First appointment: sex or relations? What cannot be done in a bed of
Authors of the book of “Rule“ (The Rules) of Ellen Feyn and Sherry Schneider made revolution in America when demanded from women to forget once and for all about an initiative in the relations with men. Today they discuss the most burning questions: how to behave on the first appointment and when to pass to sex - and explain 2 important rules.
Rule № 1to
On the first appointment - only an easy kissto
It is absolutely clear that men on the very first appointment want to receive everything and at once. Your task - to brake these aspirations. He can kiss you on the first appointment - but no more! Remember that the kiss will force it not to perceive you only as physical object. If the relations in the spirit of “Rules“ develop, the man will fall in love with your soul, with your essence, and not just with your body. The there are less physical contacts, the better. Besides, in a similar situation it is much easier to stop if the events to you not to liking.
We know that it not easiest “Rule“, especially if the man really is pleasant to you if you rush in his sports car and he kisses you on each traffic light. He perfectly kisses, and you terribly want to learn what else it does well. And at this moment you have to press brakes and tell yourself: “Rules“ do not allow on the first appointment of nothing, except an easy kiss! I should not invite him to myself! And let does not let loose a hands!“If you are too excited by
, then finish appointment as soon as possible not to make what then you will regret about. If the man wants more, then let will call and will invite you to the second appointment.you can seem
Near some men to yourself the old-fashioned hypocrite. Someone can laugh at you or become angry. Politely and lovely let the man know that if your behavior is not pleasant to him, then it is its problem! If the man presses on you, then it is better not to meet him. Tell yourself that other women could spoil your friend, agreeing to sex on the first appointment, but you are a girl of “Rules“ and live at own discretion. If the man is really in love with you, he will respect your borders. If he is a gentleman, then will allow the physical relations to develop at speed, convenient for you, and will never begin to force to anything you. Forget all theories of “free love“ which came to us from
Besides, if you conform to “Rules“, then the situation will never leave from - under control. As you already know, you should talk politics, real estate, good movies - but there are also taboo subjects. Do not mention marriage, children, love, the former friends and girlfriends and sexual positions. Conversation has to be warm, but not juicy, and then after a dessert sex does not threaten you. And in general, if the man really is pleasant to you, the kiss will be pleasant!
Rule № 2you do not hurry to pass
to sex and other rules of proximity
When to pass to sex?“ Rules“ depend on your age and personal feelings. If to you 18 and you are a virgin, wait for a betrothal. If to you 39, then you can wait month - another. Of course, if you are the convinced opponent of sex out of marriage, can wait also to a wedding. The loving man will be respectful to any your decision.But be not surprised to
if the man whom you meet becomes angry on a kiss in a lobby and farewell after the second appointment. Men often count that you invite them to a tea cup. Men are spoiled by other women - those who agree to sex on the first or second appointment. Your behavior deprives of it a “deserved“ award. Do not worry. The anger is a sign of interest. You are surprised, but he will surely call back to you again!if to you is pleasant to have
A sex too, and refusal is also heavy for you, as well as for it? Whether it means that it is necessary to agree to sex on the first or second appointment? Alas, no, is not present and once again not. You have to stock up with patience. Believe, you will not regret about several weeks or months of abstention. Why to risk? You can seem to the man an easy mark, and he the next day will lay out all details to friends in a gym locker room. Better let he becomes angry and thinks out new ways which will help it to tempt you on the following appointment, than will go to the following girl. Expectation will only strengthen his desire, and passion when you, at last, decide on sex, will be unsatiable.
We know that to postpone the sexual relations with the person who is pleasant to you, painfully, but think of the future.