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There is no dismantling in a sandbox of

Probably, such parents who would not come up against such situation. You leave to walk with the child on the platform, in a sandbox, your child long collects favourite toys (a bucket with shovels, molds, pieces of chalk, soap bubbles), the sun shines, the soul rejoices to already as in summer warm sun... But... foreign child tries to select

of the Toy, pours out your soap bubbles, your kid wants to look at others toys, but in exchange is hit in a forehead a scoop or sand in eyes. On your angry remarks concerning behavior of the child his mother with a lovely smile says that it brings up the child by a new technique and at all it is impossible to forbid children under 5 years anything. And as a result you, boiling from indignation, you drag off the shouting child to other place, in soul offense, mood it is spoiled, and on a forehead bruise is poured by blue... Sometimes, if aggressive fathers became witnesses children`s dismantling in a sandbox immoderately, business reached also dismantling between them. There were murder cases...

A happens, as your child from an angel turns into the little imp, brings all kids who are pottering about in the same sandbox, and you are forced to run as from a battlefield under shouts of the indignant mothers, promising houses to arrange scolding to the. How to make that walk did not become every time test for the fortress of nerves and durability of foreheads?

If the child does not want to go and play

with other children at all, do not force it. Each child has the rhythm of entry into new collective - someone to a descent becomes a ringleader, and someone should get accustomed at first from far away, to try to make friends carefully, and then, maybe, to play together. Therefore if your kid pulls you from the company of children aside, follow him. Time will come, and he will rush in the general company, and you will be able to read the book on a shop.

Try to accustom carefully him to game in collective, you learn the example. Approach other child, greet, ask, what is his name, tell how call yours, ask permissions to play with it and if other kid opposes - do not insist on joint game. Respecting interests of another, you set an example and to the kid and let it know, as his interests will be considered too. Try to play first with the same children that your kid had not to face new faces if he hardly joins collective. The basic principle - gradually, without insisting, following speed of your child.

From your child were taken away by toys, broke his Kulichiki. the Main thing - tranquility. Look at first as your child reacts to a situation. Very often what we perceive as outrage that does not seem to the child. Perhaps he also really wishes to share this time. Of course, if it occurs every time, and your kid sponsors for all yard then it is necessary to reflect why it occurs. If the kid cannot cope, and already tears fill eyes, take a situation in hand. Approach together with it the aggressor, quietly and politely ask to return a toy or to change it for another. Try to offer other toy if your kid needs that. If nothing helps, call to the aid mother of “offender“, only refrain from reproaches not to spoil walk to either themselves, or the child.

your child plays

with others, but does not want to share anything. And let does not share. Or it becomes a shame to you that your kid will be regarded as the greedy person? So it is only your perception. The small child - the egoist. Its toys are its treasures. You would share the diamond jewelry or a fur coat from valuable fur? Here that is the same... And do not select at all and do not give its toy to other kids even if they are younger than yours. In this case you just become the traitor of the own child. It turns out that you on the party of some foreign “aggressor“. Instead explain to other child that for your kid it is a favourite toy therefore ask it not to take it. Offer in exchange another. If your kid offers another the toys, surely praise him. Gradually he realizes “benefit“ of the fact that it is possible to share.

your child - the fighter and the squabbler. It at your emergence other mummies begin to collect toys and to look for other place for walk? Do not try to walk with the kid in lonely places after hours. Perhaps it is still simply small and is not able to consider interests of people around and their feeling. You teach it to interact in collective. All the time explain and you comment on the events. As soon as you see its feeble efforts to put up a fight, to select others toy, stop and explain why it cannot be done. You learn not to select, and to change. Apologize and you teach the child to apologize if he offended another. If arrangements do not help, switch it to other occupation, play other game. Explain why you made it. Explain that if he behaves so, you should leave home. But do not threaten, namely explain.

Think up to the kid some interesting game with little men, animals, machines in the same sandbox that it played near other children and toys, but it was busy with the business.

Small children do not understand that they cause to each other pain. Therefore they should explain to a thicket it.

In general, it is not necessary to interfere with the children`s conflicts often. Let the child himself look for ways of an exit from them and shows independence. Such experience is very important for children. Their ability to build the relations with strangers begins with it. And then it is possible to discuss a situation, the cause of conflict, other ways of its decision. And surely praise the kid for the fact that he found independently a way out of the conflict.