In what secret force of a gift?
Here and New Year`s holidays not far off. And with their approach the subject of gifts always rises. Many begin to strive on their search and purchase long before an event. The gift is a message from the donator, his wish, a message. At a dawn of existence of mankind people believed what giving becomes related with other person by means of a gift.
In Russia, on custom, the person entered the house with a gift. And owners in this house were ready to present, feed, shelter it. There was a belief that prosperity is connected not only with abundance on a table and in cellars, but also with generosity, readiness to share and present neighbors. The French proverb claims: “Able to give is able to live“.
In modern customs echoes of the ancient belief connected with a gift remained: the presented thing has a certain spiritual power or bears in itself part of soul of the donator. It is possible therefore - that gifts - peredarka are easily identified by the recipient that souls different are added in them, time of absolutely remote people, and it causes confusion and irritation in the addressee. The one who is the author of a gift now, receiving it from other donator, managed “to load“ it with the disappointment or disappointment. No wonder therefore that the next recipient of this gift has thoughts of absurdity of a gift, awkwardness and even rage.
In this way delivery of addressless or senseless gifts often is invasion on the territory of their recipient, his personal or inhabited space. What then to do to it with the next vase or kitchen tacks? To put or hang up solemnly on a foreground on pleasure to the guest (!) to hide on the shelf which is already already filled with unnecessary stuff, to carry in church or somewhat quicker, so far from weight this shelf did not burst, to attach to the following addressee?
Of course, the rational person will not be surprised to an unnecessary gift, and will belong efficiently and first of all will think of the one who can attach it further. Having rested in bed, this thing removes on a chain to the new poor fellow. And to strengthening of the friendly relations or positive emotions this circulation of things of a concern has no. It is just the act of release from unnecessary stuff in which there is no good.
Until recently the popular belief condemning repackaging protected from this absurd kolovrashcheniye of objects of a material world, but traditional representations not in fashion now.
The same who treats gifts seriously should remember that criterion of “correctness“ of a gift is that feeling of pleasure which feels, handing a gift, the donator.
the Gift is a sign of an arrangement and care of the recipient of a gift. To accept a gift - means to be adjusted on such relations. At the same time degree of sympathy or love is expressed not so much in the gift cost how many in difficulty of its search or care of its choice. And if the hero of the occasion or the owner have all - everything is, and nothing sensible as a gift comes to mind, then it is possible to remember a good tradition to bring to the house gifts. In our pragmatic and prompt century the food made by own hands gets special value if his author did not regret for the recipient of so expensive time, forces and an invention.
Well, and the words pronounced at delivery of a gift matter too. Agree, very much such parting word as “I would be glad know that guessed with a gift differently sounds, I long chose it and decided that this thing can really please you“, and such manual which is regularly heard, for example, by the colleague, receiving from the acquaintance as a gift books on the Russian orthodox literature or an iconography: “It is a pity that you do not love Russia, but, maybe, you sometime will understand how you are wrong“, - in fact, quite provocative, and on tone - vospitatelno - the instructive statement.
Same also parents when they hand to the child as a gift an album of painting, not so actual for it, or volume of the encyclopedia from that field of sciences in which the child is not interested at all sin. Whatever one may do, at a gift and process of education everything is the different purposes. And one thousand times of the right the writer de Sommeri who told: “Three things make gift advantage: feeling, relevance and way of a presentation“.