Working collectives school of malignant gossip or we will gossip for a while on - kindyou never thought of the fact that, two and more individuals should gather, in group on interests or in working collective, for example, how some of them and if not to palter and to be excessively politically correct, then their most part, in the nearest future, directly - with superhuman force majeure, begins to pull to gossips, a gossip and name calling?
And, these two, three or the whole working collective, can be quite well-educated, have the higher education or even two, go to church, think of the old parents much and with all parental devotion to foster the children. In a word, “to consist on the good account“ and to be quite worthy representatives of the human race. And at the same time, not to cease to gossip, gossip and say frank scurrilous things.
Especially brightly such insuperable thirst for scoring pejorative, and, as a rule, far from the true situation, estimates, is noticeable in working collectives. Everything begins, as always, with a black sheep - the member of the collective holding some authority. Behind it to show the loyalty or just from - for some complexes concerning the person - for various reasons, to assent, nod or to aloud develop the offered “evil“ subject, reluctantly, as if forcedly submitting, or with quite clear desire and pleasure to gossip for a while and gossip, also others follow, as a rule, standing on lower step of collective hierarchy, members of collective - crowd, pack, herd.
A target for spiteful attacks are chosen: the members of the next working collective consisting in any especially business opposition - real and imaginary, chiefs of all colors, for various reasons not nice the subordinate, and also members of own collective, something not pleased to his authorities.
Most it is possible to get to gossips and name calling of the colleagues, it is enough not to assent readily to the all-chosen subjects of “small talk“, and to have excellent from standard in collective the point of view. For example, on such “interesting“ and “taking“ many minds subject for discussion in working hours how “Ivanova from department of supply lives together with Petrov from sales department“ enough to answer “Lie“, “And to you what business? “ or “It not our business“ already next time to become, at first object of sneers, and then, perhaps, and the main character of collective “soap operas“. To have excellent from conventional and standard hobbies, a way of life, views, behavior, appearance etc. (for example, not to drink - if all drink, not to smoke - if all smoke, not to use foul language - if all use foul language. Not to want to buy the car - all want! Not to wish to build giving - all build! Not to be interested, where to earn more money - it interests all! Or, for example, for the most different reasons, in the public dining room it is persistent to refuse meat while all eat it. That is, “in every way to show off“, to be a black sheep, the pariah - there is quite enough in order that at the conformist majority to cause certain negative emotions).
But that will much quicker provoke at your colleagues hostility to you, and in a consequence will surely cause not the most friendly attacks in your party, it is basic choice to think, speak and arrive on conscience, on the truth, on mind. For example, on some nonsense which cloyed to you or gossips in someone`s third-party address, your frankly “unfriendly“ remarks “As it is not a shame to you!“, you badly arrive“, “It is stupid“, told by serious tone, - undoubted casus belli, declaration of war. And if your ascertaining of the fact besides has smack of “conscientiousness“ - that is, it is told not in a business, detached manner, or in playful tone with a guilty smile, and with implication or the frank appeal to ethics and conscience, wars to you not to avoid. Because nothing causes in us such sharp rejection of foreign opinions as appeals to conscience.
Some working collectives, it is frequent from load with work, but is much more often from inaction, being aloof, foul places of rumors, gossips and frank rage turn into the presents fetid. To sometimes strain rather only a little the hearing and to include observation that from the colleagues whom you know not one year as “the guys and little girls“, to hear the mucks given “on the mountain“, dirty tricks and frank nonsense.
However It is necessary to distinguish gossips, malignant gossip, frank lies and criticism. People usually are engaged in the first from inaction, wishing to correct the self-assessment at the expense of others. Or from own complexes with which badly cope. The second - the criticism which is at first sight comprising the same elements of malignant gossip is usually told on business, in separately taken cases and persons, without lightweight generalizations, it seems “Yes all chiefs goats - trestle and ours“. When, on business, you cannot agree with something and when you want to change something.
What to do in situations when you hear gossips and malignant gossip? It is possible to state the disagreement openly. And you consider that you think correct and accepted. It is possible not to participate in gossips. To keep silent. And it is possible, a wide gate and the easiest way, “to improve the relations in collective“, “not to come off collective“, “to be as all“.
The first if to speak is honest, fraught with the most impartial consequences for the daredevil. Stigmatization. Or the fact that the place of object of sneers and malignant gossip will be occupied by you. What can even lead to any writing of the composition under the name “Statement at Own Will“. The second, most likely, will also cause rejection in evil tongues. But, at some strength of mind, by the principle “You be better one than together with anyone“, shortly most likely will lag behind you, and, perhaps, will even begin to respect for your adherence to principles. Well, and the third - at first sight, the easiest that is followed by many, can bring you certain benefits. For example, you will never remain alone. Or, at ability to assent and participate in malignant gossip with the administration, you can be noticed and recommended. What to you to choose? Solves everyone for himself.