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How it is polite to enter the unpleasant interlocutor into a stupor?

Us are constantly surrounded by people of the most different age, religions, outlooks... We most often on an automatic pilot, subconsciously in communication divide friends, fellow workers and unfamiliar. Owing to lack of a psychological maturity of any of our daily environment can not attach significance to the fact that to us now not to it, and the reasons we on it can have a weight.

Not everyone, having listened to your problems, can understand you. As the result conversation develops into unpleasant skirmish which will not lead to anything good.

Of course, ways to finish not palatable conversation there is a lot of, but what to do if we do not want to offend the interlocutor? Here the technicians of an irrefragable answer including motivation of immersion of consciousness in understanding of your answer or a remark will also be necessary for us. In other words, everything said by you has to set the person thinking - and as a result dialogue will stop. There are several cunnings, and you for certain remember similar situations from your life.

Option first:

your comment in conversation with the interlocutor or the answer to a specific question has to be at all not asked about about what there is a conversation or on what you.

Example:
Speech of the annoying interlocutor: “… As I was got by my neighbor. It is horror simply … yes it … and it … and from where such silly people undertake?“

the Answer or a remark in pauses: “One wisdom remains invariable, passing the millennia, on an equal basis with the Egyptian petroglyphic patterns. I consider that they are ingenious, and you?“

Option second:

your answer has to be verbose

, and the more words, the it is less than sense.

Example:
Speech of the annoying interlocutor: “… As I was got by my neighbor. It is horror simply … yes it … and it … and from where such silly people undertake?“

the Answer or a remark in pauses: “It is possible how many speak, allowing to understanding not understood by others, for certain you know, so to speak, how to arrive, occupying consciousness with the solution of the matter. Of course, keeping in an arsenal of excerpt from books of the famous philosophers, it is possible to challenge everything told if there are no other options in aspect of the solution of the matter. And here for certain you will remain, are right, but whether it will be also silly, here in what a question“.

Option third:

Let your answer will look difficult, and nothing if in it there is nothing wise, the main thing - smoothly to transfer the answer to a question, and as a question - a koan.

A koan - the task and motivation to its decision, but it has no chance of success in classical option of consciousness. The interlocutor is fond of the solution of a koan, as a result begins to carry on internal dialogue from what he becomes silent.

Example:
Speech of the annoying interlocutor: “… As I was got by my neighbor. It is horror simply … yes it … and it … and from where such silly people undertake?“

the Answer or a remark in pauses: “To something always conducts something. Agree that everything in our life - only a banal consequence, but to understand a consequence of what it is, it is necessary to know what is now. Here I clapped as you think what sound was made by one palm.?“ by

Choose questions proceeding from what your interlocutor and that can interest him more. Koans set, essence one. Do not forget that all your answers have to sound surely and firmly, having answered three - four times to any of the above ways, you stop dialogue.

Telephone conversation! In this case, that at the person the desire to talk to you and to distract you disappeared, you need to replace only the intonation and a manner of conversation. It is necessary to become the complete antithesis to the interlocutor. That is if the person is vigorous, in good mood on a positive wishes to chat with you, then you begin to talk it is inertly, reluctantly, stretched - and in a minute another he will stop dialogue. And vice versa!

Successful communication!