have warm house clothes, a good blanket. But it is necessary to be extremely careful with electric hot-water bottles and blankets - it is the best of all not to use them in a dream. The matter is that at elderly there are problems with a bladder (by the way therefore the room where there lives the senior family member, has to be closely to a toilet) and in case of unexpected “trouble“ there can be a short circuit. Warm windows, put batteries with thermal control (optimum temperature +21 ° C), and you will see how comfortable “climate“ means to old people much, they become less irritable and grumbling.
  • Loss of hair very much will wound elderly people, especially women - from - for it they often are depressed. It is possible to try to correct a situation, having changed a hair-dye on more sparing, and a metal hairbrush - on wooden. If nothing helps, buy the elderly woman a suitable wig. But anyway frequent washing, combing, a hairstyle raise a self-assessment, improve mood.

In touch

the Internet - the real find for the elderly person. On the one hand, development of the computer and work with it support cogitative activity and train a brain. With another, the Internet allows to obtain information on any subject and, in - the third, compensates for the communication deficiency. In Holland people are more senior than 50 years make a quarter of all Internet users, and in Israel - 45%. In a Russian-speaking Network enough the resources which are specially intended for users “50+“ is already created. Here some of them:
  • of www. pensioner. vollar. ru Virtual school of the inexperienced Internet user. Helps to be guided with the Network and to select information on hobbies: books, gardening, travel etc.
  • of www. seniorinfo. ru Collection of useful links, documents, coordinates of the social organizations.
  • of www. seniorschool. spb. ru “School of the Third Age“ - virtual part of the St. Petersburg club of the same name.
  • of www. sta - net. ru - the website under the motto “The Best Half of Life“. Articles, councils, useful documents and references.
  • of www. 3vozrast. ru - acquaintances, articles, search of joint hobbies.
  • of www. eons. com - one of the largest world websites intended for communication of people of advanced age. Suits those who know the English, German, French languages.
Mood mental and health

the Main fear of the elderly person is designated by

in a word - “uselessness“. Even at ideal leaving the people who are not feeling involved in society to a family, to relatives, die away very quickly. From there is conclusion: it is necessary as it is possible to involve more actively the person in daily family affairs, as long as possible to keep behind him performance of simple duties. It is important also for mobility maintenance, and for composure.

At the same time elderly quickly are tired, easily lose a conversation thread, forget what there was a speech about. Therefore if you during conversation with them switch off the TV or the audio system, mutual understanding will improve.

The the person is more senior than

, the more difficult for it to be in big society: it is lost, sounds merge in a uniform rumble against which it is difficult for it to catch sense of conversation. Therefore arrival on a visit of several people can become at once accident for elderly. Talk confidentially - you will help the old person to feel much more quietly.

Forgetfulness at elderly turns into the real problem. It becomes very frequent it the first symptom of weak-mindedness (dementia). It is possible to brake this process if to understand the mechanism of short-term memory blackouts: the person perfectly remembers day of the wedding, in details describes the birth of the first child or the end of war, but cannot give a firm answer whether he had breakfast today. Experts say that memory at the same time is similar to the fenced-off site of the field in which there are gate. Information which passed through gate remains on the place, but gate are closed - more nothing inside can get. Therefore do not abuse the elderly person. Tell: “You had already breakfast today“, but do not add: “Unless you do not remember?“ you can upset with it him for all day.

By the way , in many hairdressing salons provided discounts for elderly - ask about it in the salons, nearest to the house. In the capital the resolution of the government of Moscow provided the social help a solitary life by the living elderly - in number of services besides cleaning of the apartment, changes of linen and sisterly services enter washing of the head, a hairstyle and hair dressing. If the income of the pensioner makes less than 150% of an official living wage, these services are provided free of charge, it is only necessary to write the application in social services.

When the disease amplifies, the plates with explanations fixed on objects, devices and doors of rooms will help. If the person begins to confuse days of week, months and dates, the block calendar, photos of the family with large signatures hanged on walls will help. Try not to change a habitual stop - even change of a cover with beds can confuse the old person, he will not know where to it to sleep.

Irritability and a capriciousness can have a set of the reasons - from inconvenient clothes to feeling of dependence. Try to provide to the elderly person more independence, independence if at the same time he does not do himself harm.

by What less it will solve and do

itself, that weak-mindedness will quicker progress. Encourage intellectual activity - crossword puzzles, board games, reading newspapers and books, the help to grandsons with lessons.

Alzheimer`s disease: as with it to live

This artful and still incurable illness affects generally elderly - after 65 years the probability to ache with it doubles. A disease gradual destruction of cages and tissues of a brain, especially is the cornerstone of those its sites which are responsible for memory and thinking. The illness, as a rule, proceeds 5 - 10 years: gradually the person loses memory, abstract thinking, mathematical abilities, there is a disintegration of the personality in general, ceases to move and to speak distinctly, does not recognize relatives and cannot serve itself. Today Alzheimer`s disease was well learned to be revealed and by means of drugs to soften its manifestations, to facilitate a state and the most sick, and his family. But it is very important to distinguish the first symptoms in time, having distinguished from simple senile forgetfulness and to take away the person to the doctor. Symptoms:
  • of difficulty at selection of words in conversation;
  • deterioration in short-term memory;
  • serious difficulties at adoption of independent decisions;
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  • of people it is easily lost, especially in an unusual situation;
  • a disorientation in time;
  • the initiative and motives to work, indifference and isolation vanishes;
  • of difficulty when performing difficult homework (for example, cooking);
  • interest in the hobbies and to others to hobbies vanishes earlier.
Gradually, in process of development of an illness, forgetfulness sharply amplifies, the person becomes helpless, cannot serve himself independently and ceases to understand that it is sick. There are tendencies to vagrancy (it is constantly torn from the house), sometimes - visual hallucinations. At a late stage of the patient ceases to recognize relatives, cannot move, tell and understand the speech. How to arrange life if near you the sick person?
  1. to Set a day regimen in which there are habitual occupations, having relieved thereby the patient of decision-making.
  2. to Give to
  3. the chance to do favorite thing: work at the dacha to be a carpenter, knit, etc. Any physical activity can slow down displays of an illness.
  4. not to draw attention of the patient to his failures - it leads to a stress at him and as a result to even big problems.
  5. to Ensure safety in the house: to clean the pricking and cutting objects, household poisons and drugs, to block gas, to put locks at windows etc.
  6. not to change a habitual arrangement of things in the house where there lives a patient: not to rearrange furniture, to leave free passes, not to shift things which it uses.
  7. to Support by
  8. communication with the patient, to try to speak clearly, slowly, looking in eyes. To listen to him even if stories seem ridiculous. To address validly, to support self-respect in the patient.
  9. to Avoid
  10. clothes with difficult fasteners, small buttons, having given preference to elastic bands, flypapers, lightnings. You do not hurry the patient when clothing, give the chance to put on most.
  11. Food try to cut
  12. small pieces as at late stages of an illness it is be normally difficult for person to chew and swallow.
  13. If the patient often loses things or accuses people around of theft, look for places where he can hide things. You hold near at hand twirls, points. Hide originals of documents: passports, pension certificate, documents on property. Check garbage cans before throwing out garbage.
  14. If the person leaves the house, he can get lost and even to go to other city. Take care of that in clothes pockets the note with the address and a phone number of relatives always lay. Have at yourself the recent photo of the patient - so will easier look for him. Try to attach unbreakable mirrors to all doors, own reflection in a mirror can distract from intention to open a door.
  15. Try to keep calm, not to answer with aggression aggressive behavior of the patient. Try to track that causes in it flashes of rage, switch attention to other, quieter things. 12. Do not reject the help of family members, do not charge yourself with all weight of leaving. Leave time for yourself and get rid of sense of guilt if you go to cinema, to restaurant, to friends. You do not reproach yourself - Alzheimer`s disease affects people irrespective of the social status, education, skin color.