Big change of
September - special month in life of our children. After long summer holiday they should return to working everyday life, and to someone to take the first steps in school life. And each parent worries whether the child will be able to adapt to future changes rather successfully.
What is felt by the children who are coming back to the city after summer vacation? Among variety of what they test there are many positive feelings: curiosity, expectation, pride that matured for a year, aspiration to succeed, hope that they will well handle new responsibilities and will achieve progress. But most of children has also negative emotions - fear of uncertainty, unwillingness to work, aspiration to avoid innovations, intensity, feeling of alarm from a meeting with collective, fear to leave parents. Even if your child with pleasure ran in school all last year, it does not mean at all that he is ready to stop driving all day long on are big and to return to measured life.
to increase positive emotions and to minimize negative, it would be useful to follow the simple rules which concern both school students with an experience, and tomorrow`s first graders. It is reasonable to train the child for change approximately in two weeks prior to significant day, gradually transferring it to the schedule to which he will adhere during academic year. Begin to consider together how many days remained prior to occupations. Together be engaged in purchase of a stationery and clothes for school - let it will have a feeling of control of a situation and he will wait for working everyday life with a great interest. The children who are coming back to native school usually manage to miss during the summer schoolmates, they hope that they will start new year “with a clean slate“, will correct last year`s errors, will become better to study and will make even more good friends. This hope - a good beginning which parents should support, encouraging the child and expressing confidence that he by all means will achieve progress. Is much more productive to encourage and state trust to opportunities of future pupil, than to remind him of former mistakes and to sermonize long how it is not necessary to behave.
Children who pass into new school experience more intensive emotions: their expectations are, as a rule, overestimated, they often are anxious how there will be relations with new schoolmates and teachers. Parents will render to the child good service if they validly and quietly listen to him and will assure that he by all means will be able to make friends with schoolmates and to achieve achievements in new school. List what difficulties it already successfully overcame in the life, and surely tell about the readiness if necessary to help it to accustom to difficult new conditions.
Parents of first graders, as a rule, worry not less child, especially if the kid grew in house conditions. Most often successful adaptation is prevented by alarm of parents. If you very much worry concerning its school, at first cope with the feelings. You are afraid that the child will begin a thicket to be ill? You are afraid that he will be offended? Are not ready that it will have close people outdoors? You are anxious what he will begin to be punished too severely? You are nervous on the fact that other children will teach him to some bad words?
do not hesitate of these feelings and imaginations. All loving parents had to pass through this stage. You need time too to get used to thought that your kid already grew up and enters a new phase of independent life. Time is required to discuss the feelings with relatives, to laugh at the fears, to talk to future teachers. Having met teachers in advance, you will be able to understand better to whom you trust the child. You will be able to ask: how many children in a class? What is usually done if someone got sick, choked, fought? How contact parents in case of emergency?
Answers of teachers will help you to make the correct decision. When you feel confident, will manage to transfer the tranquility to the little school student.
The more simply and obyknovenny your kid will look, the it will be easier for it to find the place among age-mates. The child who has bright clothes and expensive motley pencils, cases, bows becomes similar to a bright butterfly, he draws too close attention to himself and it becomes easy object of sneers. In aspiration to unity the children`s collective quickly divides weight on ““ and “others“. Those which the majority get to ““. In “others“ write down minority - we will tell, the child with obvious physical defect or the only boy in a dress coat and with a butterfly among children in undershirts and jeans.
If your child inevitably treats minority (too full or too small growth, the only representative of other nationality in a class), then it is necessary to meet teachers in advance and to tell them as you help it to cope with its difficulties. Tell how you teach it to overcome confusion and to protect the advantage. Ask teachers as they solve similar problems.
After thorough training the child comes to new school. And here - the moment of which you so were afraid. He sulks and begins to complain: “I do not want to remain here! Take away me home!“ If you are not ready to such turn of events and are lost - the child will double noise attack and will flavor it with drama effects. It can be pushed to the floor and arrange a hysterics. Can nestle on you so that three adults will not drag, or to hide in a corner and to begin to shiver. In a word, it will detain you on a threshold of school and will turn parting into a heart-breaking scene. For permission of similar difficulties it makes sense to follow the simple rules:Train for
- the child for an event in advance.
- Lift the kid a bit earlier that its time was quiet to wash, put on, have breakfast, to wake up completely and a little bit with you to fool about. Having loaded since morning with good emotions, he will far easier transfer the future separation. It is not less important to senior school students to drink with a family to tea before school.
- At parting give it a surprise: ridiculous drawing or an amusing signet on a palm. Encourage him and be positive and quiet.
- Wish it kind day, tell that you love it and by all means by the evening you will come for it. Quietly embrace and you leave, having waved with a hand.
After the kid will come home, ask what good at it occurred today. Do not forget to ask this question daily and to the senior school students. Try not to hurry with the answer and attentively listen to the story.
For successful adaptation to the child needs to learn to show flexibility, optimism, a sense of responsibility. It needs to develop ability to switch from one kind of activity to another. Support of all family, soft humour, patience and goodwill, tranquility and readiness to give to the little person is more than independence in performance of homework and preparation for the following school day by all means will make it more protected and confident in the forces.