From where nostalgia and grief about the past undertakes?School students consider that in a garden it was easier, students - that it was simpler to study at school, young specialists grieve about carefree students, and emigrants remember native places … Why it occurs?
The matter is that human memory operates with information taken from not objective but only only subjective reality. And the second often in many questions divorces the first. It occurs not specially, on the evil intention has nobody, just for the maximum simplification of cerebration of the person all new information obtained by the person is built in a context of all last experience of the person or that part which is connected with a certain concrete subject.
Thus, the objective reality consists of the exact facts, and subjective - of the facts and conjectures simplifying a view of a situation. Let`s tell, “We agreed to meet the girlfriend Masha at a stop and to go for a walk in park. I saw Masha when she went out of the bus. Masha was afflicted with a house situation“ is a subjective reality. And “We agreed to meet the girlfriend Masha at a stop and to go for a walk in park. I saw Masha when she went out of the bus. Masha went by bus which stops near her house, she did not smile, she had moist eyes and she sniffed“ - objective.
If to consider conditional subjective reality, we gain “at the exit“ a certain impression how now it is worth behaving with Masha - to try to distract it some activity, to joke, suggest to drive on some attractions or to suggest to take a picture of it against a bed for an avatar on social networks. If to consider objective, then everything becomes not such unambiguous. Perhaps it has moist eyes and cold not from got down, and from an allergy therefore flowers here absolutely “not in a subject“ and she is not upset, and was simply tired or lack of a smile - her ordinary look in quiet mood.
But we will return to nostalgia. In - the first, the human attention is selective: we are inclined to notice more often what meets our expectations of the world, than what does not correspond. Therefore if someone has a positive picture in consciousness “to me it was good in the homeland - I had many friends, interesting work, I lived in the environmentally friendly place“, then from this picture the fact that friends were rather remote friends is forced out, though cheerful, and with similar views on life, and painfully paid for work a little.
In - the second, often people interpret events according to social templates. For example, according to the concept “the carefree childhood“ - in spite of the fact that, say, the parental family lived in poverty enough, and now the person is able to earn not only for needs, but also on all the desires and in freedom adulthood all - was more …
Well, and in - the third, it is worth remembering a saying “if to tell the person three hundred times that it a pig, then it also zakhryukat“ - as all new knowledge “fits“ into already existing idea of the world, and attention as it was already told above, selectively, then the system supports itself. Let`s say to the person several times blurted out, figuratively speaking, that “after University there is no life, only work - work - work“, and he notices only signs that indeed, and itself begins to build unconsciously the life so to confirm this playful thesis.
And it is just pleasant to dream up, twist pleasant “cinema“ in the consciousness. Thus, “when I will grow up“ and is replaced on “when I was small“ …