Development and training of the child: the best books for parents. Review of
- And how many years to your child? - Anton Semenovich took an interest.
- to It is only three weeks old.
- Well... You were late exactly for three weeks.
L. Panteleev.“ Our Masha. The book for parents“
If to collect all questions which torment young parents in one book will turn out the volume which is not conceding on thickness to the paper edition of Wikipedia. And in it, as we know, five thousand pages. And all of them constantly turn in the heads of unfortunate mothers and fathers! How not to become exhausted, trying to deal with all problems at once?
With the child`s birth not only the pleasure, but also a set of cares comes to the house. There comes the active period for both parents - they should care for the new person, to devote it time and forces, to help to open the world... It seems, still far elementary school, and the teenage period full of storm and reefs, but - as both mothers, and experts in children`s psychology consider - how to think of the future it is necessary to begin from first months of life of the kid. Quoting the author of one of the most popular techniques of early development to Masaru Ibuk: after three already late!from the moment of the birth should watch of
over health and behavior of the child constantly fixedly: healthy nutrition, dream, gymnastics. Sometimes the answer to some question is required immediately. About thirty years ago only books of the doctor Benjamin Spock were available to young parents, perhaps, . Doctor Spock used experience of pediatrics and psychoanalysis for creation of grants for parents where questions of both children`s health, and food, and communication are together taken up. The book “The child and care of it“ remains demanded still though many councils behind prescription of years (for the first time it was published in 1946) already lost relevance. But will not prevent to have it on the shelf and in the 21st century.
Most of modern writers do not deny Spock`s experience, and process it under new living conditions rather. As a rule, they pay attention to questions both physiology and growth, and psychology and development of the child. William and Mart Sirs`s - the married couple, parents of eight children - created the whole library of books for parents, making use of the life and medical experience. It is possible to find a practical advice on care of children in their books and on communication with them for each stage of a growing of the child.
Among the Russian authors most fully is written about care of children by Evgeny Komarovsky . In the book “Health of the child and common sense of his relatives“ combine councils for arrangement of life of the child, the detailed story about possible diseases and dangers, and at the same time recommendations about strengthening of nervous system of parents. Besides, Komarovsky is the author of the series of “Reference books of the sane parents“ urged to help parents with prevention and treatment of children`s infections.
But not only health is important
. At some moment it is easy to fall into delusion that it is enough power of parental love and attention to grow up the ideal child. But any extremes, as we know, are dangerous - and to develop harmonious approach most not easy. Extremes a set - to allow the kid to do everything that will take in head for the time being; on the contrary, from the cradle to accustom to letters and syllables that by five years he independently read Bazhova and Lindgren; since the childhood to immerse it in the world of sport, bringing up a sound mind in a sound body... Not to be overzealous and organically necessary skills will help to impart to the child the techniques developed by pediatricians and psychologists. In something they are crossed among themselves, in something - categorically do not meet. In each of them at the head of a corner something special: health, reading, small motility. Choosing this or that technique, it is worth remembering that it is wrong to apply to the child strict requirements, at least. Each kid has the rate of development and knowledge of the world. Anyway it is necessary to stock up with patience, strength of mind and improvised materials.Children are extremely susceptible
to training, and at the correct approach it is possible to understand very much early to what the child - is more predisposed to physical activity, communication, creativity. For this purpose perfectly the technique of Maria Montessori approaches . She suggests to create special training “environment“ (to place various objects, materials on big space) for the child - and to allow to choose independently that it is more interesting to it. It is worth paying attention that this method is suitable for occupations of tutors with groups more and assumes first of all development of independence, logic, attentiveness, but not, for example, earlier training in reading and the account.the Technique of Glen Doman (“Harmonious development of the child“) , on the contrary, is focused by
on occupations of parents with the child, and parents have the most active role here. The exercises developed by Doman perfectly train memory and give to the child the huge knowledge base for the first years of life. Doman suggests to use for training of a card with various facts from the field of geography, history, biology, and also from first months to learn to read and consider.by
To parents turned also the book “Believe in the child“ to Cecile Lupan , one of the most famous mothers in the world. The attention to the child, gradual disclosure of its individual potential is the cornerstone of its technique, and councils or exercises vary depending on to what the child has an interest. Loupan turns training into game: reading - through singing of letters on motive of children`s songs, the account - through comic riddles. The main thing - not to force the child to be engaged according to the strict schedule and not to try to obtain efficiency at any cost.by
the Russian teachers developed the whole complexes of the games urged to develop creative abilities of the child and his thinking. For example, puzzles of Boris and Elena Nikitinykh`s , the training logic and figurative thinking of the child ( “Intellectual games“ B. Nikitina), or cubes with figures and the letters of Nikolay Zaytsev to which detailed “operation manual“ is attached: it is possible to sing syllables or to put words, to address tables of syllables (is also separate - on arithmetics). The children who are engaged by this technique by four years independently read, and to five are able to count up to hundred.
Of course, it is impossible to cultivate interest in the book only by means of cubes and tables. Children`s editions - with colourful illustrations, simple and sonorous rhymes, and also “not killed“, that is capable to sustain active interest of kids - the integral arsenal of the parents wishing to develop love to reading in children. Fortunately, there are books, not only the combining clear and bright pictures with riddles and fairy tales but also created from environmentally friendly materials. Transformation of reading into cheerful game with puzzles or cardboard inserts, and even in “literary bathing“, draws attention to process at once.
of Author`s techniques of training in reading set. In the book “We teach the child to read“ Valeria Marusyaka the series of games and not dull occupations by means of which it is possible to bring the child to reading gradually are offered, without discouraging in general to hold the book in hand. It is more about children is more senior, years of four - six so this technique suits the parents considering that to force events - harmfully to the child. In the appendix there is a set of practical preparations, and tasks mention all parties of development, important for the child, - both a sensorika, and motility, and formation of the speech. The author, the professional teacher, also gives the most frequent mistakes which are made by the inexperienced parents wishing to send the child to school already reading, and tells how to avoid them.
However formation of outlook and personal qualities all the same is defined more not by how early he will learn to read and consider, and that Wednesday which surrounds the child. Not to face unpleasant consequences - emotional instability or mistrust, it is important to parents to control all parties of interaction with children. Masaru Ibuk`s (“After three already late“) , the founder of the Sony company and the author of one of the most popular techniques of early development, offers the unique system affecting different aspects of life of the child from a daily routine before awakening of interest in art. He places emphasis not on skills, and on education of feelings and moral qualities, and insists that it is important to encourage the imagination and to support creative undertakings. Ibuk emphasizes that for children there are no “too difficult“ things - if they are not ready to understand something, they just do not pay attention to it.
How to explain to the kid what is possible and that it is impossible, without having woken offense and having achieved the objective? How to react to tears or isolation how, at last, to tell about what adults - that imagine hardly?
Krom of very heavy works about children`s psychology the set of books in which parents can find the answer to the main issue is: how to understand the child? Among them there is, for example, “Small children and their mothers“ and “A conversation with parents“ the English psychoanalyst Donald Vinnikott which are well reflecting importance of psychological attachment of children and parents and allowing to avoid problems in communication. “The book for nonideal parents“ the practicing psychologist Irina Mlodik is devoted to the description of age features of children and influencing their feelings and desires of factors. It will be interesting to admirers of modern American popular psychology to get acquainted with a technique of John Gray in the book “Children from heaven“ , and it is possible to join practice, having read the book of Elena Nikolaeva “111 baizes of children`s psychologists“ .
it is A lot of useful recommendations and councils it is possible to find in the book of the famous writer, psychotherapist and psychologist Vladimir Levi “The non-standard child“ . How to avoid disobedience how not to spoil the child and at the same time not to force it to feel unnecessary and unloved how to endure awkward age - Levi shares trade secrets with parents, but at the same time does not urge parents to follow any accurate scheme of education. Such, certainly, just does not exist.
Main what mothers and fathers should reconcile to, it that it is necessary to study not only to the child. In the book “We bring up the child? Or?“ the practicing psychologist Svetlana Iyevleva suggests parents to reflect on that, from - for what children behave so, but not differently and how to overcome difficulty. As a result depends on parents as many years later the child adapts to independent life. She considers the entire periods of a growing - from the birth to school age - and supplies with detailed comments everyday situations which, it appears, sometimes play a large role, than it seems at first sight.
to Children can nonplus adults, and sometimes their ingenuity strikes. It is not so simple to find the correct and clear answer a time. It is necessary to look at the world the child`s eyes - and to find another, the logic and new laws of reality differing from adult. Books Adel Faber can help with it and Elaine Mazlish`s (“How to say that children listened, and to listen that children spoke“ , the American psychologist and the teacher Eda le Shang (“When your child dements you“) , our compatriot Yulia Gippenreyter (“To communicate with the child. How?“ ) . Brett Doris wrote to the book “Once upon a time there was the girl similar to you“ in which tells how to help children to overcome fears and alarms, and in permission of the various conflicts of parents will instruct Ekaterina Murashova (“Your unclear child“) and Elena Alekseeva (“How to understand the child“) . Feelings of children, features of behavior, various phobias - these books will help to find a common language with the child.
of Literature, urged to help parents to orient in the Toy Store, there is a lot of. If you wait for addition in a family or around already creeps (and even with might and main runs) the peanut - be going to make room on shelves!