First class, first day: how to prepare the child of
the First day at school is important not only for it, but also for you. Of course, it is necessary to you much heavier. As a rule, in the first school day more tears are shed by mothers, but not children. It is one of the first instructions on the fact that your kid began long process of withdrawal from the house.
the Introduction on school Wednesday means gradual finding of its private life, his own friends and secrets. We begin to turn into the guests who are periodically looking in life of own child. For the first time it is left in the sea of other children without adult watching each his step.
It is hard day and for fathers, but nevertheless they treat such things more philosophically. I felt nervousness when my eldest son for the first time went to school, but was glad for it, knowing that ahead of it great adventures expect.
his mother cried.
I do not want to deride its reaction as she rejoiced to its first steps by the beginning of independent life too, but on the first school Mother`s Day feel special pain of division.
- Well, - I when we went back told, - at least, till three o`clock in the house it will be silent.Has to notice
that in several days when the initial trauma from parting decreased, she agreed with me and since then adhered to this point of view.with
the fact that the first day at school turns into harder and harder ritual surprises A little. As though receipt begins earlier and earlier and lasts longer and longer. Before this important day parents repeatedly attend school and remain there at several o`clock, and sometimes and days to facilitate to the precious children adaptation to a new situation.
From my point of view, it is search. Many teachers consider that presence at a class of parents distracts children from occupations, and those with whom I spoke about it just rolled up eyes and politely smiled.
Me it seems to
, such behavior of parents is simply silly.
Ya for smooth transition of children to school as it really facilitates the beginning of new life, but the more attention you pay to it, the more attention is paid to it by your child. Especially it is fair for boys whom the school frightens as parents fuss only when an event really unpleasant. Presence of parents says to the boy that there is something important, capable strongly to afflict and therefore they have to be nearby.
Here is how you can prepare the child for school:Begin to tell
- about school since early years, but do not do of it a problem; choose other approach:“ When you grow up, will be able to go to school. Unless it is not healthy?“ If you know
- to what school it will go, from time to time, passing by, point to it.
- during week-end you come to a schoolyard to ride a bike or to play a ball. Do not do of this campaign something special as your purpose - to allow it to get used to a school situation.
- When to it will be four years old, begin to speak about school to a thicket. For example: “Unless it is not healthy that when you grow up...“ and so on. tell
- several months prior to September 1 to him that you will go to buy a portfolio and school supplies soon. Turn it into the real ritual of a growing. When people lived in caves, boys to be considered as big, had to kill the first mammoth, but we have no mammoths therefore also the choice of a school bag will fit.
- can Attend school, but do not do it regularly. In most cases it is enough of one - two times. It is not necessary to ask endlessly how he feels. He will look at you and on the basis of your behavior to calculate as to it to treat school; if you are glad to the forthcoming important event, he, perhaps, too will be glad to it.
- in the Evening before September 1 spread out all its things and school supplies and check them for the next morning. Tell that you will take away it in a class and for a while you will remain as all this is very interesting, and you want to look too, however through some time you will leave.
- on September 1 behave exactly and frostily. Photograph the child, film if he not against. If against, all the same remove. Once he will want to look at these photos.
- Go to school in high spirits. Help it to deal with things, you see off to the teacher. You can remain for a while, but when he is fond of the events, wave to it a hand, kiss if he does not object, and quietly leave.
- do not cry, you will not leave a class yet.
Ya that we seek to cultivate confidence and independence in our children. If we behave so as if the beginning of school life so large-scale and injuring event that we by all means have to stand nearby, hold them by a hand and hours to wipe tears, it will not help our children. I do not want that my sons thought as if I do not believe in their ability to cope with important events in their life. On the contrary, they have to know that I believe in their ability to cope with them.Not at all the beginning of school life will be
a lung - sometimes the movement to independence is followed by tears. If it is difficult for your son to get used to school, talk to the teacher and understand everything. However you should not remain in a class only because he is upset. He will surely calm down - most of teachers are able to communicate with the upset children. If you remain, then confirm his alarm and you can warm up a hysterics.
at the beginning of study of my eldest son days when I left it crying and upset happened. I seemed to myself the deceiver, reproached myself and was sure that he will begin to hate me. However I advised to leave to hundreds of parents and could not lose heart, having appeared in a similar situation. I left, my son coped and now loves school.
Kids easily are upset, but with not smaller ease forget the chagrin.
From the book “Synologiya. Mothers who are bringing up sons“