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Acquaintance. Love. Family of

... I suspect that all this occurs because we get love experience in the late childhood, and at school and in the yard, and experience of family life in the childhood (and, early) and in a family. Criteria, respectively, differ. Experience of the yard speaks - a figure, eyes (brutality), and experience of a family - ability to prepare, care of children.

Here also turns out - you fall in love on one bases, and you live - on others. And those qualities of the person which were so important at a vlyubleniye can not correspond to family life. “Tender, of course, kind, but not the owner, lacking initiative some...“

... I have an acquaintance who could be demoralized and put out of action very easily. Was in a radius of eight meters to pass to the blonde (age of 20 - 40 years) enough as the person intelligent externally turned into something incoherently clanging and inflating cheeks with what it was impossible to conduct conversation of minutes thirty. Married in students the brown-haired woman, but true, thrifty, caring for children. Could not divorce as all criteria of a family were met until children grew up. He is married to the blonde now. Plus “true, thrifty, caring for children“. It is happy. Now we wait what will be when his wife steps over an age barrier...

... A conclusion simple - before falling in love, “learn yourself, Neo“. Who you are (or itself) with whom you fall in love that for you a family. And to replace what became already outdated since our childhood and our yards. Happiness - not that prize for the sake of which play a roulette. Happiness and love is what each of us is worthy.

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If a little bit to stand at a flower stall, then it is possible to notice curious regularity. Women at a flower stall stop, go slowly, and, even despite flowers, smile. Men, passing by flower stalls, strain a little, slightly - slightly quicken the pace, having passed, relax and calm down a little. Both those, and others hardly realize the reason of change of a background of the mood. That is, if to ask them: “Why you smile?“ or “Why you passed the last several steps quicker?“ it is unlikely they will be able to answer or even to understand what asked them about. However regularity such is. The reason, as far as I understand, is simple...

... It is in love. He does not know yet whether there will be they together or not. He wants to trust in it. And still he knows that girls love flowers. And it means that right now it will go and will buy it Flowers (quite so, from capital letter, and here, actually, why). Because flowers for it (as for the average male in this country at this time) represent a certain not divided set - Flowers (can be, it still allocates in this set - roses and, for example, carnations, but it so, optionally). Approximately the same, by the way, not divided set as for most of women - Soccer, we will allow. It is inseparable on part too - Soccer and Soccer, will think. But you will not present Soccer, and Flowers... It, full of an anticipation, opens a door in flower shop, and flowers in hundreds (in thousands!) rush to it in eyes. Stress! Touch glut! It with out-of-focus pupils and a half-open mouth costs in the middle of shop, and here - that the shop assistant also strikes it the last blow. She asks it: “To you what?“... Here - that house preparations, of course, can come to the rescue. “Roses!“ - he blurts out, but the shop assistant on the lookout. “And to you what roses?“ - tenderly she asks. And it is the end. This is Austerlits and Waterloo rolled into one...

... It all - brings it Flowers. And she smiles, she looks at it, and he does not know, cannot guess why she smiles, - because flowers because spring because it came or just because it cheerful and the best... And the stress (small - small, but a stress) remains, and it can sometime move misunderstanding and ignorance of why she smiled when it brought it flowers...

A he holds flowers in hand, and looks it in the face, and it does not know too why he so looks - because he has such eyes because spring because he looks at it because she so used eye shadow...

They watch

at each other, and passersby avoid them. They speak about some trifles because they do not know about what to speak. Let`s leave them for a while.

... Years later. He does not buy by it flowers, but she smiles, just somehow in a different way, not as then. And he about himself somewhere there notes that she smiles not so. And uses eye shadow less than at the very beginning of their acquaintance. If he knows how were important for it then (and now!) flowers! If she knows what is possible and it is necessary to use eye shadow, even if he also will not tell her about what noticed, then all the same at it the mood somehow will change, and he will shorten the stride at flower shop and will overcome the small stress...

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... On the basis of the experience people draw conclusions. The question - what because I know some people who burned in the interpersonal relations so that the possibility of these interpersonal relations is not just called by these people into question, and is completely excluded. And if you believe that you are not created for family life, or in the fact that women (men) only and need one, then so it also will be as it you also will notice also such situations you and will create around yourself...

... I know two such “burned“ people. It has two families behind the back, it “remained is faithful to itself twice“, they hate the word “marriage“, and thought that they will sometime live in a family causes in them an emetic reflex. And still they love each other.

I watch

Ya this the couple sixth year. They come on a visit separately and shout at those who call them “couple“, but God forbid to somebody who does not know them, to try to flirt for someone from them. The answer will be rigid and asymmetric.

U them the difficult schedule of mutual meetings and the developed rituals of contracts at whom they will spend the night this night. On holiday they stop on different floors of hotels and visit each other by agreement.

Reaches sometimes ridiculous: was present, for example, thus as in cafe everyone paid for himself. But for them game is worth the candle. They burned “on a family“, and they do not want to destroy the happiness. For each other they - not a family, but “the union of lonely wolves“, and for this “union of lonely wolves“ they fight with Destiny the seventh year. I believe that they will win.