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What dirty tricks “an alpha - roditelstvo“? Part 2

the Alpha - a roditelstvo is based on the theory of attachment, popular in modern psychology. It is that there are four types of affection of the person for other people and they are behavioural stereotypes.

They were revealed by psychologists by practical consideration which consisted that the child came into the room with mother then that left, leaving the child, and then came back. Psychologists observed and fixed behavior of the child then revealed regularities.

So, main “schemes“ of behavior which were called attachment types were are as follows:

1. Reliable attachment is expressed so that the child looked self-assured in the presence of mother and worried when it left, but then switched to game and as soon as it came back, threw everything and ran to it. It is considered that it - only a normal type of attachment, it is called still safe, and by all others, respectively - unsafe.

2. The ambivalent (resisting) attachment is that with mother the child is disturbing and when it leaves, begins to worry much stronger, after return he in every possible way expresses the offense on it. It is considered to be that such type of attachment is formed at children whose parents are inconsistent in the acts therefore the child is anxious, without knowing what to expect from adults.

3. The avoiding attachment is shown that the child looks from outside self-assured and absolutely not dependent on that, mother is near or not. It is considered that such behavior is formed at children whose parents are a little emotional, seldom take children on hands and spend with them not enough time therefore children do not learn to build close relations.

4. The disorganized attachment looks unusually: in such cases when mother leaves, the child stiffens and when she comes back - is frightened her and runs away. It is considered to be that such type of attachment arises when systematically scoff at the child.

Also there is a mixed type, symbiotic attachment in case of which children constantly draw attention of mother to themselves and try not to move a step from it. It is considered that such behavior is formed at children of disturbing mothers.

According to the theory of attachment only as “normal“ it is considered to be reliable attachment which call also “safe“. Others carry to “unsafe“ and consider unhealthy and developments. Children with “unsafe“ types of attachment can be retrained, with the purpose to receive as a result “safe“. As as manifestations of attachment are considered desire to be near object of attachment, to be alarmed when parting with it and at sincere experiences to seek to find a consolation in it, “unsafe attachment“ at children it is accepted “to treat“ by frequent tactile contact with parents, joint activity, regardless of that, it is pleasant to the child or not. Also adherents an alpha - roditelstvo often write off “unsafe“ attachment of the child for what the last is in infancy carried in a carriage, but did not carry in a baby sling, or fed from a small bottle, but not a breast, the child in the bed, but not together with parents and so on slept...

However in the middle of 2000 - x years research about abilities to suppress negative thoughts at people, different in types of attachment, was conducted. Within it selected people with different types of attachment, asked to think at first of the negative connected with their partners (as though those swore, left them, died, etc.) and then - not to think of it, and looked by means of MRT what processes during all this happen at them in a brain.

It became clear that at people with different type of attachment during experiment different areas of a brain became more active, respectively, it turned out that at people with different types of attachment information is differently processed by a brain. Thus, the type of attachment was not a behavioural stereotype, but reflection of how the human brain works. It became clear what to try to correct the type of attachment is approximately all the same that to correct a levorukost: in principle, it is possible to accustom to reproduce external signs of other type (as - to teach to write the lefthander right), but anyway these signs will “get out“ (as at many retrained lefthanders more dexterously leaves to use the left hand in life).

Is also interesting the fact that in Germany among mentally normal adults and children research of how concrete types of attachment are widespread was conducted. It became clear that reliably attached people only about 55%, ambivalent - 9% avoiding - 16%, and disorganized - 19%. Respectively, the idea and the fact that “unsafe attachment“ was wrong in some way, in fact, is discredited. If it was faithful and “unsafe attachment“ was harmful to the person, then it would not remain at 45% (nearly a half!) the population, and it would be wiped out in the course of natural selection. If something is, so it is necessary for something...