Pregnancy after 40. Late childbirth: how to be prepared?
my friend always dreamed of children. Being a little girl, she could play infinitely in the daughter - mother, fell asleep with hope that she will find in a toy bed of the real baby next morning, and selflessly pottered with kittens and puppies, representing on their place a cub human. She married in 19 and in a year gave birth to the wonderful boy. A few years ago they moved to France and now wait already for the fourth successor.
Other my acquaintance lived with the beloved husband, worked as the translator, spent much time in business trips, in 30 decided to learn Farsi, and in 40 to give birth to the child. In 44 after the third EKO already with a donor ovum she gave birth to the favourite Apelsinchik nicknamed so for ognenno - red curls and a scattering of golden freckles.
Why one of us carefree become happy mothers in 20, and others need a quarter of the century more to come to motherhood? Whether the concept “age pervorodyashchy“ is used in modern obstetrics or during an era of high medical technologies it was finally dissolved in centuries? And in general, whether there is a difference to honey 20 - and
most of women whose age approaches
If to lay aside the infertility and other problems with health interfering pregnancy, then to us it is necessary to argue only on the factors depending on us and our perception of reality.
Welfare for many is an important condition of the birth of children. The woman, certainly, has to feel the protected strong male back or a stable salary assured in tomorrow before decides to refuse contraception. However reality such is that mad acts are peculiar to youth whereas a sign of a maturity discretion and attention to details is considered. So far as concerns pregnancy, childbirth and children, we cannot count everything to trifles, professional team of doctors, the yogi, courses for pregnant women and the contract for childbirth in the most expensive clinic do not guarantee either the trouble-free course of pregnancy, or easy childbirth, nor the healthy child. And consciously it is much more difficult to the adult who is standing on the own two feet to move the heaven and earth, than to the carefree student.Freedom
parents also those who feel that they - children Sometimes do not want to become
. To buy radio-controlled helicopters, it is not necessary to get the son, and to tie bows and it is possible to do plaits also to himself. It is terrible to woman to lose a subtlety, to lose freedom, to be attached to the house, to turn into a boring brood hen, but it is far more terrible to become adult, and the status of mother will automatically make it that. Ripped jeans on hips and t-shirts with Che Guevara... The baby on hands turns mother dressed thus from the little girl without age into the infantile woman. And it frightens many so strongly that the refusal of a child-bearing sometimes flowing in childfree philosophy seems the only exit.
of the Pit, contrary to beliefs of conservative-minded part of our society, it not only attempt to earn all existing money. It is an image and lifestyle, constant aspiration to an ideal, a peculiar chess set with itself. It is a habit to the satisfaction following search of answers behind sleepless nights at office or the operating room, behind improvement of combinations, skill grinding.to Leave to
work, to spend the most part of time out of the professional activity, to float in sluggish and quiet waters of household affairs and cares of the kid happens insufferably for those who got used to the high level of adrenaline and serotonin.
Society still accepts the concept according to which the small child ties parents or on extremely measure mother to the house, does not allow to leave also for a minute. However baby slings and breastfeeding allow to get rid not only of the bulky carriage occupying a half of the apartment but also of feeling that you were locked within four walls. It is possible to run for the one-year-old terrorist the whole day, taking away from him passports and lighters, and it is possible just to clean all valuable things so that they did not cause desire immediately them to study. It is possible to sob from - for the wall ornamented by a marker with design silk wall-paper, and it is possible to paint beforehand walls neutral color and time a month with two waves of the roller to return to the apartment an original form.Love
Sometimes the birth of children is postponed by
indefinitely from - for the fact that partners want to devote some time each other, perceive the marriage as space where the third - superfluous capable to divide them. To it the unwillingness to give love, time and forces to someone, except the husband or the wife is added. The initiator of such concepts usually appears the man who gradually leads darling to a conclusion that to them each other for happiness suffices, and children will get up between them. Young fathers are seldom dipped by
into cares of the kid with such intensity that forget about the wife, and here similar happens to newly made mothers much more often therefore the concern of the man can quite be understood. Also similar scenario is sometimes developed in families where the man already has a child from first marriage, and the experience got with the firstborn was difficult or even traumatic. Besides usually it is about those to whom it is far for 40 and even for 50, and the fear of changes, need for rest and stability are already very strong. Danger is that the wife if it is young and childless, can capture aspiration to motherhood sooner or later, and will be knotted even more strong.
According to the sociological polls which are recently carried out in England, most of respondents consider that youth comes to an end in 50, and the old age comes only in 75 years. Thus society reacts to increase in duration and improvement of quality of life. The number of citizens grows 60 years taking an active social and political position are more senior. Pensioners do not limit the leisure to solving of skanvord and annual trips “on waters any more“.
Modern medicine and cosmetology can give to the person the chance to feel and look on 30 shortly before pension, but are not capable to turn it into thirty-year-old. Chromosomal aberrations do not pay attention to quantity of wrinkles on your face, chronic diseases come without invitation, and collagen, on the contrary, leaves fabrics without the prevention. Gestoz is shockingly indifferent to talents of your cosmetologist, errors of youth are not going to leave us, and gipotalamo - the hypophysial system did not find time to obtain the opinion of British concerning the youth period. Any discrimination, anything personal - only the natural course of life.It happened to
!As often from pages of popular editions we learn
that it is better to give birth to the firstborn in 40 years even, than in 20. The adult responsibly treats everything that is connected with health as to the, and the child, it is capable to share experience and knowledge which are not possessed by yesterday`s students. Obstetricians carefully add that middle-aged women treat recommendations of the doctor usually more attentively and are more provident and careful in comparison with young “colleagues“. Actresses, singers and the famous leaders become parents later and later, moving apart a habitual framework.
Personally I perceive similar changes with enthusiasm - the world provides us more and more chances to realize itself, we become more free. Pregnant women face more and more seldom neglect and attempts to hospitalize until the end of term on the basis of date of birth. It is important not to forget that it is necessary to use the provided freedom reasonably because the rights are inevitably connected with duties, and freedom - with responsibility. You should not tempt destiny as you should not fall into despair if well thought over scenario was not successful.you are for the first time pregnant with
in 40? Excellent chance to become the wise, attentive, loving mother. What it is worth paying attention first of all to after the test was positive?
- Address the doctor as soon as possible. To this moment of life women usually find support in a face of the doctor with which communicate not the first year that, certainly, is pleasant. Ultrasonography is not so terrible as at forums write. Inspections in your case are necessary and justified. If you never actively played
- sports, then you should not register at once in all available occupations in the fitness - club. And here swimming, quiet walks and flat refusal from the Internet - horror stories in the spirit of “once upon a time there was one pregnant woman, and then...“ will be very opportunely.
- safe doses of alcohol during pregnancy do not exist. The fact that the girlfriend of the girlfriend of all 9 months afforded a glass of wine or a small bottle of beer on days off, and the child at her turned out excellent, does not mean yet what to you will carry also strongly. By the way, you probably never saw the kid of it. The increasing risk of development of fetoplatsentarny insufficiency and asthma at children of smokers too undoubted reality with which it is necessary to reckon.
- should not Change a way of life to unrecognizability. You do not fly to Mars, you are simply pregnant. I know the lady who tormented herself and the husband with weekly excursions on art galleries and Bach`s listening in the evenings, having carried out half-lives on scientific expeditions before. In 20 weeks it had a nervous breakdown, after it everything rose on the places. She does not listen to Bach still.
- Natural childbirth and breastfeeding are not excluded at all by the fact that you remember that Soviet ice cream with a rosette.
- Balanced diet, normal night (!) dream, minimum of physical and emotional stresses - adequate conditions for pregnancy course.
- Courses for pregnant women or individual occupations can help you to overcome concern, to find necessary knowledge of childbirth and the first months of life of the kid. Try to avoid frank sects where midwifes with mad eyes and without vocational education will tell about horrors of maternity hospitals and delights of house childbirth.
the Term “age pervorodyashchy“ were thought up not by inert Soviet doctors, he takes the place in MKB - 10 and has under himself absolutely concrete reasons. At the same time thousands and thousands of women, despite risks and difficulties, decide to give birth to the first child after 40. And each of them, looking in bottomless, huge eyes of the newborn, dizzily understands that everything passed costed this moment.