Shopogolizm: what stage at you?
What is a shopogolizm? It is first of all dependence, to be exact chronic persuasive aspiration to do unnecessary purchases in uncontrollable quantities, without thinking neither of need for them, nor of consequences. As well as any other dependence, a shopogolizm has the stages of development.
developments of an oniomaniya (or a shopogolizm) can call the initial stage the first unexpected, senseless purchase. The person allows to be splashed out to the impulsive desires, process of acquisition gives sense of superiority, the authorities over an environment, the possession of some thing causes feeling of satisfaction - all this gives it a state of intoxication and delivers the mass of pleasure. Buying, he can feel and negative feelings - irritation, boredom, hostility - in that case dependence, most likely, is not formed.
In case it had a positive reinforcement, and also at individual predisposition to dependence, the second stage - an experimenting stage is started by . In process of passing, the individual preference of what it will get that gives it the greatest pleasure is formed. The person in increasing frequency comes back to test intoxication. He feels contrast between the world of shops and the world real. Internal emptiness is filled with new acquisitions, but over time the effect becomes dull and required to be bought more and more, as if to reach everything new tops. There is no individual mental dependence per se yet, purchases are made seldom. In some cases it is possible to speak about group mental dependence when purchases can “automatically“ be made in group, in process of its collecting or with someone for the company.
The third stage is characterized by an obsesivny inclination to purchases, the person often dreams of shopping, anticipates as he will buy something. Financial problems begin, people around notice it, but do not attach them significance yet. Long breaks lead to mental discomfort, depression, alarm with a sharp aggravation of an inclination to purchases. Often they can be made after any, even the most insignificant, a stress.
At fourth stage purchases are made at the slightest pretext, criticality to acquisition is lost. Tolerance grows, to buy to have more and more to reach the same effect, as earlier. Involvement in dependence of other people for the purpose of joint shopping and discussion of purchases is possible. Financial problems get a critical form, there are problems with people around, but dependent they are not denied.
The fifth stage is characterized by constant sense of guilt. Any purchase, both necessary, and unnecessary, is followed by sense of guilt. Thoughts of them spoil mood. Dependence is realized, the person tries to constrain himself, but periodically breaks. During failure the sums several times exceeding the previous expenses can be spent. It is not possible to satisfy debts.
Certainly, this dependence is dangerous, but, as well as any other, at desire, it can be overcome. From at what stage you are, efficiency of treatment depends. Do not allow purchases to own you, they have to help to achieve your dream. Goods - only means for maintenance in us of life that to us it was warm, dry and comfortable that we were full and did not thirst. It serves for the achievement something more interesting giving us it is even more pleasure. The small, short-term pleasure from commission of purchase is insignificant in comparison with huge pleasure from achievement of the true purpose.