How to answer loaded questions?Loaded questions can be set both from audience, and at personal contact. Usually their purpose - to discourage, force to experience confusion, and they often serve as the weapon in dispute to approve the point of view and to suppress the opponent. Whether there are effective ways to resist to it?
One of often used methods of introduction of the person to confusion is the question from the personal sphere, for example: Whether “And the truth that you were badly in time pupil at school?“ Such question nonpluses and forces to come true, to recognize itself the poor student - means, to drop the authority. Even if it is a question initially false and you really studied as one five and gained the diploma with honors, attempt of a justification calls into question competence of the solution of some tasks. To prove that “I am not a camel“ - it is always unprofitable. And the provoker, having got the advantage, calms down and further already draws the line. Such questions it is possible to think up much, they can be ridiculous, inappropriate and even trite, and it does not confuse the provoker.
Further everything depends on ability to behave. It is possible to get out of this situation the easiest way: to look strictly at the provoker, to wait a small pause, and then to continue to speak on the subject. This reception kills two hares at once - in - the first, you did not begin to justify youselves and lose prestige, and in - the second, exposed the provoker the person who is not worthy to answer it. Usually this reception allows to besiege it.
Besides, it is possible to make of any inconvenient question light. It cleans an essence of a prick and adds to you the authority. For example, the ill-wisher cries out: “You tell a complete nonsense“. Pause. He already anticipates your confusion and desire to justify oneself. And ask it a question on a question: “From where you know my aunt?“ He, most likely, will begin to grumble that does not know any aunt that you translate a subject etc. And further you show cards: “She criticized me long time these words“.
It is possible to make several such preparations and to use them if the difficult meeting is necessary. They can be used not only on large audience, but also in closer circle, and even in private.
The sense of loaded questions is more psychological. Therefore it is possible to neutralize easily them if to switch by attention to the most asking and to open his negative motivation . This reception is skillfully used by our president. Once asked it an inconvenient question on a press - conferences which he answered that he, of course, understands that the asked question maintains interests of the newspaper which is financed by so and so, and their aspirations are quite clear. After such introduction sharpness of a question fell down at once, and it was possible to answer quietly in essence further or to take away a reasoning in other party.
Other option of this reception is the address of attention to personal motivation of the provoker . For example, it is possible to tell: “I understand that you want to ego-trip in such a way, but now not time for this purpose“. Such answer practically will always be in a point at loaded questions as their authors really ego-trip and, in case of success, enjoy the superiority. If it turns out to point to this motivation, all sharpness of attack will be leveled and then already forward will be discouraged.
In case of use of any methods of neutralization of loaded questions the tranquility and a hladnokrovnost is of great importance . If quietly to meet a sensitive issue, then to neutralize it it turns out much easier, than in a case when it really touches and serious nervousness appears. It is given with training and not at once.
And one more reception - change of a context of a sensitive issue . A provocation essence - to expose you disparagingly not by means of the fact, and by means of the relation to this fact. If to return to a question of the poor student, then it is possible to feel shame that progress was low, and it is possible - pride that many great people badly got on well at school, but it did not prevent them to achieve success. Everything depends on the relation to this fact.
For example if say to you that as the person with such low progress can hold such responsible position in school, then it is possible to answer: “I am very glad that I can though in some degree to feel the participation in the great people who were badly studying at school, for example, to Albert Einstein“.
Or other question: “You consisted earlier too in party which you criticize now?“ Answer: “I just also entered it to learn all its negative sides in practice“.
Summing up the result, one may say, that there are effective ways of neutralization of loaded questions. Only some practice is required to learn.