Trust to the world: why it is necessary and how to bring up? From the baby to the teenager of
As the trust is born what influences this process? Whether it is possible to speak in general about trust in the modern world? The professional psychologist argues on it.
In our daily occurrence we do not even assume
, how often we face a trust problem. Meanwhile it constantly is present at life - when we communicate with other people when we read or we watch TV when we listen to radio or we apply for information in the Internet when we raise the children or we are at work.As the trust Trust, despite such “absolute clearness“ for all is born
, is much more difficult phenomenon, than can seem at first sight. How the trust how there is its formation what influences this process is born?
the Famous psychologist Eric Eriksson considered that the feeling of trust is formed at the child on experience of the first year of life. Gradually it turns into installation which defines not only the child`s attitude towards itself, but also to the world. How developed will be at the kid this feeling, depends on degree of care of mother, on how internal communication between them is carried out. Eriksson considered that “mother has to address with the child in faultless language of internal communication, then he will be able to trust it, the world and himself...“. And still:“ Mothers form feeling of trust at the children thanks to such address which consists of sensitive care of individual needs of the child and distinct feeling that she is that person who can be trusted“.by
Otherwise forms basic mistrust to the world which can be followed by total rage, imaginations of destruction and vandalism subsequently. The lack of trust of the early childhood for the adult can turn back sharp alienation, “leaving in itself“ when he does not get on with himself or with other people. Thus, the feeling of trust to itself, to others, to the world is a basis of the healthy personality.it is close and safe
No wonder that the children who are brought up in orphanages, growing in absence of the loved one have big deficiency of trust. They are not able to build up correctly the confidential relationship with other people, to be selective and isolated in the feelings. However the need for trust at such children is very big and remains unsatisfied.
Researchers note that the main conditions of emergence of trust are the importance and safety in the relations with those people with which the person lives. If one of these characteristics does not remain at least, then the confidential relations are broken, and it, in turn, strongly deforms also the identity of trusting. As pupils of orphanages appear in specific vital circumstances, conditions of emergence of trust are most often violated, therefore, it is not created installation on trust to the world.to Whom to trust
and what to trust
the Following qualities which are also formed at early stages of development of the child it is selectivity and an optionality of trust. In other words, understanding of the one to whom to trust and what to trust.the child begins to understand
in the course of education that full confidence to all people surrounding it is unsafe. It gradually leads to formation of an optionality and selectivity in the relations. It is clear, that at the children having deficiency in care, attention, love - in this case at pupils of orphanage - characteristics of trust are or deformed, or in general undeveloped.
If to speak about the children living in families, then the feeling of mistrust can become aggravated in case parents adhere to opposite methods of education or feel uncertainly in the role. It promotes creation of the atmosphere of uncertainty, an events ambiguity therefore there is a feeling of uncertainty which gradually only amplifies.
Since the childhood and for the rest of life
So, originally the trust arises in the early childhood at need for safety and security. Its emergence is based on the emotional relation of the child with mother. In development the kid learns to trust close people in the beginning - a family, and maturing - to peers, friends. The child has a certain experience of interaction with people around. The confidential relations with the world begin to be reflected in qualities of the personality and to influence the general behavior of the person.
At teenage age the great value has the interested and sincere relation to the teenager from parents and other close adults. As a result the school student has a self-confidence as rather steady quality of the personality and ability to treat differentially people from the point of view of trust.
Of course, as a result of each life situation of people gets new experience which can influence change of its last installations in the “best“ or “worst“ party. However value of the basic trust acquired in the childhood or mistrust remains to leaders.
“As is shown by international experience, any civilized society cannot function without high level of credibility, - the Russian researcher T. P. Skripkina writes. - But the trust cannot be invested from anywhere, it cannot teach, it cannot be got ideologically, it can only be “grown up“ in soul of each specific person“.