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Emergence in the house of a dog can be not only a source of heat, caress and friendship, but also to exert huge impact on development of the child. What problems of development it is easier for kid to solve in cooperation with a canine friend, the candidate of psychological sciences Nina Pasternak on the example of communication of the daughter and a dog will tell.
- Very first that gives to the child appearance of an animal in the house, is an opportunity to experience experiences of pleasure and positive emotions. When in your family the dog appeared?
- When to my daughter was two years old, it was presented a puppy of a collie. With emergence in our family of a puppy of squeals, joyful shouts, laughter of the house there was even more, than was as Yulka began to rush on the apartment not one, and in the cheerful company. Every day both in the morning, and in the afternoon, and in the evening the dog and the child from - for something fought, then were reconciled, again divided something and so on.
In general, the dog gave to the child enormous amount of positive emotions which arose, for example, when the child, looking at a doggie, did absolutely not that it has to do. It was not boring for both, and, above all, Yulka grows at very cheerful child attracting to themselves those people who communicate with her.
- whether the dog Can correct or correct bad behavior of the child?
- Moreover, the dog, unlike the person, will make it without any criticism, showing, unlike us, people, the real patience. So, our two-year-old Yulka every time after food spilled for some time cup contents on a floor. Our any verbal admonitions did not help: the girl persistently made that she conceived. And, seemingly, it was even attracted to it by our rough reaction.Dzhulk`s
, unlike us, every time after the next such trick of the little hostess went and licked from a floor that Yulka spilled. Eventually to us bothered to struggle without results with the girl too, and we, following the example of a dog, just began to wipe a floor. As a result won against joint patience of adults and a dog: It became suddenly boring for Yulka to behave outrageously, and she began to eat also accurately, as well as adults.
Or one more similar case: Yulya sometimes on the street in protest took seat on that place on which she costs, without wishing to move further. If at the same time we walked together with Dzhulka, that approached the child and took seat nearby. Having got support from the friend, the child quickly calmed down and peacefully continued the way. And what would be if we every time began to swear at the two-year-old child approving the “I“ by all in the ways, available to it?
- As you consider: playing with a dog, the child, in a varying degree, can learn the major art - communication with “equal according to the status“ - with peers?
In communication with a dog Yulya mastered norms of mutual coexistence. So, when Yulya for some reason beat with a shovel a dog, that answered it, taking Yulina a hand teeth, never biting. I at the same time did not interfere, only stood nearby. Yulkina cries about the help did not react to everything: itself is guilty why struck a doggie?
the Most interesting occurred when the child and a dog began “to divide property“. For example, Yulka suddenly decides that she extremely needs a lodge in which the dog sleeps. Here fight in which I refused to take part too begins: understand. There was also the return: Jule is necessary names that doll which Yulya plays at present. Dismantling and fight are started over again.
Always all these misunderstanding terminated in the world: Yulya suddenly replaces anger with favor, giving Jule an opportunity to manage for a while in the and its property.
In general, the canine friend for the child is the best psychologist and the assistant in questions of social adaptation. Children who have a dog the easier others join new collective and make friends. The dog can help the timid child to come into contact with peers in the yard, to find friends.
- In your opinion to opinion whether happens so what at the children living together with animals, the leading and organizing qualities are formed quicker, than at those who had no animals?
- Should note that in communication with a dog the only child in a family loses also a role of the senior, the head, feeling the importance and taking the responsibility in relation to an animal. >
At the small child it is quite difficult for p to develop a habit to subordinate the behavior to the word it “is necessary“. So, when we with Yulya stay at home one, with Dzhulya it is necessary to take a walk. And Yul there is no wish, she wants “to lie down“, “have a sleep“, “to play“, “to watch the animated film“ etc. In this case all my arguments in favor of walk with a dog terminated in a categorical statement of Yulya:“ Dzhulya does not want to walk“. What to do?
Ya, as a rule, nevertheless persuaded the daughter to go outside. There was it because that walks with a dog were pleasant to it: they together ran behind crows, one after another, with other children. Result, in my opinion, is as follows: the dog was walked, and the duty turned for the child into fascinating pastime. Very important at the same time the fact that at the small child the useful habit was formed - regularly to do that it “is necessary“.Especially brightly this situation was shown by
in the winter when Yulya excitedly rode together with other children an ice slope about our entrance. It delighted with similar entertainments. But suddenly someone starts a petard, and our “courageous“ dog flies to an entrance.“ The daughter, Dzhulk should take away home, and that she will be lost“, - I say to the child who is two and a half years old. And Yulka resignedly goes to take Dzhulya home though under other circumstances to persuade the girl to do what she does not want, it is just impossible.
Or other situation: the dog sleeps, and Yul there is a strong wish to play with her. Yulya approaches a dog and rather inconsiderately awakes her what Dzhulya begins to snap lawfully at. Yulya at the same time loudly is indignant and complains of a doggie.“ Itself is guilty, it was necessary to wait until Dzhulya wakes up“, - the girl hears in reply.These words - “should be waited for
a little“ - force the child to subordinate the behavior not to momentary desires, but objective requirements of a situation that is very important for formation of strong-willed behavior.
Of course, the pet teaches the child to bear responsibility for others. The kid realizes that the animal is not a toy, and behind him it is necessary to look after, feed, walk daily. Skills of communication with a dog can help it and with adulthood, the child already since the childhood learns to be responsible for the acts.
- whether the dog Can make the contribution and to intellectual development of the child?
- Of course, the dog only supplements those various conditions of development in the child`s life which adults have to create: living in the various world full of new impressions and all of new and new informative tasks, the child will develop according to the age opportunities.
But the canine friend can become a source of the first knowledge of the nature. The child watches the pet, his behavior, notes reaction to stroking, to various teams. The animal also is of great importance in development of a sensorika in the child. Through sense organs the kid perceives objects and learns to call them: form, size, color, smell, movements.
In my opinion, the dog if she is on friendly terms with the child, gives it an additional opportunity for development of intellectual skills and a creative initiative. The kid learns to see communications and dependences. The animal is a source of different types of activity as a result of which at the child observation, inquisitiveness is formed, the imagination develops.
So, Dzhulka constantly put new informative problems which the girl had to solve before Yulka. For example, Yulka at own will attached a lead to a collar when we went with a dog for a walk (at the same time it is necessary to delay a latch on a lead and this exercise demands a certain development of thin motility to insert a collar ring into an opening-).When Yulya just began to tell
, it on the street, after me, gave verbal instructions of Jule that that should do. Interesting the fact that Dzhulya understood it and, as a rule, (but not me) submitted to it. Situations when the child has to formulate the verbal order to a dog, during each walk there is a set. And as exactly the human speech also begins with need to transfer the request to other person, appears that the dog stimulates speech development of the child.
Or such situation: we together with Yulya ride in the evening in the winter a snow-scooter near the house; Dzhulya with us. But our dog is afraid of the dark, noise and much - many other. Therefore when we with Yulya want to take a walk still, Dzhulya runs to an entrance, very clearly showing what wants home. Here my daughter who is two and a half years old and who, rather well saying the most various phrases begins to argue aloud, does not show the developed statements yet.Yulin`s
the speech is as follows approximately:“ Well you, Dzhulya! You will walk or not? You what, you will go home again? What you are afraid of, Lyulya (the girl so calls herself) is afraid of nothing“ etc. And it occurs not once or twice, and always when the dog the next time breaks our walk.Should tell
that Yulya did not show such long coherent speech during this period yet, probably, just there were no problem situations stimulating process of thinking. Here Dzhulya helped: created a situation when the child will - bondage had to speak.
in conclusion I will note such fact: the USA keeps dogs first of all for the sake of children: in families with children of their about 18 million, and all in the country - about 26 million.
P. S. If after reading of this article at least in one family of our readers there is a canine friend, “Grapes“ will consider the task executed.