How to bring up the clever man and the clear head? All parents want
that their children found the calling, however many do not know how to reveal abilities of the child, and “just in case“ write down it in all possible circles and studios - a pier where - nibud something yes will be shown. At the same time still demand from the child that he studied perfectly well, read, played sports, that is corresponded to idea of parents of harmoniously developing personality...
how to find out in what area your child is gifted as you can help it to find yourself and about many other is told by the famous teacher and the journalist, the chairman of the commission by training of the Moscow City Council the honored teacher of Russia Evgeny Abramovich Bunimovich.Each to their own
of Ability in various fields of knowledge are shown by
at different age. For example, mathematical endowments and abilities to sign systems in general including to language, become obvious early enough. But at the same time touches me that some paid economic higher education institutions at first made the senior classes at schools where they train graduates for receipt in the higher education institution, then made high school, and then - opened special kindergartens for those who will go to get then economic education. In these kindergartens at five-year-old children allegedly develop economic abilities. It is absurdity because at preschool age tendency to economy as to science cannot be revealed, and in such kindergarten you will pay money only for big words - “economic educations“. In my classes there were children who early enough showed abilities to practice - the focused economic area. But, naturally, it was not earlier than in the eighth - the ninth class, at teenage age. Therefore and it is necessary to develop different abilities at different age. For example, the same mathematical can be developed rather early, and here economic or, say, psychological - when the child already the teenager. Whether the preschool child can show abilities in the field of psychology? The answer is obvious: of course, no.
to reveal abilities of the child, to parents it is necessary to be sensitive, they have to be attentive at communication in a family. How, for example, we with the wife noticed that our son has abilities to mathematics? Yes, of course, in my family and I, both the grandmother, and the grandfather, and my parents, and the brother - mathematicians therefore manifestation at the son of mathematical abilities was not something improbable, but we understood that it has abilities to sign systems thanks to such episodes. From time to time in the evenings I offered the three-year-old son: “Give I to you I will read the fairy tale about the Cinderella or the Snow White“. And the son answered me it:“ No, the father, read to me, please, the subway map from Belyaevo station to VDNH station. That is at it already then interest in sign systems was shown, he liked to study the subway map. It was possible to call two any stations, and he on memory told how to go from one to another, with all stops and changes - it was the main house attraction. Thus, first of all parents have to try to understand what is pleasant to the child to what there is an obvious predisposition.And attentively to watch
what attracts the son or the daughter that it is interesting to them, it is necessary not necessarily at school. School process is rather limited. During training endowments in the field of mathematics, chemistry, languages, literature can come to light, but there are also other abilities which badly or at all do not come to light at school. For example, leader - one of the main abilities which is necessary or very demanded today, communicative abilities - ability to communicate. And at school there are no such objects as “leadership“, “communication“. Means, it is necessary to look not only at estimates, but also to listen to the child, to observe what interests him out of school as he communicates and interacts with other people.to
Of course, with detection of abilities of the child can be helped by experts, but nobody knows it better than parents, nobody can define better than parents what actually attracts it. By the way, endowments and the sphere of interests can disperse too. For example, one my schoolgirl was brilliantly gifted in the field of mathematics, but at the same time the mathematics did not interest her at all. whether
It is easy to be the child prodigy?I consider
Ya that when parents try to teach something the child as soon as possible, it is not really correct way, especially in modern conditions. I arrived on mekhmat MSU in fifteen years, my son - in fourteen therefore both of us are examples of early development, but our cases illustrate system of the Soviet education when owing to its features specific features were not really considered. Now, thank God, there is a mass of opportunities to be engaged in something besides school. And therefore I am not confident that to parents it is necessary to try to teach to read, write, consider the child as soon as possible, to solve complex problems and to send him in five years to school and to fifteen - to higher education institution. For me and for the son our early entering a higher education institution ended rather safely, we successfully adapted at university among those who were more senior than us. But in general, if the child is ahead of the peers in intellectual development, he appears in the company of more adult children and it is psychologically not so simple to it to find the place in this society.
on the other hand - where, as a matter of fact, to hurry? The childhood is not preparation for a growing, it is one of the most significant periods in life, or perhaps the best and the most important. Therefore it is not necessary to perceive children as the left unfinished adults. And I consider that to keep thinking only of the future of the child and to make efforts for as soon as possible to arrange this future with it what it seems to parents it is wrong in relation to children even if someone at the same time and tries to obtain success.
one more problem of early development Exists. The authority of our schools - musical, ballet, gymnastic - is recognized around the world. Our ballerinas and figure skaters already at early age reach improbable professional heights. But at the same time - a big question that becomes farther with these talents. First of all health, especially at gymnasts, figure skaters because these girls were pererazvita at children`s age suffers - it is without speaking about fractures, injuries and other. Besides, and with their social adaptation there is a mass of serious problems.Same
and with musicians. If it is a musical family which rigidly decides that their child will be a musician, then it is clear - they live in the world and do not represent for the son or the daughter of other destiny. But in general it is worth thinking: when you send the child to School Gnesinykh or to school at conservatory, it means that you in five years - and there accept since five years - choose his destiny because this full-fledged professional educational institution. Whether it is worth doing it?If the person after ballet school dances
on a scene of the Bolshoi Theatre or after the termination of conservatory plays in a national orchestra - it is one, but through ballet and musical schools there pass much more people, than we see then on a scene. Or perhaps at those whom parents the strong-willed decision push in these prestigious schools and schools, in general other sphere of interests?
In captivity at parental ambitions
On a legend, Beethoven was fastened to the tool - and thanks to it the great composer grew up from it. I categorically against such approach. Yes, it is necessary to understand that the doctrine is not only the pleasure, is work and to learn, it is necessary to make effort. But this effort has to be adequate to the child`s opportunities. How many people who were also fastened to a piano not only betkhovenam did not grow, but became from - for it unfortunate for the rest of life? How many the broken destinies!
Ya itself I select children in mathematical classes and when I make selection, I explain to parents that the child has no outstanding abilities to mathematics, but it is for certain gifted in some other area, at everyone the abilities. And in other conditions he will show these abilities, but in a mathematical class he is doomed to complexes, doomed to feel second-grade. Therefore it is very important to follow the child, to look for his abilities, but not to impose him that as you consider, will suit it, not to force to be engaged violently in what is not pleasant to it.you Study
Parents often complain that if not to control the child, not to plague it during performance of homework, then he will do nothing. In such situation it is necessary to penetrate into what occurs first of all. Perhaps at all it is not necessary to do this task? Not so each homework makes sense. Parents have to study together with the child, understand what he studies to and why it is necessary.
the child at school has to have an individual educational trajectory. We try to provide it - we had lyceums, gymnasiums, profile training, but mainly parents have to resolve this issue - they best of all know the child. Parents have to understand so its abilities to have full authority to tell:“ Yes, this subject - not yours, but three points you in it are obliged to have, it is desirable four if you can“. It is not necessary to force the child to study in all objects equally.
Exceptional children at all not always round excellent students, opposite: in one area they can be brilliant, and in some another - to be in general incapable. For example, my son terribly badly drew. And it was senseless to abuse it for it - for it drew pictures in school my graduates. And I, by the way, do not understand how for drawing - the same as for physical culture - it is possible to give marks. In my opinion, it is absurdity. But traditions of our Soviet education are that. And if the school where your child goes, continues similar absurdity, then it is necessary to protect in some way it from it. The mark for the fact that he did not learn verses a formula is one, and a mark for the fact that he badly drew something or is inexact sang - it is absolutely another.I consider
Ya that adults have to control not only the child, but also school process. Parents have to participate in life of school what they usually do not do, and instead abuse the pupil, without pondering upon the fact that requirements to it are often absurd.
I if the teacher or, God forbid, the director abuses the child, then it is impossible to get up near them and to abuse chorus. If he made a bad act, then has to understand that it does not mean that he bad - it means that it badly arrived, but at the same time it is all the same loved, all the same it the best and to it will help to overcome this act. The child always has to have a protection, a wall behind, he never has to be one - especially gifted. Such children are very vulnerable, with them it is necessary to behave especially attentively and delicately.
One solution of two problems
Once I had two meetings in a row. Parents of one child came and complained that their son, the teenager, does not read any fiction. “What to do?“ - they asked. And, in spite of the fact that I am a professional writer, I told them: “You have a normal, good, decent, well-mannered guy. It comprehends moral bases not through fiction, and in other ways. Sport, computers are more interesting to it, it is not necessary to force it books, it was already created, with it everything is all right, leave him alone“. But the most ridiculous that on the same day to me parents of his schoolmate came was asked: “The son does not do homework, in the night from a small lamp Mastera and Margarita“ reads “. We forbid - he reads. What to do to us?“ And so I told them too: “Leave him alone! If he reads Bulgakova at night, so he needs it. Why you think that lessons which he left unfinished have to mean to him more, than “Master and Margarita“?“
the Main discovery which was made by our pedagogics for the last fifteen years is that all children - different. And the most senseless - to give the general advice. Except one: you look at the child more attentively.