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How customs change? From norm in not comme il faut

it is considered to be Now that over time customs become more and more free, and behavior - more and more easy. Everyone can call a set of situations, options of behavior, manners or clothes which in the past were considered indecent, and now are norm.

For example, wearing trousers by women, cohabitation of couples without official registration of marriage. But there are also return moments - when something was considered as absolutely normal phenomenon earlier, and now it is considered something, though not unambiguously bad, but nevertheless not absolutely decent and is often condemned for eyes.

For example, marriage of convenience . Initially the matrimony was rather from area socially - the economic relations, than interpersonal romantic. For example, “to marry a dowry“ brides it was normal, and now it causes sneers in the spirit of “lay down under her parents“. Or on the contrary - to parents to ask at courtship of the groom supposedly on what money to support the wife - that you gather? Now to do it in opened, directly, it is considered not comme il faut because “the main thing - love, feelings“, and a marriage of convenience - not only on monetary, but also, in principle, try to camouflage the rational, but not emotional choice of the partner.

The similar situation develops also with women who devoted themselves to a family , to children and the husband. Earlier it was universal norm, but now it is perceived by many as a past remnant. Who only does not condemn them! Feminists - for what depends on the man apologists of feminity - for what devotes much time to cooking and cleaning instead of a visit of beauty shop, and purchase of things to the child prefers to a dress for himself, men usually consider that it are “sitting ducks“, and to talk to them there is nothing.

Also now there is more and more condemned phenomenon an accommodation of the adult or young couple together with the senior generation . Once it was natural and positive - nevertheless the additional help with economy and care of old men, but now living with parents of people causes suspicions of infantilism, laziness and extreme dependence of life. In the head of people the picture is drawn there is nobody the other-wordly person who is not working anywhere and nights playing computer games (certainly, with the elderly mother bearing to him to the keyboard a plateau with food, somewhere against).

Similar reaction also the votserkovlennost , only with other “picture“ causes. Full compliance with all religious instructions, ceremonies and education of children in the spirit of the belief often causes in modern people at least rejection, despite the spread external, “ostentatious“ religiousness. The last is shown that Christmas is perceived only as a good occasion for this purpose to gather with the family and to exchange gifts, Easter - to gather with friends outdoors, a post - to grow thin, and children are christened because “it is so accepted“.

On the similar account there is also a possession of many children . On the one hand, it is necessary to hear from screens of TVs that many nations become old, about demographic problems and the fact that children - our future. But in household communication reaction usually opposite: “why there is so much?!“ Usually, when speak “large family“, many imagine certain outcasts who give birth to children to live on welfares, and are not engaged in them at all. And once what now we call a possession of many children (usually it is more than two children in a family), was perfect a commonplace. Gave birth to many children, not all from them lived up to adult age, but nevertheless fantastic “there were three sons“ was not perceived as “ponarozhal“.

Other relation was also to diseases . Now it is considered that the rich person, the representative of an exclusive class of society, surely radiates with health and poor - suffers from a set of illnesses because cannot financially afford treatment. Time of people is rich, it has to “mold“ to itself(himself) ideal, by today`s standards beauty, a body, eating properly and spending time in gyms. That is the body is perceived by the same status subject as, say, hours, the car or a bag. The person who is not fond of maintenance of in shape in similar circles is perceived at least with surprise. But once was and vice versa! Morbidity (let also imaginary) let know that the person is able to afford such luxury how to spend money for doctors.