How it is correct to communicate?Key ability for successful activity in this world are ability to communicate correctly. The person - a being social, and, without being able to communicate with others, it is doomed to drag miserable existence. So, how it is correct to communicate?
the Main rule of communication - paradoxically and logically at the same time: to communicate - means, to listen . Any of us wants to be heard, and, killing all the time of the interlocutor the notes, similar “deafs“ will not be able to deserve respect at it.
But to listen to the interlocutor is not only to be silent and it agrees to nod at the necessary moments. To listen and hear the person - means, to be interested in him. Do not hesitate to lead and deny that fact that “to you, probably, and it is uninteresting to listen“. Having forced the person to believe that it is of value for you - at least information, you will be able to cause in it to you sympathy, and it is very important for further communication.
When all begin to listen to you, you should not spend time and trust of people, adding to the speech excessive amount of “water“ - both information, and lexical. I think, of what filler words in the speech of the person - plague for which it is necessary to be treated told you more than once. And what about water information? Trying to diversify the speech, we often add various “thingies“ to offers, stirring the necessary information with uninviting details and branches. You want that you were heard - you speak to the point. By the way, all this paragraph could consist of only one previous offer.
The following important rule concerns of an assessment of the events and interlocutors . It would seem, everything is simple: all love when they are praised, and do not love when they criticize. Actually, both the criticism, and a praise need to be presented accurately and in the necessary doses. It is often possible to understand that the person, telling you the next true-life story, involuntarily waits from you for words: “The good fellow, you made everything correctly“. Be not avaricious on a praise and recognize fidelity of an act of the interlocutor. If not on an interior what he made or told you, then state the discontent in detached and neutral tone: “Of course, I have no right to judge, but it seems to me …“ The Same rule concerns to you, as well as to the one who will be praised or abused. Be ready to listen to fair criticism.
Are very important during the speech shown of emotion . Certainly, having begun conversation with a smile, you a priori gain the interlocutor quicker. If the interlocutor shows aggression, it is impossible to become rough and angry in reply at all - probability that verbal sparring will lead to a fight, is very high. On the contrary, it is worth showing respect and participation for the problems of the interlocutor which caused aggression flash. So you not only cool a heat, but also deserve the title “the best negotiator“ among acquaintances.
As a rule, aggressive conversation can become even if it began quite amicably. And most often disrespect for opinion of another and ignoring of arguments in dispute becomes the reason of it. Know what one only “is not present, you are not right“ the person will not overpersuade, will only provoke his vanity. If you also began to argue, try to respect a point sight of the interlocutor and to reason the position.
And finally I will give advice: speak, the impression about the person develops in the first 15 seconds of conversation. Make so that the beginning of your communication was the most pleasant: smile, call the person by name and show that he is interesting to you.