Management of a family: stereotypes of representations and feature of behavior of the person in a family of
of People so behaves in a family what her sociocultural environment, which includes her and the immediate environment. It, first of all, sets to it these or those ways of behavior and types of the relations which can be as positive, aimed at the development of a family, and negative, destroying it.
In understanding of how the person in inside families behaves, his ideas of what is represented by his elect, his environment and its relatives, i.e. those people with whom he should live are initial or to communicate rather often including as necessary. Respectively, it gradually forms an image not only the elect, but also his future family. It correlates these images with own “I“ - in the way where are reflected its idea of themselves, of strengths of own personality and those lines which it would like to hide and disguise. Here we can refer its expectations and fears which he has at the very beginning of creation of a family, desire and aspirations, ideas of the opportunities, risks, abilities to use and “to lick into shape“ the first and to successfully overcome others.
What his elect and a family in general will give it? What will it give them? If the image of the elect, his environment, their future family and it “I“ is combined in his consciousness, then his behavior in a family will have adaptive character. If these images are not combined, then his behavior and the relation in a family, most likely, will accept dezadaptivny, timeserving or frank conflict character.
The image of a family and its environment in the subjective plan begin to be formed with ideas that there is a person family and also what the sociocultural environment of such person including social norms and valuable orientations, ethical views and social estimates and expectations, examples of behavior, levels of household and business good breeding of good breeding, socially - a psychological background of the seed relations, the creative atmosphere, competence of the family member of the solution of these or those family problems, individual styles of communication, education of children, family leadership, etc.
to the Family person or, to the person family has to be, it is important to know what sociocultural and socially - psychological examples of behavior awaking to set to it the family, solving alternative: “The person for a family or a family for the person?“. In the first case for its family environment the performer, a peculiar family functionary (for the woman - “kitchen, children, church, for the husband - the getter and “clever fingers“), in the second - the creator, the initiator, the initiator of the majority of family affairs and traditions is important. The judgment of own behavior which for the person family grows in the real personal problem, and even the drama also depends on it: “I connected myself by family bonds to live, or I live that to support these family bonds? And in general, for what I need a family?“.
We will allocate four types (we do not exclude that maybe it is more of them) ideas (stereotypes) of the person family, that he is:
“the prudent person“, i.e. the person focused, first of all, on benefit on receiving from creation of a family of any subsequent benefits, whether it be material values, promotion, new perspective business, etc.;
“the functional person“, i.e. a certain functional appendage to family life: she satisfies the husband, strives on economy, takes care of children, he - earns money, repairs, does all man`s work, makes the major decisions (or, on the contrary, it is done by it);
“the person loving“, i.e. in a family and marriage placing emphasis on the experiences, emotional states which very powerfully influence a psychoemotional background in a family, its psychological atmosphere, comfort of its existence.
“the moral person“, i.e. estimating all events which are taking place in a family from the point of view of morally - ethical ideas of it, that, “what there has to be an ideal family“.
These stereotypes are also the major reference points for the people establishing a family and marrying. It is interesting that in this or that ratio they meet in consciousness of each person seeking to establish a family. His behavior in general and in concrete situations depends on what of these stereotypes dominate in consciousness of each family member.
In fig. the model of refraction of stereotypes of ideas of the person family in consciousness of the typical young man is shown: