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How to teach children to good manners? Even not so: how to explain why good manners are necessary? What is the time and forces leaves on teaching to read and write the child, and it is correct to behave in society also important for their further life. 7ya. ru visited the first seminar on etiquette for children.

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what is good manners? Frenchwoman Anna Debar, the member of La Curtuazi Fransez association and the head of School of etiquette of EAF with 20 - summer a teaching experience in the different countries, arrived to Moscow to hold seminars of business and secular etiquette for adults. And for the first time - for children.

Children from 9 to 14 years - seven girls and one boy - with parents and grandmothers gradually gathered in the hall of the family center “Oho - the City“ on Tula. Anna Debar is the high blonde in a strict black suit - greeted pupils wide with a smile and strong handshake. Children shy were represented and took seats along a long table. On other table there was a bowl of salad and various ware. Game - training “Politeness and good manners at a table, in a family and in society“ promised to be interesting.


However, on time and the price it reminded game a little - rather a training: 3 hours for 8500 rubles. However, training for adults which Anna also with participation image - the residences ArtClub provides for adults lasts the whole 2 days.

As you think when the first book about etiquette appeared? 9 - summer the girl assumed that long ago - “when people went with good hairdresses and bearings“. It appears, official date of birth of etiquette - 1530 when the book of the great humanist Erasmus Rotterdamsky “About good breeding of customs of nurseries“ was published. The arch of good manners affected both study, and games, and hygiene: “If you sneeze, turn away a little aside“. Or still fine quote: “To cross hands on a breast - a sign of the lazy person“.

it was necessary to Talk to children and the teacher through two translators at once that slightly slowed down conversation. But some girls honestly tried to speak in French or in English.

the First impression

What sounds from lips of mothers more often than eternal “You made lessons?“ It is correct: “You have clean hands?“ It was asked also by Anna. But unlike mothers, the teacher of etiquette checked purity by almost scientific method - brought a mirror that children in turn pressed to it the hands. Then showed the become soiled mirror and asked: “Well, who wants to kiss it now?“ Children started giggling. But they had to wash hands again - then Anna started rules of acquaintance:“ You stand up straight, you look in the face, strong you shake hands. Your parents exchange business cards, and your business card - handshake“. Strange, but even more important rule - for some reason was not read that younger do not give the first a hand to seniors.

From handshake - to gait. That the bearing was ideal, children clamp elbows an umbrella, passing it behind the back, and go on the imagined straight line. Anna encourages pupils and gradually they begin to move more and more surely. Even when the task becomes complicated, all bravely pull hands: and in turn go with a glass of water on a tray, and then and with the book on the head.

Table layout

the Following task from Anna:“ Lay a table, as usual you cover at home“. The girl and the boy diligently place many different plates and glasses. Despite hints that it is possible to use not all available ware and that it is about a usual house dinner, children continue to force a table methodically. Anna grins: “I understood - at you is every day a holiday“. Other listeners of a seminar acted as jury. “The table is correctly laid? - Not - e - et“. Why not? One brisk girl explains: “The simple dinner does not require so many plates. What you eat usually? Well, dessert...“

Gradually by means of Anna laying becomes ideal. Children learn that the main thing on a table - symmetry. That the biggest plate under all other plates - just for appearance - is so more elegant.

When other girl notices that the knife is not obligatory - “we are children“, Anna remains is unshakable:“ Knife and fork always together even if the knife is not used“. Also, without doing discounts for age, she teaches children to understand glasses for wine:“ For red - a big glass: as our heart - big and red. The glass is less - for white and pink“.

I at the end tasty “examination“: children lay to themselves the table, eat salad, spaghetti with meatballs and pizza. Set of difficult dishes: for example, someone tries to catch spaghetti in air and to send to a mouth. Anna plays a trick on pupils and corrects mistakes.

But how “on science“ it is necessary to eat salad, shook even adults. So, the most popular French snack - lettuce leaves with gas station from vinegar and oil. Salad is put the whole hrumky leaflets - and here they need to be eaten correctly. How? One girl tries to cut leaves, but Anna stops her - salad is not cut. Another brings to a mouth the whole leaf - too incorrectly. And here Anna the dexterous movements of a knife and fork puts a lettuce leaf from four parties - accurate, ideally equal envelope turns out. The audience was struck dumb.“ Yes, it is necessary to be trained here“, - the teacher laughs.

The earlier - the better

- Anna when it is necessary to begin to teach the kid to etiquette?

- From the earliest age. For example, your daughter plays doll service - here an excellent opportunity to teach the baby to rules of laying and behavior at a table. In 6 years the child has to be able to hold correctly a knife and a fork, and gradually, to years to seven he has to cut meat itself - even if the movements will be insufficiently skillful.

- How to explain to children why in general good manners when the child answers are necessary: why to suffer, it is possible and so...

- to Explain to children advantage of etiquette as difficult how to force them to understand why it is necessary to go to school or why in general to make some efforts when “it is possible so“. But parents have to inform children that good manners are that special behavior which allows to be allocated in society, what pay attention to and that is remembered. Sometimes for this purpose is necessary very little: ask the child why he prefers, for example, that adults to it were attentive or why he likes to eat at beautifully laid table. If to speak about more senior children, ask why at it something turned out (or it did not turn out) in this or that situation. For example, why one child who was late in school was punished while another was forgiven?

do not demand the answer - just provide food for thought. Answers, most likely, will help to understand to the child that any efforts, the persistence and persistence with which the person studies something are rewarded in life.

Usually small children like to study etiquette because then they feel in different situations more surely, know what needs to be done. And parents have to inspire persistently the basic rules and always point to the correct and wrong behavior.

Especially the modern world with its indistinct borders and the competition in all branches shows to

need of the general set of rules of decency, good manners. It is enough to look at quality of education of our children today to realize that it is not enough only one school disciplines.

Youth, women and men, the companies and firms constantly compete and look for as in any way to stand out from the crowd, to force to attract attention. Actually, it is necessary to realize that return to traditions, to good manners will just allow to cause a stir from others, to promote in society. And such countries as Russia and France, with their century customs and rules of etiquette are just capable to return these to traditions force.

of the Rule of etiquette for children from Anna Debar

Not Be to be late
is ready earlier, than it is necessary to leave: accuracy - politeness of kings.

to be precautionary with surrounding
the Smile and the offer of the help cost nothing, but bring a lot of things.

to Receive guests properly of
When you invited guests, do not feel sorry for forces and time for preparation, make efforts. Guests will estimate that you wanted to please them with graceful laying and beautiful dishes.

it is correct to p to sit at a table
Present the small mouse which is going down along a back between shovels and a kitten who purrs at you on a lap. Such position - a direct back and the squeezed legs - will be ideal.