Super - a puper... hyper! How to bring up the hyperactive child?
“Oh, what twins, charming at you!“ - “Well you, at us are just the hyperactive kid...“ . Jokes jokes, and the element of truth in it is. What is “hyperactivity“ and as to cope with it?by
If in a family the child with the diagnosis of SDVG (a syndrome of deficiency of attention and a hyperactivity), makes impression that there is a lot of it. It was inclined over a notebook a Secunda ago and already the roar from kitchen is heard - it it got behind the most beautiful glass that to itself(himself) to pour juice, and in a couple of minutes he will already send a cat in the nursery.
It active, mobile, inquisitive, however, changeable and clockwork so that sometimes it seems, the earth spins not only round its pivot-center and the sun, but also around it.
In any case, life of the closest people precisely spins around such child. It when a family sensitive, loving and careful. And if a family, to put it mildly, another, then hails are infinitely heard: “Sit down!“, “Do not spin!“, “At me already from you the head around!“, “Idi on the street rush!“
With a hyperactivity the situation developed amusing. On the one hand, it became something ordinary. “Oh and it at me hyperactive!“ - flies from lips of the most different mothers to just noisy kid loving outdoor games. Even more often this word can be heard from kindergarten tutors and elementary school teachers. It is not assidious? Spins? Well, as I will carry away it occupation, it - hyperactive!It seems as this term everything justifies
: both roughnesses of house education, and unwillingness of the teacher to work individually with the child.on the other hand, SDVG - the medical diagnosis and only the expert can deliver to
A it. Not the tutor. Not the teacher. Not the grandmother of the kid. But only doctor.
In a word, quite often a hyperactivity call that actually that is not.
So it hyperactivity?As it to distinguish
? And what with it to do? Let`s try to answer these questions. And the most important, we will try (by means of experts) to understand: as it is possible to correct behavior of the hyperactive child in a family. In other words, as to it to help to become quieter, usidchivy, more successfully. Experience of many parents to us, and also comments of physicians and teachers demonstrate that at the correct correction many manifestations of a syndrome “leave“.
for the aid to me, as to the author of material, not only special literature and “live“ stories from life of families, but also the most interesting discussions on this subject which took place in the Novosibirsk center of the psychologist - the pedagogical help “Alice“ and at school for foster parents of the Solar Circle Center. By the way, conversation on children with SDVG not incidentally costs in the program of many schools for foster parents.can Hardly say
that little girls and boys whom we take from children`s homes, hospitals and orphanages are in “risk group“ on a hyperactivity, but... The children having experience of accommodation in the asocial environment and also the children which did not feel parental caress and concern among those to whom the diagnosis of SDVG is made there is a lot of. And to that there are reasons.We already mentioned
that the term “hyperactivity“ not absolutely true. The matter is that the hyperactivity or hyper excitability is only one of manifestations of a syndrome of DVG. Its other manifestations - deficiency of attention and impulsiveness. As a rule, one is not without another. But we will begin everything - with hyper dynamics more habitual to us.It is noticeable
already from the cradle. Only the baby was swaddled - he already pulled out handles, rolls out legs... Others quietly in maternity hospital lie, already begin to snuffle, and it as if should run somewhere.
Such children very much early begin to creep, and do it very smartly. Having still matured, such kid begins to climb everywhere. And, the more forbid it, the more he shows persistence in achievement of the purpose. The ordinary child, if he tried to get on a sofa and fell - was knocked, most likely, will leave this occupation. And ours will surely get. And with even big persistence.
is Told, at these children the pain threshold is slightly lower than norm - they not so sharply feel pain. And when such kid fights in a nursery or bites, he does it not to hurt. He is sincerely convinced that if to him it is not painful, then and to another too. When such children begin to run - clear, everything flies on a floor. They are scary talkative.
Especially according to the senior generation dreaming of silence and rest in the house. Not here - that was. I knew one grandmother who with humour called the six-year vnuchonk “my radio“. For the fact that he spoke about something all the time.
But at all aforesaid, such children often are gifted, very bright. Their intelligence is kept, they very clever, but...“ But“ is in what natural impulsiveness and inability to concentrate on something concrete very much stir them.
Very important point: SDVG by all means has to be shown during the period till eight years, and year when the child goes to school, that is, age of seven years is especially important. Mothers, with whose little sons and tutors in a kindergarten hardly coped, clutch at the head: how he will sit out a lesson?! And to worry is about what.
the Movement - life?
the Child sits down at a school desk. What installations in school? Do not spin. Do not talk. On change - not to run, amicably play a streamlet... And what to do if all aforesaid is “categorically contraindicated“ to our child? To it by the nature it is foreordained much and to move often. Not just because it is boring to sit in one pose but because the movement is just necessary for it that it could concentrate the attention and remember what is told by the teacher... As paradoxically it sounds.
the Ordinary child and that in the first class quickly is tired. If he listened 15 minutes, then minutes five he should have a rest, distract. And 5 minutes are necessary to our child who is capable to listen attentively to the teacher at most minutes seven on “switching“, no more. It has a violation of a vestibular mechanism: it needs to spin and turn.Such children are shaken by
on chairs. Often, scratching letters in copy-books, for convenience enclose a leg under a bottom, spin, receive remarks from the teacher... And not each teacher understands that the child so behaves not from the fact that he wants to annoy him or is ill-bred but because he cannot differently. When it moves, it improves blood circulation, it begins to understand and acquire lesson material better.
If you conduct such child from school home, it does not go quietly for the handle. He tries to tell you about everything at once, interrupting himself and throwing phrases untold, or begins to move actively, running away forward and coming back to you, and again running away... And on the way - he investigates oncoming cars, pools, shops...
Experts note that such hyper dynamics often remains also at teenage age. As well as impulsiveness which is mainly expressed in what the child is not able to listen to, interrupts, hurries...
So, we will emphasize: the above-named symptoms have to be shown repeatedly from the birth of the child and till eight years. And if they were not and they appeared only at teenage age, speak, it - not SDVG, and something else, perhaps, not having relations to violation CNS (central nervous system). It is not excluded that the complexity reason for that in a family (divorce of parents, the overestimated requirements to the child etc.) or school, carefully hidden by the teenager, or the use of some toxic means.
One more important point if we speak about preschool children and younger school students: verbal bans for such children are not significant, are not perceived by them. Experts recommend to act “through a body“. It is possible to speak with it quietly, at the same time stroking on a hand or touching a shoulder. You - that is better than others know that is loved and appreciated by your child!
How to define a hyperactivity at the child?
On occupation of club of adoptive parents in the Alice center to us suggested to pass the simple test devoted to diagnostics of a syndrome of deficiency of attention. If you positively answer the majority of below-mentioned questions, so you have a reason for concern.
- needs a quiet silent situation, in other conditions it is not capable to work, cannot concentrate; often asks again
- easily is distracted by external irritants;
- confuses details;
- is not finished with what begins; listens to
- , but, apparently, that does not hear; by
- of difficulty in concentration of attention if the situation “in private“ is not created
- it is badly organized;
- often loses personal belongings.
- the kid climbs on bedside tables, on cases;
- is always ready to go; runs more often, than goes; it is fussy;
- often coils and writhes; does many excess movements which he does not notice; if something does
- , then with noise; has to do to
- something always (to glue, draw, play, to hammer nails...) apparently, that he has not a rest at all.
- from the place, rustles during a lesson;
- it is extremely excitable (came from a garden or from school sluggish - itself was tired of the mobility);
- is transferred difficult by time when waits in the line;
- he is excessively talkative; touches with
- other children; at the same time, complains of them.
frankly. Having passed this test I for some minute felt the character of Jerome Jerome who, having thumbed through the medical encyclopedia, found in himself symptoms of all diseases except... maternity fever. Because he was a man. And so, I found many signs and hyperactivities, both deficiency of attention, and impulsiveness not only in the child, but also in myself... Looking at perplexed faces of other mothers, understood that I am not lonely in this concern.
Should not panic: all of us are hypochondriac also samovnushayema. Perhaps we overestimated something, somewhere exaggerated... Therefore if we are disturbed seriously by behavior of the kid, it is better to address experts directly. They will make the exact diagnosis and will make recommendations how to work.
They agreed with mother that when it begins failure, mother shows it a letter “C“, and it means that it is quiet.
Huge positive faith of mother in the child helped it to achieve much.
In what the reason?
So, we will specify. The first signs of SDVG are by all means shown till eight years. The first crisis happens in
the Second splash happens at teenage age - in
Experts believe that more than in eighty percent of cases damage CNS (central nervous system) during pregnancy and childbirth is the reason of SDVG.
of the Geneticist also matters, as well as social factor - the intra family relations. The last has a huge role, first of all, for the teenager. As parents as much itself “gives“ it - so much they treat it and will receive as a result in reply.
If at a family constantly negative installations are present: you are bad, not such as everything, and genetics at you bad - the child or will leave on negative Wednesday where it will be accepted, or “will go to an illness“, and “thanks to“ it will receive that attention it does not get which. When at such children failure, they can break, break something. Even can damage to themselves something. Certainly, there is a category of children who develop and work contrary to. They can develop and become ringleaders in a class. These are children with character. They look for and find positive support, but such it is less.
What to do?
Let`s talk about what it is necessary to do to parents of such children.to
In - the first, needs a clear understanding of a problem. Infinite remarks to the child will not improve a situation but only will aggravate. In - the second if it is, really, about SDVG (that is, about violation of TsNS), medical support is necessary.
If your child went to school, then you and to it need good mutual understanding with the teacher. And this, as they say, there is no telling how things will turn out...Wrong and, alas, usual behavior of the teacher - to transplant
this child far away that did not prevent to be engaged in another. Yes, then it disturbs a class less, but... To it it is good there. He hears nothing. He is busy with the business. The teacher some time tries to demand something from it, and then will wave a hand. The child will draw in the textbook, to cut a school desk, will climb under it... Having started missing, by all means will begin to exasperate other pupils sitting before it. Where it has to be? Behind the first school desk. Constantly in sight of the teacher where there is a possibility of emotional and visual contact with it.
Sometimes parents hesitate to protect interests of the child. Hesitate of the fact that it “not such as all“. They are afraid to ask the teacher a direct question: “Here you complain of behavior of my son and that you made to help the child? Let`s together try to it to help!“ It is necessary to cross through internal shyness.
I, of course, the child has to get constantly support from the parent. He has to feel: you near me, I understand you, I support you.All difficulties will pass
. We will cope with you. Here that most important!