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“The son does not sit minutes in place, everything runs, jumps, it is impossible to draw with anything its attention though would sit down, played as others“... “My Sveta all the time in the movement, just was in kitchen, and already in the room, on a sofa jumps. Along a corridor rushes as got, any animated cartoon will not watch to the end“...“ He all day long costs on the head, will not sit down, will not listen to the fairy tale, well only if before going to bed“... If all aforesaid is familiar to you if you can continue these statements, so you have every chance to call the child hyperactive. Let`s understand that it means.
the First year of life of the kid - the hard time for parents filled with doubts and sleepless nights. However this period has indisputable advantages: you always precisely know where there is your child: in a bed, a carriage, an arena. Right after that as the child starts walking, the situation essentially changes: he needs to visit anywhere and everywhere. If the young pedestrian lives in the apartment, then after studying of rooms, its attention will switch to kitchen, a bathroom, a corridor. The inhabitant of the whole house has a scope, of course, more, and in the field of his sight also the ladder on the second floor, and some utility rooms will soon get. At the same time all young pioneers are uniform in one: they should bypass all the possession several times a day and when legs hold more strong - to run all over.
the Guarding activity
Of course, the first steps extremely please parents. And further physical activity in itself whatever rough it was usually is not a reason for concern. On the contrary, sluggishness, isolation, adult gravity guard much more. When the child starts walking, adults, as a rule, care for its safety more: collisions with a plate, electric devices, acute angles not always come to an end safely. And all parents try to preserve the beginning researcher against too close “communication“ with danger sources.
Adults seldom see a doctor with complaints to mobility of the child. Sometimes it happens that, having addressed the doctor in other occasion, they unexpectedly learn that the kid is hyperactive, and receive the whole list of drugs. However the adult who does not have special knowledge it can be sincerely unclear what here, actually, to treat:“ Well, runs that they are all children run, on that they and children“. But there passes some time (one and a half or two years), and from house outlaws the young hero (heroine) goes to kindergarten. And there, already in group of kids, it should jump, run, enjoy life and to take part in the first public actions: collective games, the musical and developing occupations.
Knows that in kindergarten kids have to be able to hatch out on occupations on ten - fifteen minutes (to manage to draw something, to stick together, collect) and to play games with certain rules. If your child instead runs on the room, as before, without being late at a table longer than for a minute (and it despite numerous efforts of tutors and teachers to draw its attention), you have an occasion to reflect. In aspiration to somehow change a situation parents act differently: someone tries to seat by force the child to play, work or at least to listen to the fairy tale. Someone tries to bribe: “You will sit quietly - you will receive a toy (candy)“. Impatient and violent shout and even punish. Desperate wave a hand and agree, eventually, with opinion of most of acquaintances and relatives - will grow up, everything is formed. But the farther, the difference of your supermobile treasure from other children becomes more noticeable. And here your sonny chases a cat or shoots from a toy machine gun at the neighbour`s boy who does not miss meanwhile an opportunity to show you the favourite book or the last water color masterpiece “Fall in the wood“. And your pleasure for the beginning artist is saddened by reflections of type: “And mine as? Than it is worse?“
In what business?
Let`s together try to understand that happens to your kid. For a start try to look at his behavior “sober view“. On the one hand, he at you rather clever, well is guided in life (and in equipment understands even better than the grandmother: already mastered the videorecorder!) and about an arrest of development neither in a garden, nor in policlinic nobody speaks. But on the other hand, you cannot but pay attention to his impatience and mobility, especially if the situation demands relative tranquility. This impatience can be shown in a begonia and jumping around a table, jumping from the place when it is necessary to sit, excessive garrulity and a shumlivost, fidgeting and an izvivaniye. Such behavior also carries the name “hyperactivity syndrome with violation of attention“. Scientific evaluation criteria demand that the similar picture of behavior was observed more than in one situation (for example, at home and in kindergarten).
But how to distinguish just lively and living child from hyperactive? Activity of the last is usually higher, than that is demanded by a situation, and strongly differs from behavior of other children of the same age and intellectual development. That is unlike the peers the hyper mobile kid in any conditions (houses, on a visit, on the street or in kindergarten) will equally behave (he will run, jump and jump everywhere), and in response to infinite appeals and requests of parents to stop, most likely, will continue to rush and spin. But why this behavioural feature becomes especially noticeable in kindergarten? Because exactly there the kid for the first time gets into a situation organized, demanding from him a certain extent of self-checking. Perhaps, will seem to you that to demand self-checking from the little man absolutely useless occupation. However if you attentively look narrowly at children`s collective, then will find as enough organized children there, and that at whom “harmless“ bustle in practice turns into insufficient interest in occupations which demand at least the minimum intellectual tension. Besides, in behavior of hyperactive children the aspiration to pass from one business to another is traced, without finishing any of them. What is such behavior fraught with? In a combination to poorly adjustable or excessive activity it can lead to a delay of motor and speech development, and further to difficulties in school training.
Why the hyperactivity arises? As a rule, a certain trouble is its reason during pregnancy (especially the first half) and childbirth. Children whom can call hyperactive subsequently usually right after the birth become object of close attention of neuropathologists. Quite often at them note a hyper tone of muscles, in some cases PEP (post-natal encephalopathy), quite often in their medical records it is possible to meet reduction MBD (minimum brain dysfunction). At the same time for all first year of life of such children it is impossible to call meek creatures - they are easily excited, badly fall asleep, sleep a little, frequent in the afternoon, but not at night. Sometimes they suffer also from problems with digestion: they note the reduced or increased appetite, frequent vomiting, vomiting, locks, ponosa. It should be noted that sometimes supermobility and violation of attention can be observed at children who got into a difficult emotional situation, endure a depression or similar to it disturbing and depressions. Unlike adults who at the time of a stress most often begin to behave it is slowed down and is passive, children, on the contrary, look overexcited and too active. Frequent the behavior externally similar to a hyperactivity syndrome becomes reaction of the child to such difficult situations as divorce of parents, death of one of them, a separation from a family: the same increased physical activity, restlessness, an otvlekayemost. To help the kid to cope with a situation, it is necessary to find the true reason of his alarm and fears and to direct the main efforts to its elimination. What can help with fight against the existing problems (the special drug treatment appointed by the neuropsychiatrist or occupations with the psychotherapist or maybe that and another), in each case the doctor has to solve. In case of successful solution of problems which disturb the kid the hyperactivity will disappear by itself as high temperature when there passes the inflammation disappears.
How to help the kid?by
It no wonder that from - for own impulsivenesses hyperactive children constantly get into different troubles and receive infinite remarks from adults. However you do not hurry to abuse them, to shame or punish. Understand that all these incidents occur by itself and your child, most likely, does not set before himself the purpose to annoy you or to violate the established rules of conduct. By the way, do not forget also that the kid will get used to constant hails and threats soon and will cease to pay attention to them. Much more usefully both for you, and for the fidget there will be an attempt to construct the relations on the basis of mutual revenue where you, of course, will carry out more active role. But it and is unsurprising, from efforts which you make for recovery of the kid, his future depends now. Having heard the word “hyperactivity“ from the doctor, you should not give in to panic, on the contrary, it is necessary to try to collect forces, to stock up with patience (and it it is required oh as much!) and to start business. For a start you need to get used to thought that continuous excitement of the kid tires not only you, but also him, however, unlike adults, the child is not able to cope with it independently yet. You will help it by means of massage, a relaxing bath before going to bed, the silent, pacifying music. However it is better to postpone all this until evening and what to do during the whole day? If the main problem of the kid consists in excessive activity and a carelessness, then you can try to teach him to regulate own activity. Of course, this business long and labor-consuming, but you will not regret about result. But how to teach so serious things of it the baby? As time of “adult“ talk did not come yet, game remains in the most suitable way to teach the child of self-control. It is known that in any game there are rules to which each participant has to submit. And even throwing each other of a ball if it is made not just like that, and on the conditions which are thought up by you and taking into account some teams, can serve a goal. Assimilation by the child of that action program which will be offered to it by the adult will become the first step to overcoming of difficulties. The problem of the last is in monitoring actions of the kid, not to allow a randomness of movements and to subordinate them to some sequence. After you overcome this stage, suggest the child most to plan game and to think up some rules. However you should not insist too. Wait until the kid ripens“ before. The main thing that game carried away it. Then he will surely learn to plan it and to think out simple rules. Do not forget: when the kid learns to regulate own activity, it will be much easier for it to communicate with peers, if children are not able to follow rules and constantly they are broken, there will be a few persons interested with them to play.It is very hard for
, but too it is very important to teach the child “to cool down“ and to look quietly at the events around. For this purpose you can use the following receptions: when by your hasty offspring once again runs, try to stop him. Softly, without raising the voice, suggest it to have a rest, embrace for shoulders, tenderly stroke on the head, pay attention to surrounding people and toys, ask to tell what is done by the father, the grandmother where his favourite bear lies or what costs on a table. Then you can hide some toy and after a while ask what disappeared and that remained. In case your efforts are not crowned with success, be not upset and do not abuse yourself. Ask for the help the psychologist better. Having special knowledge, he will be engaged with the child himself and will tell you as it is better to arrive in different situations.