What our kids of
Tenderness, love and tender touches - here what is necessary for the kid from first minutes of birth need. According to many researchers, the first 12 hours of life of the newborn exert considerable impact on his subsequent life. The first minutes after the delivery mother and the child need not so much a dream and food, how many gentle touches, an opportunity to look each other in eyes and to hear a native voice.the Love of mother to the baby is usually shown by
that she embraces, caresses it, takes on hands, presses to itself. Life of the newborn child becomes the individual existence separate of mother`s organism, but, despite it, without love of the father and mother the baby can wither and die literally. Therefore many doctors advise to give mother`s child at once after the delivery not less than for 30 - 60 minutes, thereby promoting the first necessary communication of mother with the child.the Early childhood of the person can determine by
his future substantially. How there will be relationship of parents and the kid in the first months and years, abilities, character, an emotional and physical condition of the child in the subsequent life will depend substantially. Whether the person weak or durable will grow up whether he will develop abstract thinking and ability to sympathize with others or not - all this depends influences of parents at an early stage of life of the child.
But how it occurs? How communication influences development?
That occurs in a brain of the baby
When the newborn is born, his brain contains 100 billion neurons. Neurons are special cages which are responsible for the majority of functions of a brain, including, for ability to think, see and feel. Scientists believe that these 100 billion neurons - all this what we can count on: during their life will not increase, or the number of “new“ neurons will be very little.
Neurons can form communications with each other through small sites of a brain which are called “synapses“. The neurons connected thus with each other form systems which carry out various functions of a brain.
Within the first eight months after the birth, neurons form communications with each other with an amazing speed. By the end of this period in a brain of the baby there can be about 1000 trillion synapses. However, synapses work by the principle “use, or you will lose“. That communications between neurons served long, they should be strengthened daily exercises and stimulation. Many of these early synapses vanish from - for non-use, and by 10 years the child from them has only half (500 trillion). Approximately the same quantity also the adult has.
In the first months of the avalanche formation of synapses in a brain of the child much more communications arise, than it can “hold“. Those communications which the brain uses repeatedly are consolidated, “soldered“. It occurs when the child reacts to external incentives. The baby receives similar stimulation, first of all, from parents. If the kid is taken on hands, touch him, played with him and cause in him emotional reactions, then communications “are soldered“ and remain with him for a long time.begin to be formed by
of System of a brain which are responsible for sight and the speech early enough. Researches show: what the child sees and hears at the earliest age, makes deep and long impact on his visual and speech skills. The simplest impacts on the child can become decisive for formation of communications in a children`s brain. Communicating with parents, the baby receives not only incentives for development of brain functions, but also absorbs feeling of heat, care, love. And it is the most important components of healthy emotional development.
As different systems are formed by
of “A development window“ in a brain at different times, these or those sites of a brain of the child need stimulation during strictly certain periods (“a development window“), otherwise they will not be able normally to develop. If in one of such periods in the Wednesday surrounding the kid there are no developing incentives, some functions of a brain can develop very poorly. the Window of an opportunity for sight, for example, is opened by
since the birth to 6 months. Children who are deprived of visual stimulation at this age will not manage to develop necessary nervous communications and can remain with defective sight. As for development of the speech and a lexicon, the corresponding window is opened since the birth to 3 years. What is heard by the child during this period substantially determines the size of its lexicon at adult age. Besides, children to whom did not talk regularly when they were small cannot think “about themselves“ as well as those children who heard a lot of oral speech.
Aged from a year to four children develop ability to understand logical and mathematical ideas. There are also serious proofs in favor of the fact that listening of music at early age positively influences mathematical abilities of the child. Children who had no opportunities for development of mathematical and logical abilities at this age can experience difficulties with mathematics and logic all subsequent life.
of Emotion and communicationthe Research conducted in Hong Kong shows to
As for the emotional world of the child, the window of its development is opened in the first one and a half years of life. At this age communication is also necessary for the child for life, as well as food. All of us observed such picture more than once: when the kid hears a familiar voice of mother or father, his heart begins is speeded up to fight, and handles and legs - involuntarily to move, and, without pronouncing words, he asks: “Talk to me“. And unless it is possible to forget the first words of the child “mother“, “father“, or the first children`s embraces?
Ability to communicate, exchange emotions - really precious gift. Communication is necessary for all live (even plants exchange signals with each other!) . But what happens if the child does not receive due consideration and warmth at early age? It can strongly be reflected in its further development, in composure, and subsequently the child can have problems in communication with world around.
according to Bruce Perry, the famous American children`s psychiatrist, insufficient emotional stimulation of the kid (as well as his nedokarmlivaniye), can affect amount of hormones of growth in an organism and damage to physical development of the child, including development of his brain. Even at good nutrition children of early age need touches, rockings, contacts “eye to eye“ to maintain normal neuroendocrine activity and growth. In certain cases the cold behavior of parents can cause a peculiar refusal of development in the child. It means that the baby ceases to develop properly, despite healthy nutrition.
the Child emotionally depends on mother and the father - therefore the developing brain is so strongly influenced by estrangement of parents. The emotional sphere of the baby can be damaged in an irreversible way. If in time not to use an age susceptibility of the child, the brain site responsible for ability to empathize, can not develop. In a case when aged till 3 years nobody cares for emotional needs of the child, his ability to sympathy, to the close and confidential relations in the future, it can be lost irrevocably.
the Pediatrician Fraser Mastard notes that in this situation of the child expect also other serious troubles as, for example, the underdeveloped speech and mathematical abilities, the lowered intelligence quotient (IQ), problems with health and even behavioural frustration.
Children who were ignored at early age at contact with other people behave passively, apart and indifferently. In comparison with successful kids, they are less attached to mother, are quite often hyperactive and aggressive that involves problems with school discipline.
All these features of the personality at children who were “rejected“ by parents in total considerably increase risk of their asocial and even criminal behavior in adulthood. In awkward age these children willingly follow the tastes of the teenagers holding authority, and easier, than their peers, cross a side permitted by society. It turns out that children “pay bills“ to that society which forced their mothers to refuse independent care of the baby in favor of work for the sake of earnings.
Responsibility of parents
Skills of communication the child receives
that their children grew up clever, careful, highly moral and sensitive people. But to achieve these objectives, they have to use the best efforts. Communicate with the child at any opportunity, the you spend with him more time, the your attachment to each other becomes stronger, that the kid develops better. Time which parents spend with the children is one thousand times more important than the most expensive toys and entertainments. Be not afraid to show the love of children.
Play games what silly they would not seem, any game bears in itself a certain sense for the child. Children play with dolls, machines, cubes, sticks. Play in the room, on the street, in the wood. All world around for them - game. Accept rules of their game and participate in it. Walk more often, admire the nature, talk, be engaged in usual daily affairs with the kids.
In spite of the fact that life of the modern world forces parents the most part of time to carry out at work, it is necessary to remember that the child of early age is very vulnerable. Unfortunately, it is difficult to count that the child who is in a day nursery will receive so much attention how many for it it is necessary for full development from tutors.
Many mothers raise children, but financial position in other families does not allow to make such choice. And therefore it is especially important to remind the working parents: that few time which you spend together with children is invaluable. Do not miss it. You love kids and let`s them feel your love.educational psychologist