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Sandbox - school of communication for the child of

In a sandbox children not only build fortresses, mold a Kulichiki and dig the underpass. There is a collective. That is, the child can already get experience of communication, socialization: how to receive a desired toy how to share, change, reach compromise. The sandbox is life situations in a miniature. Watching game of kids, the attentive parent will notice possible problems in communication of the child, will be able competently to correct them: to advise the kid how to arrive in this situation, to pay attention of the child to behavior of other children, and, above all - to force it to think and draw conclusions.



- the long-awaited desired child. Mother gave birth to her late enough, and it is already clear that more it will have neither brothers, nor sisters. She and will be the only, but very favourite girl in this family.



took out to the yard a big pink carriage with two dolls and turned to a sandbox. There already other children played. Tanya suited the coeval Natasha. It brought to a sandbox a carriage with a doll too. Tannin the grandmother sat down on a shop near other mothers.

of the Girl passed a circle around a sandbox and laid carriages with dolls aside. Natasha got into a sandbox on a high heap of sand and began to shout loudly. Tanya quickened and too jumped to Natasha. They began to shout loudly together. Then Natasha began to jump on sand - Tanya repeated after her. Girls embraced and began to jump in different directions, yet did not fall together. Tanya was knocked by the head about edge of a sandbox and began to cry.

- Tanechka that you, it is necessary to watch where you jump...

- the Grandmother, well Natasha was not knocked, and jumped also!

- Tanya, you took dolls - play with them quietly, drive them in a carriage.

But Natasha already started new game - and Tanya ran behind it in bushes. Having hidden from parents, girls climbed on a small eminence and began to jump via the open well hatch from there. It was very interesting - Tannin the grandmother did not come yet. In principle, she not so terribly swore and did not even take away Tanya home.


Then Natasha and Tanya, having taken shovels, began to make for dolls a lunch. Natasha put sand on the shovel and stretched to Tana.

- you eat a squash! - Natasha told.


for some reason bent and took sand in a mouth. Right there writhed and began to spit out it. Natasha was gone from laughter. The grandmother, having inexpressibly been surprised, said:

- Tanya! You why sand you eat?

- Well, Natasha gave me...

- And for what to you the head? To wear a cap?

I think

process of thinking is even useful To the person. It is even more useful when the person is able to pay attention on people around, to generalize what was seen and to draw conclusions. At everyone this process takes place individually.

It is remarkable if you in the course of education achieved obedience from the child. But it is terrible if he becomes a puppet, but not the homo sapiens. Obedience should not kill spontaneities of the child, his personality, desires, to do it passive and perceiving only information from the outside. It has to be confident in the forces and do attempts for achievement of the desires. Let these desires not always coincide with interests of adults, but it is dangerous to suppress all initiative of the child. The child has to have own purposes.

Yes, all are afraid of “influence of the street“, influence of foreign people. Schoolmates check the child on “poorly“, “abruptly“ and other tricks. The child does not want that he was considered as “milksop“, “the boring honors pupil“, “sucker“ and can do nonsenses. Important, so far the child still small to teach him to think before giving in to a herd instinct. It is necessary to know about its environment and to prompt softly how to fight back in such - that to a situation.

If you are able already to impart in the early childhood to the child the correct concepts about the good and evil, it will be simpler to it to be guided on life, estimating personal and others` acts.

Should not forbid it communication with children who are not pleasant to you. All know that forbidden fruit is sweetest. The child can not understand the reason of a ban and all the same, secretly from parents, to communicate with “the bad friend“. Pay attention of the child to acts of this “bad boy“ better, argue together about their possible consequences. You teach the child to think and draw conclusions. It is important that the child made the choice: learned something new, earlier not known tried on to himself a part of other life - and chose the way.

it is frequent under others influence not self-assured children get. Which do not know how to interest others in the person how to win friends. Over it parents should work. Teach the child to simple games which are not known, most likely, by his friends. Get interesting puzzles, informative books with good illustrations. Often the child cannot join in the general conversation from - for the fact that he simply “has nothing to insert“. Tell it several short jokes, cheerful stories which he, as required, will be able to share in the children`s company.


the Family of small Lena moved to the new area quite recently. In the yard of the house there were a big green square and a playground. The girl very much was delighted when she for the first time saw the new yard: she so wanted to play rather in this remarkable place.


However children met by

Lena without particular interest - they already had a big, developed company. Besides, the girl several years more senior than Lena was the secret leader, and it was not interesting to it to play with “malyshny“. Girls played with a ball, ran races, and Lena sat on a shop and watched them. It several times approached - but to it suggested to come later or not to disturb.

Mother of Lena noticed this situation at once. When presented to Lena a new toy - a fluffy doggie, mother allowed to show it to other girls. Lena seized her and rushed off to the square. Children in a sandbox built the real lock. Lena approached them. The senior girl right there ordered:

- Depart, you will break our lock...

- Well you, we will only stand with my new doggie and we will look.

turned back

of the Girl, at last having paid attention to Lena - she held a plush doggie with the poured lead and a pink bow in hand.

- Wow, we can look?

- Of course!

Children surrounded Lena and began to consider its toy with interest, to ask the girl from where it arrived, on her family. And Lena told and shone with happiness. Ice was broken.

the Help of parents This example does not say


at all that it is necessary to buy friendship with the help of toys. But it demonstrates that thus it is possible to cause initial interest and desire to begin to communicate with your child. It is known that meet on clothes. Explain to the child that so you will not get a true friendship, but as a reason for acquaintance of a toy quite will approach.

If you are going to cinema, circus, the museum together with the child, suggest it to take with yourself the friend or schoolmates. Easy communication will help the kid to be liberated and have a good time. At more advanced age if your child is respected in the company, it will be exposed to less any checks on durability.

of Mother of small children, walking in the yard or the nearest park, usually “choose“ friends to the kid, being guided more by their mothers - that is absolutely normal. That is, if the woman finds interesting, congenial mother, their children will play together. But it is important to parent to put interests of the child above the. Therefore if foreign child beats yours, badly communicates with own mother, often rolls up hysterics, it is necessary to minimize such communication. Let you sometimes meet, but not constantly walk together. You prompt to the child how not to come to hand to the little hooligan how to resist to him, think up together with other mother joint game for children in which they could coexist peacefully. You can make a lot of things for the child - do not leave him alone with problems.