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All parents want that children studied well, but not all manage to it to be glad. In what a secret of school progress?

Everything depends on abilities - will tell one. The general culture of a family, traditions is important - the second will think. The main thing, is good to prepare the child for school, to develop all necessary skills, to adjust it for study - the third will draw a conclusion. However often it happens that at magnificent abilities the child just does not want to study. He tests elementary laziness or to him is uninteresting - and nobody can make anything. And here family with magnificent traditions: the father is a professor, mother - the candidate of science, all - everything, including the grandmother, graduated from higher education institutions with diplomas with honors, and the child is absolutely indifferent to study. True misfortune for a family, in which education - the supreme value! And as for intense training to school, it sometimes causes opposite reaction:“ Bothered! Was tired!“.

we Will talk about motivation

“So to do? - will ask those whose child does not want to study. - Teachers are powerless, and we too! Whether it is possible to solve a problem?“

It is possible for

for this reason time to talk about motivation - a driving force of any activity - and studies including. But here not to do us without some psychological terms.

the Motivation is a set of the motives forcing the person to make this or that action. The motive is formed on the basis of requirement.

the Requirement is a discomfort which is felt by the person because it lacks something.

the Motive is an aspiration to a subject which can satisfy the corresponding requirement.

the important formula Exists:“ There is no behavior without requirement“. Any act, any thought, any activity of the person (including educational) are directed to satisfaction of requirement - physical or spiritual. In life those objects and people who are connected in some way with needs of the personality are significant: or promote their satisfaction, or interfere. In the first case at a meeting with them there are positive emotions, in the second - negative. Now from these positions we will look at study. What needs of the child are satisfied by study? If any if study does not cause emotions at all, the child in principle cannot study well.

If educational activity satisfies with

only need for safety as at its bad performance of the pupil wait for big troubles, then the picture will not be better at all.

the child in a brain will have a communication:“ The more will set, the to me it is worse. Many lessons are always threat that I will not manage to make them and I will suffer“. Thus, when study becomes a source of negative emotions, as soon as possible the child will try to keep from it. There is one: study has to cause positive emotions, satisfy need for receiving the vital knowledge without which it is difficult to live.


How to keep natural inquisitiveness?

It is simple. At the initial stages it is not necessary to drive study in any certain framework, but to seize the moment. The child on the earth picked up a branch, began to consider it - talk to him about branches and trees! Mother of the kid brought into the museum, and he most of all was interested in a spider line on a wall. Mother is revolted: it to it about art, and it in reply about a spider: “Beautiful it weaved a spider line and directly on a bell! Mother, let`s look for spider lines still!“ If mother is wise, then will say with the kid that it is interesting to him. He chooses sequence of knowledge acquisition, and now it has in line not museum pieces, but live spiders. But the informative requirement is how brightly expressed!

do not kill with

thirst of knowledge!

the Main lack of school training is that school students perceive it strongly idealistic, from the interests. Lessons do not help children to live, do not satisfy their requirement, it is rather on the contrary: tire, distract from game, deprive of freedom. And what to tell about children even if are in consciousness of many parents of the concept “study“ and “pleasure“ on different poles - one contradicts another. When I drove the four-year-old daughter in a mathematical circle, repeatedly heard angry phrases: “You deprive of the child of the childhood!“ “At school still will manage to be worn out why to torment the child so early!“ That is it was supposed that mathematics - no other than flour. My daughter perceived everything differently. Since two years, having played enough in toys, she asked me: “To study! To study! Mother, teach me to something!“, and in four years when I carried it at the sea and told that we will take with ourselves only one book, it made an unexpected choice - “The textbook of mathematics“!

what to lean on to connect educational activity to needs of the child, to show it communication between them? If the small child, it is possible to rely on his congenital informative requirement. The kid is born with installation: “It is pleasant to study!“ - and only adults in the course of the wrong education manage to kill her.

Here examples of the most true thirst of knowledge: the decimestrial child delays hands to some new subject shouts: “On! On!“ the one-year-old kid, having for the first time seen an unfamiliar bird, with surprise asks: “It?.“, the four-year-old researcher tortured all the questions: “Why? What for?“ Children are ready to study, but adults often refuse to them this pleasure.

the Necessary help

However cases meet, and it more concerns school students when the informative requirement is killed. At least, the words “mathematician“, “Russian“ and “reading“ cause an attack of aggression or depressive block in the child. Most likely, the reason is as follows: the child at some moment lagged behind, did not understand something that caused further chain reaction of misunderstanding, the two, insult, sneer. Here the help of parents is necessary. They have to help the child to relax and to unostentatiously meet his lacks in knowledge in friendly chats, without reminding at the same time of school. They should read the textbook, and then to tell a story about the familiar boy who could not solve a problem in any way or to understand the rule on Russian. Generally, it is possible to discuss his problem with the child, but only it is necessary to talk not about him, and about “the familiar boy“. “You would solve this problem!“ - it is necessary to add at the end.

the Child should not realize

that it is taught - just communicate with it. Data from the textbook should be reported in an attractive look, to give living examples and to do it in an easy situation: on walk, in the course of conversation at supper, in a bathroom, during occupations by economy. Such approach is required to remove a psychological barrier before notorious lessons at the slightest reminder on which to the child it becomes bad. It also becomes to inspire in it self-confidence. Knowledge it is better to give “apropos“ about what the speech suddenly came. The child has to feel appeal of new information, direct to it.

should tell

to Parents that at school teach the same that they tell, it is only systematized and scientifically, and it is even more convenient.“ I tell you about signs of deterioration in weather, and at school give their classification; we simply talk about the multiplication table, and at school you will teach to use it“.

to study well, the outlook is necessary for

, and parents can quite report to the child the data advancing the school program. In - the first, they will be able to present them in more attractive look, than at school (in live conversation, memoirs): “You know how it was in my childhood?“ In - the second, to such information at the child hostility did not manage to arise yet. In - the third when the child listens to material which is already partly familiar to it at a lesson, it is much more interesting to it, and danger to lose the course of thought of the teacher does not threaten if he incidentally distracts.

to Parents should be emphasized with

in stories practical importance of the acquired knowledge.

Here example: well to draw, it is necessary to know physics and geometry perfectly: how to create prospect in the image how to construct shadows of objects depending on a light source that such reflection and under what laws there is its degradation in water. Without knowledge of English it is impossible to master the computer, to play computer games. Still English gives the chance to make friends worldwide, to communicate with them by e-mail - unless it not attractively?

As for mathematics, it develops mind, logic, gives to the person the chance to argue correctly. Mathematics, perhaps, the most beautiful science causing unusual esthetic senses. It both chess, and music (steps, chords - everything submits to mathematical laws), it and literary activity. The mathematician writes the story logically and easily, it correctly builds the text while the “pure“ writer risks to get confused in own thoughts and to choke in a stream of feelings.

When the parent helps the child to master some new knowledge, explains how the rainbow is formed, tells the entertaining fact from history, listens to many questions, at the time of the most great interest he has to emphasize: “You study! This is also study!“ The word “study“ it has to be pronounced at the moment of the highest pleasure of knowledge. So, dear mothers and fathers, broaden horizons!

If you do not like to study

what then to demand from children?

Hurry up


the rule Following : study is carried out only through activity of the pupil. The person cannot be taught, he can only learn. There will be no activity of the pupil, there will be no study. And whatever talented teacher got, he will be able to make nothing if the pupil does not make any activity. And the best teachers understand: their task - not to teach, not to load children the data, and to organize their educational activity including to create at them motivation to study. Aerobatics - when activity of the pupil exceeds the volume of tasks of the teacher. And activity always demands time, expense of internal resources.

Why the child studies

of (or does not study)?

Motives happen external and internal.

External motives : desire to receive the five, fear of the two, encouragement, punishments, love for the teacher, for the schoolmate, aspiration to make impression, self-respect - in other words, everything that does not belong to the most educational activity.

Internal motives : interest of the child in the most educational activity, receiving pleasure from it. And those, and other motives are in own way good.

Here example of external motive. The girl was absolutely incapable of foreign languages. Parents very much worried, employed the dearest tutors, but nothing helped - the girl did not remember words, and read in English so awfully that all did not know, whether to cry, whether to laugh. She was not interested in language at all until she fell in love with the foreigner. There was a miracle: she started talking English literally in two weeks, began to write darling long letters, to stir with it by phone.

Example of internal motive. In the house of creativity the aviamodelling circle was organized. Children came to occupations, and the teacher began them to give lectures on aerodynamics. It became soon boring, and children began to leave a circle one by one.

the Teacher understood that he made a mistake, and the next year arrived differently. From the first occupation he suggested children to do models. And here models are ready, but they do not fly.“ You do not know why they do not rise in air?“ - the teacher asked. Children thought, thought, thought up nothing. And then he began to give to children lectures on aerodynamics. Here - that all listened with huge interest.


the fashion for children went to choose superdifficult schools with various biases Now. Parents make a mistake, thinking: the higher at school of the requirement, the more pupil will know.

Unfortunately, on the contrary, information surplus, an overload tasks can paralyze educational activity of the child: assessment, judgment, searches of answers to questions. He from - for lack of time will begin to perform tasks purely formally, and even to write off, feeling exhaustion and hostility to study. Give to children the chance to enjoy slow and laborious assimilation of knowledge!


generally, dear parents, be not afraid! The person per se is inclined to study, it is required only that study was means of satisfaction of its pressing needs.