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LOVE? OR LOVE CHIMERA?

Love... family... estimated happiness...

… One is the reason of many stains - purposeful desire of one to make life of another “happy“, contrary to his desires and tseleustremleniye … when the model of “happiness“ is just imposed … disregarding opinions of another … we Will present to

the picture “Serova“ … there are spouses at the time of the section of property everyone over “belongings“ - at one in bags the most valuable to it - the book, some lecture materials training video records are the main thing that it carries away with itself(himself) … At another - crystal, carpets, furniture, kitchen utensils … is its world … And of course, he speaks to “former“: you would have one book: “about tasty and healthy food“ - we would live forever … and you preferred another … “incorrect“ …

“Us is chosen, we choose …
As it often does not coincide …“

Happens, decades of joint life leave to understand, - very long “bring together us in one place“ - a family … whether our childbirth (an accent on the letter “y“), can solve any problem at such association of patrimonial lines; whether some genetic mutation will help them to resolve, to pass some way … generally, “mysterious are the ways of the Lord“ …

Here us was reduced to one place (family) or simply speaking, created us training conditions in a crisis situation, having entered such concept “as love chimera“ into this space and time (see in more detail O. Shakhvorostova. About the person).

You begin to live with the perfect stranger (you can him and you know many years), in very close space (just like the cabin by the ship, where you at everyone on a look, “clearly“) specially created by the world that we learned each other in a situation - “when it is difficult“ … The family is a place or limited space, and in it people need to learn two (and in fact we rub - He, she and is a God between them): to live, survive, survive always Development begins to breed, develop …

from three; two - there is no development; only the third in ours 3 - x the measured world gives the chance of development … Then marriages without love, naturally, are doomed to death, in them there is no third - God, and then both are doomed … to life without love - without Light, without God. Without God of people becomes the Devil … Balance of God and the Devil in it will give the chance to it to be entered in this world, to be the survived and autonomous object … This world will quickly destroy Belenky, the clean angel - having sent it to “the Kingdom of God - the world of light and love“ …

Here one natural question arises: and Earth? It that? - is not the world of light and love perhaps? Why then say to us that the person has to, it is obliged to live in love? It turns out as always - promised that the love on Earth will live, but did not create under it conditions? So?!

If to begin to reflect further in this direction, then I think, you will naturally encounter those questions, answers to which - all remained your life …
generally, got we on different, from us not to the dependent reasons, to this family … and what`s next?, Of course, we wait for happiness … it here - here on us will spill …

But not here - that was, that convention in this game comes into force, - “a love chimera“ (a certain impracticable and unrealizable phenomenon) - our dreams about each other are obviously not real …
the Wife thinks of the husband that it has to be “here it …“, and the husband about the wife thinks ““ … well if these dreams about each other coincided - LIFE IN LOVE AND the CONSENT begins … the chimera collapsed - life begins to be under construction not on mythical dream, and on realities of everyone and of course, first of all - conscience and responsibility begin to become agnela - keepers of such family …

A if dreams of another (another) absolutely fantaziyna, then further is had good school of training on survival of each of (seven) got …

of People lives in Everything here - LAZINESS - ACHE, and respectively, it is so lazy that the desire to be trained in something in it arises only then, when “absolutely the cover“ when choked … when to breathe nothing … differently he “will not move“ anything that itself(himself) to pull out “for hair“ from a bog where got as Myungkhauzen …

the Family - as school on training of the person - losing himself, destroying the I for the sake of tranquility other (another), to be able not to come in time for line from where you not to identify … any more not to come for line of not recoverability your true “I“ … sometimes there is a body is possible still to restore, and here smother - already late - it left far from the body … mental diseases … in your body begins to live the hostel of souls, a podselenok, demons, and god knows still whom …

At such process of “training“ in the person in a family very easy to see the pluses and minuses, chances and not chances … quickly to understand … and to be trained to defend the “I“ while it was not deformed, did not destroy …

But the person (in most part) prefers to live in “ignorance that creates with itself“ - in illusion: and has to be, nothing can be changed, all so live, all suffer … I well live … in a different way I am not able … We forget or simply we do not understand that it is only school where we “voluntarily - forcibly“ pass training process …

there is such science - ETHICS, it can be designated as on which the person can easily and just pass some laws of the world on life … some of us, capable to training, in my opinion, can seize this science, and some are born with its laws which are already entered in their structure as vital need...

And if we unethically dream of another, it is perfect disregarding the world of his desires, its installations and concepts about the life with you, then of course, we have that “deserved“ … payment for the self-confidence that you know: as another has to live …

We simply smother each other, running the world into the world of other person … and the more rigidly we run, the more it we pull down … saying that “I love you to tears …“, but we do not release it from the embraces even if he already choked (las) … with a booze, festivities, uproars and other nasty thing … preventing it to be oneself - simply the person - but not the husband or the wife …
the Woman does not understand that she at the man in his designation, first of all costs - the RANK, SERVICE to the HOMELAND, FRIENDS … and then already a family and service to it …

its way - “to go there - do not know where“ … and is silly that woman who knows - “where to conduct the husband“ … it does not look for the fate itself, does not go on the ways - roads … it always brings to a rupture of the relations and their … remember the acquaintances …

the Husband does not understand that the woman - the keeper of his back, its tranquility, it darinya and bereginya, the keeper of his soul and napoitelniyets of his spirit … than more beautiful and wiser she … the stronger and wiser IT …

In the vicious relations in a family where we build happiness, forcing each other, we break the main space law, unethically interfering and often destroying the world of another though to us by life it is determined to everyone to follow in the way … to live life …

to assert the right for the way parents, most often with the love to us, so often interfere then also the family is established on the way of the person to his own happiness as the certain strengthened situation on formation of the mentality it is frequent in the most cruel tests of the family ground. Involuntarily the seditious thought … those who do not establish a family consciously, they that creeps in? - have bigger advantage on life to go the way? To them life puts less barriers? THAN THEY IT DESERVED? And why society does not make their decision - “not to have a family, not to bring children“ as the normal phenomenon … Why we begin to consider them defective.? It is SO CONVENIENT to us? To us ENVIABLY.? and we latently somewhere try to restrain them all the time what they not as all of us - family?!.

Further - it is more … the more rigidly relationship in a family is created, the more difficult to it to survive in the world, in the environment of society … about it and there is no wish to part the writing … I think that each of us can give a heap of examples of it … It turns out that such “the chained and fateful family“ is not supported at all by the universe because in it perversity of communication between people is shown, the principle of freedom and independence is broken.
the Living environment begins to squeeze involuntarily a vice around such people - their intensity causes external resistance … in the person … The spirit of a contradiction begins to grow in people of this family … they begin to understand that they “victimized“ each other … it at best if they did not destroy in themselves yet what can think and analyze … then the drag of examinations “whose member to a dlinsha“ begins … About development of people in such relations out of the question because they so already strained that the space begins to strain also strongly, squeezing out them - or from this strained reality, or from their bodies, or from something else, for example from reason … there where it is thin … in general … at whom what is weaker, there and will jerk … If the level of culture of the relations is higher than
, then people begin to understand that everyone has rights, on which it can build the life …, people begin to seek for restoration of the independence, to the freedom … as will agree in general … options much … If the level of ethics of the relations is low

, then most often dictatorship of one will destroy life of others in this family, up to “shooting“ … that was anybody`s (draw) … to crush … to crush … divorce sometimes is a real situation of rescue of the life, the beginning another.

Many have a chance to begin to look at the world own eyes, but not through a prism of opinion of another … How often at us occurs? You go to theater with the wife (husband), you see a performance, - and there again the same - missile defense LYUBOV, missile defense YOUR LIFE! It is interesting to you because you already began to think that something in your life was obviously deformed … you all the time do dependent - from mood, from mentality, with boredom of idleness … from a hungover syndrome … You see a performance about foreign love, and think about the … You already generated in yourself spirit of a contradiction which forces you to look for an exit from the stagnant relations … you already began to think …

A you cannot think … for you another habitually thinks … you begin to be pushed to an exit from theater, saying that the performance “garbage“ that all “shit“ … that it is better to go home and to drink beer … and you go … so far that there was no scandal, “that there was no war“ … though to you there is a wish to see a performance … about the love … about the life …

Why you did not notice what you broke for a long time when you broke? On what you broke what in you killed? Why you do not want to be yourself - the free and happy personality?! To whom to turn these questions?

How to learn to interact, without destroying the world of another how to learn a correctness, ethics if it was not put in a matrix, parents etc. did not create. How to learn “to sound“ to the person on all the ranges of feelings, emotions that its radiations got into the worlds close to it on spirit that were among it a wave - the field world real people, with coinciding frequencies of harmony … that in life appeared many friends and adherents, but not one dictator managing your life AS the CARELESS STOREKEEPER who is eternally wishing to drag off something in the corner from the protected warehouse … nonsense …

… we reached generally in our reflections already that it is possible to accuse someone of hauling of your life for ensuring own content - “in granaries at me is one more life if that, then it will support me“ … From captivity when run to the hungry district … surely take “lunch“ …

It is cruel? Nonsense? Nonsense?
to Whom as will carry!

To us nobody prevents to build the relation by other rules - by rules of the ethic relation and mutual respect for another … where everything is under construction on trust where the family is a mutually strengthening of another … ability to make it happy, without endowing itself at the same time … People understand that they without another are defective … that they are so not lonely in this world when someone is near … true, reliable and favourite …

But in order that such family, such relations appeared, much of us it is necessary, first of all, to learn to be more sincere, more reasonable, healthier in every respect … that also the relations were same as well as you … and such schools exist for today...