Game in the conditions of a time trouble. Golden rules of planning of time of
One of the most serious problems of young mother is that it lacks time and forces practically for anything, except the newborn child. Not incidentally the first months are after the delivery remembered as time when not that in a mirror to look at themselves - there is no time to eat. And even if relatives help to look after the child to young mother, for the hostess there is a purchase of products, cooking, cleaning etc. From a huge number of affairs which oppress the daily repeatability and quite real impossibility of performance arises not only physical, but also psychological tension that complicates life of the feeding mother even more and saddens joyful feeling of motherhood. In our new heading we suggest to look at a question of the escaping time rationally: where to find the hidden reserves how to understand on what it is possible to save on time and forces which are so necessary to mother now?
the Time trouble is a usual condition of the young mother who remained alone with the newborn and all former household chores from which nobody exempted it. Thus, in days there were still 24 hours, but during this time it is necessary to manage to make twice more than former. Whether it is possible to realize it? It is possible, but on condition of rational distribution of time. Not incidentally today psychologists created special trainings which form at participants ability accurately to plan the time and to achieve goals is a so-called time - management. Let`s try to apply its achievements in life of young mother, having formulated several basic rules and having corrected them taking into account needs of the newborn.
Rule 1: make the plan next day . At the same time fix results and the purposes, but not abstract actions in your plan. Write, for example, “to wipe floors“, but not “to clean the apartment“, “to obtain information from the doctor on it - that to a question“, but not “to talk to the doctor“. Then number the planned affairs in an importance order. Pay attention to allocate priorities. For this purpose draw on a sheet of paper two perpendicular lines so that they divided a leaf into four squares. In the first bring important and urgent issues, in the second - important, but not urgent, in the third - unimportant, but urgent, in the fourth - unimportant and not urgent. When priorities are placed, define, what is the time has to take away from you each concrete business then summarize the general time which you planned to spend. If you find out that you reserved more than 60% of the time, it is necessary to reduce the list ruthlessly. Think over what of the planned affairs can be entrusted and what demand reduction of the released time.
Rule 2: if to unite performance of several small on volume, but similar works on character in working blocks, then the saving of time will be available. For example, in a certain interval of time concentrate on kitchen affairs: cooking, washing of ware, cleaning in kitchen - it will allow you not to spend time for running to and fro, and in one place quickly to make everything planned. For the one who constantly interrupts the work for performance of a task, it is necessary much more time, than concentrated only on performance of work of the same volume. Breaks demand additional expenses of time and efforts for next “running start“ and “immersion“ in work.
Rule 3: adhere to the principle of establishment of priorities when performing all types of works. > it is much more important to strong to Descend in the planned time with the child in children`s policlinic on reception, than to iron diapers therefore it is possible to refuse the second, without trying to complete it in the middle of the night. Do not forget that the stress arises not from what we made, and from what we did not manage to make: we are oppressed by consciousness that we did not manage to finish the work planned per day. The only opportunity to cope with a stream of affairs - it is accurate and unambiguous to establish priorities, being guided by achievement of goals and performance of really important issues.
Rule 4: fully use delegation of own powers. Any person, and young mother in particular, should not do everything. They by all means have to carry out those tasks which performance others could undertake. Here options are possible: in advance discussed help of relatives and acquaintances and paid services. The principle of delegation in that and in other case is identical: accurately and unambiguously discuss that will it is made other person: mother, the mother-in-law or the housekeeper come not in order that “to help about the house“ and to make concrete business - to wash up windows, to buy products, to make a lunch, etc.
the Rule 5: perform large tasks small parts (tactics of “cutting of a salami“). the Purposes and tasks also should divide into small portions and to carry out them during rather long time, every day allotting for this work approximately two hours. On reaching the first intermediate purpose also certain results which will stimulate performance of the remained tasks will come to light. For example, it is it is unlikely expedient to young mother to plan clear-out for the whole day. It is it is all the same unattainable. Therefore it is worth segmenting it: today - to wash up windows, tomorrow - to wash curtains, the day after tomorrow - to sort a case or to wash up a tile in a bathroom etc. Step by step the achieved result will take away less than forces and nerves.
Rule 6: carry out the main tasks in the morning; it gives, among other things, feeling of success per day. Who did not endure it: in the middle of the day all plans are overset from - for unforeseen circumstances. However what is already made in the morning: the apartment which is tidied up during a dream of the kid, the washed linen, the made lunch - creates feeling of success for all day; nobody will be able to take away or spoil result of morning work at you any more.
Rule 7: consider in working plans of fluctuation of level of working capacity. the Majority of us on itself feels that labor productivity during the day changes, it reaches peak, sharply decreases. There is it irrespective of whether the person is “lark“ or “owl“. Anyway it is necessary to plan performance of the most important works for the working capacity increase periods. At this time the person feels full of strength and manages to make much more and with the best result, than during working capacity recession, for example, after a lunch. The works of routine character which are not of great importance should be carried out in an afternoon. When planning affairs per day it is necessary to remember that the most important issues are carried out at the beginning.
Rule 8: plan for yourself rest. Without it to young mother difficultly it will be full to live till the evening, and the collected fatigue will be shown by a stress or failure of all plans. For example, during walk with the child it is quite possible to read the book, to take a walk in park, to communicate to other mummies and to discuss with them pressing problems - to whom that it is more pleasant. But you surely have to have such reserve stock of personal time which can be used at own discretion.
Rule 9: analyze the received results. Be verified with the plan made per day and think where the reality dispersed from it and why. Perhaps, you did not consider when planning any factors, gave themselves to distract to someone to unnecessary talk etc. Having analysed records, you for certain will find out that some affairs flow from one plan in another, and remaining on paper. Try to understand why it occurs, without forgetting at the same time the simple rule: if for any business you constantly do not have time, most likely, it for you not so important, so, it can and be postponed until the best times - for example, washing of a chandelier or washing up of all wine glasses in a case.
Rule 10: plan “at bedtime“. The matter is that psychologists advise to pay attention to planning in the evening, shortly before a dream. It appears, in this case you will manage to involve the subconsciousness. During a dream you will work unconsciously on solving the problems and to achieve goals. But that subconsciousness earned, the starting point is necessary. And this point - the list made by you put for tomorrow. It is known that the solution even of the most complex challenges often comes to the person in a dream. Therefore, having made in the evening the strategic plan, you can wake up with fresh thoughts of how to realize it in the best way.
of Progress to you! Also you remember that ability to plan the time is useful to you in any business, helping to achieve the necessary result.