How to get acquainted with the man: 5 traps for singles of
to be a lonely man - means to be free, independent, attractive to women. Freedom and independence of the lonely woman often go near feeling of lostness, aspiration to find the love, the second half. The loneliness becomes the invisible enemy against whom so there is a wish to win.
Why does that happen: on the one hand, the woman looks for the serious relations, and with another - having been tired of continuous search, and there is one? To what traps it gets what there cannot be easily and freely the status a single? I suggest to understand these difficult questions.to
the Trap the first - the overestimated expectationsto
“To me needs only the prince on a white horse“
Wants that was near both clever, and attentive, and careful, and romantic, and economic at the same time. These are some points, and for their Man Mechta maybe more than 100. There is a strong wish that the fairy tale became a reality that lovers lived long and happily etc.it would Seem to
in what here a dirty trick? Unless somebody to want to live with the indifferent, silly, avaricious man and also the idler in addition? Of course, no. Just getting to a trap of the overestimated expectations, we mix illusions and reality. Most often it is shown that from the same person the woman waits for qualities mutually exclusive or improper each other. Simple example: seldom what man can be at the same time and the exemplary family man, the responsible, economic, and romantic hero. Anyway something in the man will be more: or he will sing serenades under a window, to prepare a bathtub with petals of roses, but to sit without work and not to know how to change the socket. Or you will feel absolutely safe, without thinking of life and economy, but your man will express love the affairs - earning money, the help with the house, and any romantic surprises and armfuls of flowers without cause for it will be waste of money and nonsense.
Therefore not to look for all life of the prince, it is necessary to understand: that it is the most important and what you are ready to close eyes to. What from all list of requirements is vital? It is desirable that there were no more than five these points.the Trap the second - high self-esteem
“I am worthy
only the best man. The man has to correspond to me“
the Second position is close to the first, but in this case the woman extols own advantages to such an extent that men just are afraid to approach such “both the beauty, and the clear head“. Now everywhere repeat that it is necessary to believe in himself, to fall in love with itself such what is - and then admirers will appear.In this case the love to itself is carried to
to a certain absurdity: the woman is as much as possible realized in a profession, visits trainings and courses, at the same time uses the mass of the efforts for maintenance of physical appeal. It it becomes valid the girl from a cover - to carp there is nothing. But also there is no wish to be near somehow... The man needs or to be on a horse all the time, proving the compliance to faultless shape of the companion, or at once to admit that it is not ideal: it is not so ambitious, earns less and keeps a figure not so carefully.
the Trap the third - fear of loneliness
“I so am afraid to remain one, and therefore I cling to any man“
women for whom existence of the relations is more important than their quality get To this trap. That case when the desire is caused to marry fear of own loneliness. Most often such behavior is connected with the fact that the childhood of such women passed under the strengthened control from parents who sought to be near the daughter all the time, wishing to support, warn, save from mistakes. And in practice, when this girl grew up, she faced what elementary does not know what wants, does not trust own opinion - her much easier and safer to be conducted, than most to show an initiative in the relations. This trap is most dangerous that women, being alarmed concerning own loneliness, the fact that they cannot independently make decisions, sometimes choose the relations in which it is more sufferings, than love. If the woman lives by the principle “as you will tell, darling“, “I for the sake of you am ready for everything“, it is very easy for man to operate her, to exercise the power.