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First appointment. What questions it is better not to ask?

the First appointment - quite responsible action. If there is a wish to succeed in this case, then it is desirable to be prepared and try. Communication - one of the main criteria of a successful completion. If to consider it in more detail and profoundly, then it is possible to allocate several components - questions, answers, neutral conversation, emotions …

In this article would like to pay special attention to questions since generally they move and direct conversation. Often we tell something spontaneously, on a habit, without having thought … The same concerns also questions. On the first appointment similar “liberties“ can fairly impair a little a situation. If the answer to a question is difficult, then conversation is slowed down, the person worries and appointment gradually loses the necessary rhythm.

So what questions it is better not to ask on the first appointment? Of course, there is a lot of such questions, and it depends on a concrete situation. But we will consider the most universal and widespread.

How are you doing?

However, is quite harmless question. But it does not mean development. Often it is set allegedly for the sake of decency, but actually from - for ignorances what to begin with. The matter stereotyped and jammed. And often comes to an end equally - “Normally“.

Well where we will go?

to the Man it is better for i to be prepared by

in advance, where to go or invite. Usually and do. Cinema, cafe, etc. But the cinema comes to an end also a stomach not rubber. The matter all the same will arise (where now?) . Let it will arise mentally, aloud voice the ideas. The consent or amending is already the case second. “ Questions well, to you or to me?“ or “To me we will go?“ to men the high probability is better to forget - to frighten off. Tell

about yourself. What you are engaged in life in?

Not everyone can brag of rough activity and the sea of hobbies. I work there - I study there - … And in a throat - as if a lump. Even if also is what to tell about, not everyone is able. It is too direct and sharp question, sometimes it as if enters into a stupor. It is in this situation better to answer so: “I prefer to talk, but not to tell“. Learn about the person in the course of conversation, but not by means of such direct banal question.

A what men (women) are pleasant to you?

If appointment is, so there is a potential sympathy. And time will show details. Why to force events? All the same the man will not say to the blonde that he likes brunettes; and the woman will not say that it is crazy about burning brawny brunettes when before her the fair-haired fatty sits.

How old are you?


Likely, everything it is known that women cannot be asked such question … Here also do not set. Long she will not keep in secret, most likely, all the same.

A that? (A reciprocal question on any another)

If you is asked, so it interests. Even if it is absolutely insignificant, nevertheless. Perhaps it is attempt to grope the soil, to approach closer, to learn more. And the question “And What?“ - as if a stick in wheels.

Can kiss you?

is Told, on a kiss do not ask for permission. Turned away the head - means, it is impossible (but not the fact). And on eyes it is visible, I think, it is possible or not. Therefore, men, do not give in. If it likes a kiss - it is a considerable trump.

Well, how I to you?

is a question for those who do not want to drudge (because in turn still a two-three of applicants). On further behavior it will be clear, “as I to you“. And that so inadvertently it is possible to lower also hands if she (he) suddenly answers: “Normally“, and you expected: “You - super!“. You do not force an event. Writes, calls after a meeting - everything not so badly.

Of course, abnormality of the matters can seem elementary. But, I will repeat, it is frequent they as if jump out, spontaneously. And if some questions can be quite harmless (relatively), then others can cause irritation, awkwardness, disappointment that it can adversely be reflected in appointment and in further development of the relations. Therefore - act more after careful consideration.