With a mask on life of
the School class - the copy of any other collective. In it it is obligatory to eat the clever man, the clown, the derelict, the informer... By what principle children distribute among themselves these roles? What disappears under masks? And how to behave the adult that this or that manner of behavior of the child did not interfere with his education?with
these questions are answered by Oksana Razduvalova, the elementary school teacher, the winner of the competition “The Best Teacher of Russia“ within the national Education project, and the school psychologist Elena Blochina.
When children come in 1 - y a class, approximately about New year all of them only get acquainted and try to be good. But already in 3 - 4 months, having accustomed to a new situation, everyone begins to show identity. And, as a result, to play a certain role in collective. Psychologists claim: under masks which are tried on on themselves by our children their internal fears and problems most often disappear. Unfortunately, a framework into which the child drives himself can interfere not only with education, but also full development of his personality. Let`s try not to allow it.
When the third-grader Seryozha is caused to a board, on a class the snicker is rolled. Children with pleasure observe how the face of the companion is filled in with a bright flush of confusion. Seryozha hardly squeezes out words. Makes a reservation. And under a laughter of a class becomes silent finally.
- Sit down on the place, - hopelessly the teacher waves on it a hand.at all this knows to
I: Sergey - one of the best pupils in the parallel.
Before us - a bright example of hyper shyness. Such children hardly issue information, in panic being afraid to be mistaken.
to overcome this fear, the teacher can organize work of the pupil in group. That is to give one task on 2 - 3 - x the person. It is easier for timid child to communicate with peers, than with adults. Therefore he can tell quietly the correct answer to the partner in group. And that will already sound it on behalf of all group. It is important to remember that at the same time the teacher has to praise everyone!still fear of the constraining pupil of public statements can be overcome with
A, charging to it to prepare the report on subjects, interesting to him, from time to time. For example, if houses at it there lives a dog or a cat, let the child will tell on a class hour about habits of the pet.
Elena Blochina: Roots of similar shyness are usually covered with
in a family. So, if parents force horror before school, teachers, bad notes, remarks on behavior, then what to wait from the junior school pupil for?
the small child in a stupor. It is terrible to school student to be mistaken and as it seems to him, to be dishonored before the teacher and a class. And to bring thereby the parents.
... Beginning of a lesson. The teacher asks to hand over notebooks with homework. But fourth-graders Igor and Maxim declare that they did not execute it.
is some misunderstanding! - mother Maksima who came to school to find out why the son received the two exclaims. - We together houses sorted this task. And Max wrote down everything in a notebook!
the Teacher began to understand, and it became clear: the task was not performed by Igor - the boy who seeks for leadership in everything including in study. It is no wonder that, having even been too lazy, he did not want to be worst. Here also instigated the friend to show solidarity.
of O. Razduvalov:
In this case we deal with the child whom the purpose in everything to be the first faces. For the sake of it he is ready to beg for the five. And in any a situation, unprofitable for it, seeks to dodge and come off clear. Or and others to drag away for itself. Sometimes such children can even refuse to perform the teacher`s task if are not sure that they will make everything on five! And will communicate with peers only on condition of the success and leadership. As a rule, they receive the installation “be No. 1“ in a family. Therefore it is difficult to teacher to find a common language with their parents - they always on the party of the children what they made.
Parents who inspire in the children: “You are a genius! You can be only the first!“ - risk. And not only health of the child, but also his life. Stories when the graduate goes on a gold medal, but loses this way and after final jumps from a window - about them. About those who did not take out pressure and freight of responsibility.
- Me! Ask me! - the first grader Nikita pulls a hand, jumping up on a chair from impatience. Though the teacher did not even manage to explain a task up to the end. He always hurries to state the point of view. Even if it is not always correct. It has an opinion on any question. Nikita often gives cues from the place, preventing to answer companions...
of O. Razduvalov: > it is obligatory for em to eat
In each class such “upstart“. Of course, it annoys the teacher: at a lesson every minute - gold. And similar pupils, beginning to answer in essence, usually go to abstract reasonings. But if not to allow it to finish speaking, he will draw all 5 lessons that listened to him. Where exit? Let him always answer a question to the first. And then the teacher will ask children: in what the know-it-all of the rights and in what - no. And in 3 - 4 - m a class the individual written task on the same subject which is studied at present by a class will help to neutralize its activity.
By the way, behavior of “upstart“ - a signal for parents. Perhaps, they communicate with it insufficiently. Or their position is as follows: let stirs everything that wants if only did not disturb! And the child is as a result not accustomed to build correctly dialogue and to finish thought.
the Purpose of any junior school pupil - to declare oneself. And also - as if it is paradoxical sounded in this case! - to be pleasant to the teacher. Children are not able to estimate really impression which is made on people around. Here someone also undertakes a role of “upstart“.
As a rule, it is children of a choleric warehouse, and they poorly developed self-checking. From here - rough experiences, impetuous fun. They do not take out indifference to themselves. At the same time “upstart“ has usually high self-assessment. Therefore it needs to do all remarks tactfully. Also it is worth sending energy to the sports course: such child, for example, will suit command sports.
A here the phlegmatic person who needs to consider and discuss any subject up to the end “upstart“ never is even if knows as much, how many and “prompter“ schoolmates.
... At 4 “B“ a mathematics lesson. The teacher explains a new subject, but pupils cannot concentrate. In the center of attention - again Kostya. Today he got under a school desk and from there starts paper samoletik.
- Go to a corner! - the teacher does not maintain. And in a minute the class cannot stop a laughter. In a corner over Kostik - the TV. And it, having wound a television cable on a neck, represents hung up...
of O. Razduvalov:
Clever, but extremely lively children - a sign of our time. They are just physically not capable to stay quietly 45 minutes. At the same time, for example, in 1 - the m a class the arisen laughter cannot almost be stopped. So it is important not to allow it.
Therefore during a lesson I am guided by such “clown“. As soon as its stock of patience comes to an end, I suit a fizkultminutka for a class. And still we sometimes play “question-answer“: I ask a question and I throw a ball to the pupil who has to answer. And so, “clown“ usually throws a ball instead of me.
As a rule, children - “clowns“ grow in difficult families: where too strict father or not too tender, unemotional mother.
So to parents should reflect: from - for what their child is so disturbing? The school clownery is, most often, a way to cope with some internal tension, with the hidden fears.
Sometimes, amusing schoolmates, the child seeks to distract their attention from the problems with study.
Than to help such children? In - the first to liquidate possible gaps in study. In - the second to praise as much as possible: their sense of humour, plasticity... And here to become angry about “clown“ and to call him to order it is useless!
... The call on change rings, and the second-grader Denis did not manage to make set again. Already all got used to it. As well as to the fact that when the teacher asks it about something, the boy often answers inattentively. Children laugh at it: “Brake! Everything takes too much time to understand!“it only becomes more sluggish than
of O. Razduvalov:
If this is not about any functional violations, everything is reparable. For example, the slowcoach can be involved in group tasks. And to include it in strong group. Collective search of the answer shows to the child: at it too everything turns out. It is necessary to learn something concrete only. The matter is that children of such warehouse often become in a class derelicts, a laughing-stock. And the teacher needs to inspire in them self-confidence and to lift their authority among age-mates.
Main in work with the slowcoach - never to hurry him! His behavior - congenital property of nervous system. That is someone reacts to external irritants instantly, and it - slowly. Parents of such children often go into extremes: or endlessly it is abused for sluggishness, or sit over lessons together with it and for speed do everything, generally. That and another for the slowcoach unacceptably. So just have patience and to it be kind!
... That the third-grader Yulya was included into school, it is simple to learn: its ringing voice is carried along all corridors. It sounds and at lessons - is slightly more silent, but almost without ceasing. At the same time she perfectly hears everything that is explained to a class by the teacher.
of O. Razduvalov: Such “talker“ usually disturbs
, but maybe benefit to bring. She is fairly clever, simply is not able to be silent. I usually find a way out so. I put “talker“ with the most bad pupil.
I I charge to it to repeat to it everything that I tell to a class. And to explain as as it is required to do during a lesson. “Talkers“, as a rule, perfectly study!
“Talkers“ and “talkers“, as a rule, represent the mixed temperament type. They - an embodiment of the statement of scientists that pure psychotypes in the nature do not exist.
From where the requirement constantly undertakes to stir? On it there are two versions of the answer.by
First - so show the increased uneasiness and weak self-checking. Such children need to move as much as possible, and chatter substitutes for itself the movement.
occupations by dances will help to Correct behavior - they perfectly liberate. And beadwork or knitting will help to learn to concentrate.
Other option - the junior school pupil - the talker just psychologically did not grow up yet, “did not finish“.
The matter is that the motivation to study at elementary school is formed not at once. Therefore some children perceive school, first of all, as the place for communication and entertainment.In this case to parents needs to be shown to
in every possible way importance of school affairs. To make the schedule of the working day. To create the most serious and responsible attitude to performance of homework. It is necessary to inspire in the child: the school is a work.
you do not hurry to run away
Olga Korshunova, the school psychologist - the consultant, the candidate of psychological sciences.
Sometimes if the role imposed by collective oppresses the child, parents make the decision to transfer it to stronger school. They hope that the new schoolmates focused on study will be kindly treats “brake“ or timid “nerd“.But these hopes are how justified
we Will consider all pros and cons of transition to other school.
- strong, skilled teacher;
- effective training program.
- the transfer from school to school in initial classes is a serious stress for children`s mentality, especially for the timid and shy child; the child has to have
- for training in the profound program 1 - yu group of health and undoubted psychological stability, differently will be beyond the power to overcome the raised loadings to it simply.
temperament of your child
the Choleric person differs in the increased impulsiveness, strong emotional experiences. In the absence of spiritual life can be irritable, incapable of self-checking. At school it, as a rule, “upstart“ or “clown“.
the Sanguine person quickly adapts to new conditions, easily meets with people. The mimicry is rich, expressive. It is restless and needs new impressions. Does not transfer monotonous work. In the absence of the serious purposes the superficial relation to life is developed. At school he is most often “clown“ or “talker“.the Phlegmatic person is sluggish and quiet
in actions, in a mimicry, in the speech. Persistent and persistent, he seldom flies into a rage. Usually finishes any business. Maintains the equal relations with people around, but does not like to waffle. If not to correct behavior, can grow low-emotional, inclined to performance of only one habitual actions. Can be “brake“.
the Melancholiac has deep and strong feelings, but expresses them poorly. It is difficult for it to concentrate long on something. Changes, the necessity to work vigorously often cause at it brake reaction (“hands fall“). It is timid, indecisive. Help it, and he will become the deep, substantial person who is successfully coping with vital tasks. Otherwise will grow closed and disturbing. At school it - “the timid nerd“ or “brake“.